Pregnant IQ

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

When two strips on the test or ultrasound showed that someone has settled in your tummy, tune in for the best and worry and think less. This universal advice for expectant mothers is given by almost all mothers' and children's magazines, doctors in clinics and work colleagues.

Some mothers take this instruction literally and stop thinking altogether. Believe me, this is not the best time for this, although nature whispers: dumber, dumber, dumber. What can you do if the very hemisphere that is responsible for logic and abstract thinking, thanks to which you once passed a higher grade or mathematical logic as "excellent", for some reason withers and works intermittently … It doesn't matter. You really need to relax. Let the husband think, and if there is no husband, then a friend or mother. Well, some kind of girlfriend, after all.

However, there is one question that you still have to decide at last: how to communicate or handle the baby after giving birth? Whether to adhere to the system or live as it turns out, that is, as advised by my mother, Dr. Spock and Aunt Masha from the second floor. Hmmm … You will have a difficult choice here. Let's take a bird's eye view of the existing pedagogical schools and highlight the trends in caring for newborns.

First. Traditional, pediatric approach.

You can meet him in the classic book of Studenikin, and the district pediatrician (not always, fortunately) will tell you how, when, what to iron, in what sequence to wash, boil, how many times to feed the room, vacuum the child (oh, it seems confused again), in what position to put someone to bed.

The essence of this approach is that a woman is an imperfect creature, infinitely stupid, incapable of thought, and very contagious. Therefore, she needs to explain everything intelligibly - it is better to give instructions that can be followed clearly and consistently. And most importantly, the child should grow up clean: no guests under 3 years old, no germs, no trips outside the climatic zone, and it is better not to leave the house at all, except to visit a pediatrician and walk. The peculiarity of the approach in the mechanical relation to the child, as to a biological being, which has several basic needs. And mom, in order to satisfy them completely and efficiently, must descend to the level of a washing machine, iron and incubator. Your baby will be infinitely clean, ironed, nourished and dry. With health - that's how lucky. Because, and vice versa, it happens from the princes in the mud … you can catch an infection.

The magic words of this newborn care system are: regimen and procedures. Breastfeeding by the hour and pumping, rigid swaddling, bathing the child strictly at a temperature of 36 degrees - complex rituals in which you, without half a liter and the help of a doctor-uncle (usually it is uncles who know better about children), you cannot cope with. However, WHO materials prove that pediatrics is the most difficult science from the point of view of truth. Simply put: there are no hard and fast truths in the science of childcare. There is a live experience when some remedy (tight swaddling, for example) helped someone. Without going too deeply into epistemological disputes, I can give one piece of advice: it is very difficult to look after a child with such serious books, especially after childbirth, when you are surprised, illuminated and enthusiastic. You can ruin your whole thrill, and lose the thin thread of understanding with your baby …

And here "ecologists" come to the rescue (Nikitin, Charkovsky). Not parents for a child, but parents and a child. This is the basic relationship model. These terrible people, real hippies, believe that the child is also a human being, and many, many times more human than you and I put together … A new inhabitant of the earth needs attention, not outpatient supervision. He is not afraid of germs and the cold, he likes to go to the bathhouse, swim in the ice hole, takes his breast (and he only eats breast milk - his mother's milk) whenever and wherever he wants, and usually moves around the apartment naked. According to parents who have heroically endured upbringing, their children hold their heads faster, learn to walk, speak, think, swim, etc. True, in order to achieve such results, you have to twist them a little "in the sun", wear them "in a frog" (a wonderful posture for the departure of gaziks), pierce them in the bathtub and in the ice-hole, douse them with cold water, abandon vaccinations. At the gatherings of such parents, the kids run around dirty, cheerful, healthy, strong and, tugging at the floor of their clothes, they persistently whine "mom, well, mom" … True, when mom or dad are distracted from work, personal life and some kind of training, then the child gets all the attention and support it needs.

The paradigm of "ecologists" - the child must learn the world himself, in the sense of overcoming difficulties and various life vicissitudes. His immunity must be maintained. And this is very helpful physiological stress, which we usually face in the bath, jumping into a cold pool.

Waldorf pedagogy believes that things around a child should be made of natural materials, clothes natural and simple, and toys made of wood and clay. TV, computer, music center are among the forbidden achievements of civilization. The simpler, the closer to nature. Children live, however, not in burrows, but in ordinary apartments. The question arises: how to live in harmony with nature in a metropolis, if music flows from all sides, children get sick with Teletubbies, and you have to take the subway to school? But the late Steiner is silent on this question as a real intelligence officer.

These approaches - rigorous pediatric and eco-friendly - are of course extreme. All the others are located between them. Therefore, when signing up for the next ultrasound scan, figure out how you will educate your child with benefit and pleasure.

To be continued…