Yes, sweetheart? - Of course expensive

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Once, on Friday, when the weather was amazing, almost summer, Olya was returning from lunch to work. The mood was wonderful, and she was blissfully planning the weekend, for which the concert tickets were already in store. Her path ran past many shops, and, thinking, Olya looked at the windows. Her trained gaze could not fail to note a wonderful blouse on a slender mannequin.

The blouse, not only was exactly the figure, seductively highlighted the chest, but also ideally matched the trousers that Olya planned to wear to the concert! How can you resist? And, scraping out the last trifle from all the pockets and figuring out how much she would have to go on a diet without meals, Olya hurried to the checkout. What happened next? Then there was a long and tedious lecture about the benefits of economy and mathematics, about selfishness and the rules of life with other people … Naturally, from the lips of my husband.

Familiar situation?

I will tell you how to avoid this with minimal losses.

As you know, the weather in the family depends entirely on the woman. A man usually does not care much about the color of the curtains in the room and what brand of lipstick his wife has. For a man, the most important thing is that everything is calm in the house, as in Baghdad.

So that nothing causes internal tension. Much more for men than for women, home is the beginning of everything. A man definitely needs to feel confident behind his back. To know that if something happens, he will always have dinner, a smiling wife and a cozy armchair. And least of all he wants to see burnt oatmeal and an aggressive spouse, who does not give not just a seat, but even a word to say. Such are the men, they cannot be altered.

Here is what my beloved Heinlein says in one of his books: “Mom explained to me that logic has nothing to do with the art of making a husband happy and that the one who won the“victory”in a family dispute was actually defeated. did not argue, and dad always did as she wanted - if she really wanted it."

Yes, the method is simple and complex at the same time. After all, you often have to go against your own, often too loud, "I". But you just need to decide for yourself the question of which is more important - family or independence. After all, you can endlessly talk about the importance of this "female self" of ours, but time has proven that, in practice, it is simply incompatible with family well-being, because it often deprives a man of that most precious sense of peace, which I mentioned above. Unless you love men weaker than yourself, mama's sons who cannot live without constant care and valuable guidance.

And now - attention! I do not urge you to agree for the sake of appearance, but to do everything your own way. I call for simple cooperation and mutual understanding between two loving people, on which harmonious family relationships are built. And what is the most important thing in family life? Caring for each other, about the feelings of a loved one and the interests of the family as a whole. Without arguing, showing the importance of your beloved for you, asking his opinion (after all, after both of you answered "yes", everything from a sewing needle or get-togethers with a girlfriend to more serious things concerns you two), you are superfluous once you show your love and confirm that you are the best woman in the world.

In addition, this method does not prevent you from being an inveterate feminist, constantly fighting for women's rights, trampled by alien representatives of the male part of the population. Among friends and colleagues. But next to your beloved, if, of course, you value him, you should always remain a domestic cat.

Build your conversation with your husband something like this:

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Even if at this moment your beloved is very busy, he cannot help but devote a couple of minutes to you. If you feel that he, after all, has no time, that he is tense, call back a little later. It is we women who can solve a dozen problems at the same time. Men, unfortunately, are not capable of this. Always remember this! Otherwise, you risk getting a harsh refusal, not because your loved one really disagrees, but because he simply did not understand what exactly the essence of the question is.

But let's say your faithful is free.

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(Briefly describe her merits, emphasizing those that should especially please your beloved). I understand that we have a tense financial situation, but I really don't want to miss such a chance.

- (As you understand, "dear" is a relative concept. In the sense that instead of this word you can use any affectionate nickname that you usually call each other). (And then give an approximate plan of how you can get out by buying a blouse. For example, "Natasha promised to borrow", "I won't eat chocolates for a whole month" …)

So you will once again make it clear that you rely on his experience in everything, his opinion is very important to you, and you want to find, with his help, the optimal solution to the problem. And your sweetheart will not be able to take and just refuse you. In the worst case, he will promise to buy you two blouses after your paycheck. At best, reluctantly, he will agree, taking from you the same promise not to eat chocolates.

If your faithful nevertheless accepts the idea "with hostility", in no case should you put him in front of a fact in the evening. Get a hold of yourself. All is not yet lost. Many men cannot make decisions with lightning speed, in the "alert" mode. Otherwise, there would be much more generals than privates.

Perhaps your loved one needs time to realize your request and to figure out the options for himself. Come back to this question in the evening, and it is quite possible that in the morning you will go shopping together.

One of the essential points in a marital relationship is the ability to avoid actions that give offense and grief in every possible way. Is it really so important to always defend your views, giving up the opportunity to experience the joy of mutual understanding and the richness of relationships? In order to avoid quarrels, try to constantly find out what causes negative emotions in your spouse. To do this, you need to understand his ideas, thoughts, tastes, experiences. Strive to bestow joy without waiting for another to ask for it. Be patient, learn to forget grievances. In family life, there are times when hurtful words and unfounded claims are pronounced in a stormy conversation. In order not to overshadow the relationship in vain, remember that the spouse who offended you regrets what happened. Wise couples know that forgiveness, the ability to forget, evokes the respect and gratitude of the other. Conversely, the constant reminder of resentment is annoying and conducive to alienation.

Guided by these tips, do this not only in a controversial situation, but in general for any reason (after all, you will not lose it, and your loved one is so pleased!). And be sure, your sweetheart will not even look at other women, and the weather in the house will always be clear and sunny!