In love at will

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

And it's Valentine's Day again. A holiday for all lovers and lovers, young and happy. Once again, the magazines are full of advice on what, where and how best to celebrate this day. And the excitement in souvenir shops resembles New Year's: gifts are bought in kilograms - cute trinkets, funny postcards and scarlet hearts with the familiar but eternal "I love you". And you are sitting at home, full of skepticism about all this hype around Valentine's Day, and secretly wondering why not everything goes so easily and naturally for you.

How not to stay on the sidelines when everyone around is happily "Valentine"? How to find a magic formula for love that can make every day a holiday? And is it possible to fall in love of your own accord?..

The love of a man and a woman - so simple in biology textbooks and so difficult in life - is an eternal theme that arose with the advent of humanity. But with the birth of each new person, a new feeling appears. Each love story is special and unique. Each search for your Ideal is an individual adventure, the successful completion of which promises the possibility of endless joy. From year to year, many women try to understand the laws of falling in love in order to learn how to be happy …

And I decided to try it. Valentine's Day is just around the corner, enthusiasm is in full swing, peace and quiet in your personal life - there are all the conditions for a creative experiment. In case of its successful completion, a romantic celebration awaits me on February 14, and if the result is not so inspiring - a fun bachelorette party in the company of the same "love losers" with stories about the scientific search for the second half and awakening the best feelings in myself. Having determined the period - a week, just like for the creation of the world, I started to act.

Day one - theory

I took the search for a man suitable for falling in love as seriously as possible. That is, I got acquainted with a dozen books on "hunting for men", written in the logic "he runs away - I catch up". Thoughts there were interesting, sometimes even useful. But after reading it, I got the unpleasant impression that I am a product that needs to be sold faster and more expensively. You can, of course, throw out your favorite jeans and a cozy shaggy sweater, put on ten-centimeter heels, and wear them without removing them, emphasizing the slimness of the legs and overall sex appeal. You can even learn to breathe in a conversation about carburetors, memorize all the stars of wrestling by name and throw one leg over the other in time (on your own or on your interlocutor, given the situation). I even read the advice not to eat a salad with a tablespoon from the common dish, which, frankly, I really like to do in the circle of loved ones. But technical seduction - even effective - does not warm the soul of the romantic, whom I wanted to be on the eve of the holiday of lovers.

The wisest advice that can be gleaned from popular science "love" literature is that you should not expect favors from nature. As the character of the famous film said: "Don't be born beautiful, be born active." Psychologists are sure that the true initiator of communication is always a woman who gives certain "signals" for rapprochement. Although outwardly it manifests itself traditionally: the first step is taken by a man. You just need to direct it in the direction you need …

Day two - search

I brushed aside unfamiliar men at once. Of course, you can devote a couple of days to casting fishing rods in different places of male habitation, but, firstly, the probability of accurately hitting a high-quality specimen is not one hundred percent, and secondly, the purity of the experiment is violated, and an article will turn out about places most suitable for acquaintance, which is also often relevant, but has only an indirect relationship to falling in love. It remains to search among the already familiar men. Hmm … The phone book was carefully studied in alphabetical order: Alexander is my ex, Boris is the owner of big ears and a small mind, Vladimir - got married last week, Gregory in general recently began to consult with me which cosmetics are better to use … True, several candidates for a bright feeling, if you try very hard, it was possible to find in a notebook. But it is better if it is a man with whom at least from time to time you have to cross paths somewhere. Everything is suitable here: work, college, close-knit company, interest clubs, etc. Let there be an element of "randomness" of flirting, so that it does not work out like in Knyshev's miniature:

- Lena, will you marry me?

- No.

- And I'm not suggesting, I just ask …

Day three - selection

One could try to fall in love with a "middle peasant" who is not very popular among the female half - then the success of the enterprise would be almost inevitable. But, as they say, the buzz is not the same. Not looking for easy ways, I chose a rather difficult candidate. And it looks good, and everything is in order with intelligence, and there are a lot of women around, and most importantly, a sea of charm. But I am not a bastard either. Formally, we had known each other for a long time, but we rarely saw each other - in a company passionate about a common cause. The relationship was at the "hello - bye" level. I also opted for it because the next collective meeting was just being organized the other day.

Day four - trying to fall in love

I have tried almost every known emotional state. I watched sentimental films about romantic feelings. She even cried over Gone with the Wind when Rhett Butler left Scarlett. I recalled the most touching moments of my biography, in which there was one or another degree of love, and with nostalgia I looked at the photographs that captured these joyful moments. I listened to my favorite music, awakening imagination, and thought about Him. About the character I have chosen, who still lives quietly and does not know about anything. The first tangible effect was given by music. Something romantic woke up in me, and, afraid to lose this feeling, I grabbed a piece of paper and a pen and began to write a letter to the chosen one. There was something of Pushkin's Tatyana in this … At first, the letter came out rather absurd, but towards the end it became quite similar to love revelations. And I almost believed in my own feelings. It seems that things have gone well …

Day five - anticipation

Singing merry songs, I devoted myself half a day. Only to myself. For an hour I took a bath filled to the brim with delicious-smelling foam. Then I decided not to neglect the advice to be different. I went to a good hairdresser, slightly changed my hair color and got a new hairstyle. Slowly applying makeup, rehearsing tomorrow's makeup and feeling like an artist creating a masterpiece. I found my "happy" dark blue dress, in which I broke more than one man's heart, giving me confidence in my own abilities. Skillful "gathering" is a meditative activity that sets you up for the right emotions and directs you to success.

Day six - meeting

In the evening in a big company, something like a corporate party, we met with the "chosen one". Everyone around seemed to me smiling and sunny, which means that I didn’t tune myself in vain.

I don’t know what kind of special “vibes” a woman in love exudes - but that they exist, I am now absolutely sure. I am also sure that the man they are directed at feels these very "vibes" and is drawn into the joint energy field.

I didn’t try to get his attention with intellectual flirtation or skillful demonstration of the wrist. We just chatted merrily about trifles, like old friends. But something was happening between us - it seems that the very spark ran …

“You are so beautiful,” He said, as if accidentally touching my hand. “It’s a pity you’re busy tomorrow night.”

- Busy? - I repeated almost automatically, - no, tomorrow I am free …

Little mischievous devils leaped in his eyes. Wait a second … He just caught me on one of the most ingenuous male tricks. And I fell for him. He thinks he is actively flirting with me! He, not me!.. And I like it, I like it as hell, although a couple of days ago I did not think in his direction …

- Excellent, - He said, - there is a cutest restaurant near my house … at seven is it convenient for you?..

I feel comfortable at seven, eight, and even nine - I feel so in love. So it is still possible?..

Day seven - what if it's love?..

I woke up unexpectedly happy. The feeling I was trying to evoke in myself over the week was definitely born. And now it was developing on its own. I was looking forward to the evening, unable to concentrate on anything for long. I even wanted to start writing poetry …

Maybe Valentine's Day is not the most serious holiday, but it makes our life a little more romantic. And it reminds once again that love always comes to those who are ready to accept it. I hope this is your holiday too …