Harbor of nasty married men

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

“Why are they doing this? Maybe Smug Married people just have no idea how to communicate with individuals? Or maybe they really want to patronize us and make us feel like failures? there is a whole other world "- and they hope to make up for the lack of violent emotions, forcing us to tell the dizzying details of our intimate life?"

This is approximately how the heroine of the famous book Bridget Jones reasoned when she visited her married friend. I think that any unmarried girl over seventeen years old faced this or a similar situation - because if there are no Smug Married friends, there will always be compassionate aunts, uncles, grandmothers, grandfathers, friends of parents and other "well-wishers" who will gladly cause you an inferiority complex simply because you still don't have a ring on your ring finger. And if to the question "why?", God forbid you answer that you are not going to get married at all, an hour-long briefing on the topic "Oh, these young people!" provided for you. “You have always been strange”, “I don’t understand these modern girls” and other remarks in a similar spirit cause irritation and a great desire not to appear at all in the eyes of your own family.

Incredibly, these people really want good, and are not at all going to create you a bunch of psychological problems and cause self-doubt! It's just that quite often those who have lived with a family all their lives (or at least long enough) get the impression that it is impossible and wrong to exist otherwise. You shouldn't go far for an example - my own mother calls any single lifestyle "bohemian" and it's hard for me to imagine the worst curse word in her mouth. An attempt to refer to the fact that many celebrities live and work alone comes across a deep conviction that they are the gods of Olympus - and therefore it is impossible to approach them with poor human standards. They can drink - from this they will not be called alcoholics, they can sleep with a hundred people - they are just looking for the Muse. And the fact that they are convinced bachelors is so difficult to be the wife of a Genius.

More contextual questions: "Why don't you introduce me to your boyfriend? You don't have him?" - the translation is simple: "Either I am so bad, or you are a complete failure", "Why doesn't your so-called boyfriend marry you?" - "Do you have too many flaws?" - the possibility that the girl herself does not want to go down the aisle is simply not considered! Women's magazines are stuffed with topics, "how to drag him down the aisle", "How to keep him?", "How to survive his betrayal?" (who can argue - the topics are relevant and important for many girls), but here are the headlines "how can I get rid of him!", "How to tell him that I cheated on him with an aerobics instructor?" - for some reason it is not observed. One gets the impression that a woman was born solely and exclusively in order to create a family and "stand in the kitchen, barefoot and pregnant," but in fact, everything is far from the case.

Quite recently, I heard the following phrase from my friend: “If twenty years ago, in order to sleep with a girl, you had to promise to marry her, now, if you want to sleep with a girl, you should not say a word about marriage. to say that I never wanted to!.

And this shows that now, indeed, many women prefer freedom and independence in relationships to one single man from sixteen to sixty years old - after all, in order to make a normal choice, you need to consider options.

Naturally, this approach shocks people who grew up in a different culture, for whom freedom is the opportunity to go to a cafe with a school friend on Sunday. And all life is a big competition so that the husband from his mistresses invariably returns home, repentant, with a bouquet of flowers and a bottle of wine.

The desire to get married and start a family as soon as possible was understandable several centuries ago - then a woman at forty was no longer an old woman capable of childbirth, and only a man could earn money in a family. Now, standing at the crossroads, you can count seven to ten beautiful cars in a row, and young-looking fit ladies are sitting at the wheel, one glance at which causes an acute toothache for many men.

One of the authors of the popular film magazine modified the scene in the film "How to Get Rid of a Guy in Ten Days" to show the imperfection of female logic and the inability to argue her position, replacing one of the heroine's humorous replies to the advertising agent of sports equipment with "gave him shoes on head off ". In this there is a desire to discredit a woman, to make her look funny with her ambitions, a lack of faith in her wit. After all, it is much easier to come to terms with the fact that a girl can earn much larger amounts than you yourself. This position sounds something like this: "Yes, you get a lot, but you are ridiculous, and besides, you would never have made a good wife, let alone a good mother." And I advise in such cases to quote Bridget Jones again: "If I have to cook dinner for you, and then go to bed with you - once, not to mention my whole life - I will eat my head!"

Yes, it is indeed more difficult for a woman to endure loneliness than for a man, because from childhood the idea of an ideal family, shopping, beautiful things, that there can be no happiness without a husband has been hammered into her. It is because of this that self-esteem begins to decline in women after twenty - after all, when they achieve something, they contradict all the laws of life that they have formed in school. They are torn between strong muscles and transparent fragility, between higher education and the habit of looking dumber than a man, between images of a sex bitch and a housewife. But you just need to realize that this is a temporary phenomenon, the world is moving forward and already in the children of our generation (and a strong woman can be a wonderful mother, no matter what weak men say about this, who are not able to become full-fledged parents, especially, there are gender and those who are quite capable of considering a woman as a full-fledged equal partner) will have much more self-confidence and opportunities for self-actualization. The fact that you are now alone means only that you are free and can seek your happiness. The main thing is to believe that it is.