What is the right way to compliment?

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Compliments are a delicate thing that requires a particularly sober approach, so any spoken word should hit right on target, and never miss. Before releasing a clip of eloquent flattery, it is necessary to thoroughly examine both the target itself and its surroundings. How make compliments correctly, so as not to get into trouble?

The most coveted compliment that will delight any self-respecting woman, as you know, is associated with the "excellent" grade of her external data. Which of us does not consider ourselves beautiful? All earthly creatures of the female sex are sure that they have, at worst, unearthly charm. Doubt, however, captivity, and in order to get rid of it completely, it is necessary to intervene, maybe not frequent, but well-spoken compliments.

Timely praise from people (especially men), whose opinion we value, noticeably improves mood and complexion, transforming right before our eyes. True, as in any other delicate topic, the topic of appearance should be mentioned in a compliment so courteously and so appropriate that for this it is necessary to remember several important points. By neglecting these golden rules, you can achieve the wrong goal, and in general the wrong target.

I'll start with an example

Which proves the first commandment: a compliment must be sincere. It happened a long time ago, almost ten years ago, when I was still in school. I remember that we celebrated March 8 with a light version of the curriculum (4 lessons, 2 of which are "Proceedings"). Our teacher - a kind of lady of Balzac age with a stern expression on her face - explained to us, the little white-handed women, the art of making a seam, which requires special handicraft. On such a day, it was very oppressive for us, besides, fingers that did not possess the skill of handling a sewing needle were constantly getting and there was almost no living space left on them. Tamara Vasilievna calmed another pricked sissy with a mockingly sarcastic: "Darling remembered!"

Our position was saved by young ladies from the senior class who came to congratulate the learned matron on the holiday. From the doorway, each newcomer, picking up the words of the previous ones, uttered with delight: "Tamara Vasilievna, oh, how beautiful you are !!!", "Oh, how beautiful you are, Tamara Vasilievna !!!", "How beautiful you are, Tamara Vasilievna, Oh!!!". Tamara Vasilievna looked really good then: in a weekend outfit, with a haircut, light but festive make-up.

After another change of places of the terms in the minted compliment, the congratulated woman could not stand it, frowned her forehead and eyebrows, almost angrily, but with restraint cut off: "Girls! Don't flatter me so openly! I was not beautiful even when I was young !!!". Then, after a pause (for which the young ladies, dumbfounded with a reproachful tone, managed to drop and return their jaw to their original position), Tamara Vasilievna drove the clouds of anger from her face, with the same ease and incredible speed that she caught up, added in a soft, charmingly playful voice: " But I've always been pretty damn attractive !!! " The saved situation was marked by a fit of laughter and we continued our lesson, keeping this episode in our memory as very instructive.

Lesson number two

An important rule make compliments rightto be used is originality. To say something that no one else has said, or in a way that no one else has done. There was a case when a "compliment" literally almost knocked me off my feet. Once, flying in a stream of hurrying people from one metro line to another, I stopped rooted to the spot after the phrase: "Girl, do you want to submit for the sin of seduction by beauty?" Thinking for a long time what this priest, who was collecting the tax, meant, I tried to find the money hidden in the purse in the bag. When, at last, the fog in my head cleared away and the meaning of what the holy father had said became clear, I came across a necessary purse, the contents of which generously migrated into the box of atonement for sins. I must say that not every day one has to hear such things, and indeed I can hardly ever hear such things.

Third

Speaking sincerely, resourcefully and originally, one should not forget that words should only concern the positive characteristics of a given object, without belittling anyone's merits. For an illustrative example, I will cite a completely fresh case when I managed to forget the main thesis of advertising canons: "Praising your own, do not scold someone else's." Recently, the editorial staff of "Cleo" honored the birthday girl Elena Istomina. The lady that does the main harm to the production always looks impeccable and excellent, but on her holiday she was especially good. How not to compliment! Only the moment has turned out when it is possible to dedicate (we are talking about the connection between the geolocation and the external data of the inhabitants) how Evgenia Gennadievna with the good old truth: "The most beautiful girls in Samara", - with special pleasure she decided to argue. She did it extremely untidy, because instead of the planned: "Not in Samara are the most beautiful", - sculpted: "In Samara, ugly! The most beautiful girls in Kursk!" And after the grateful smile of Mrs. Istomina, she received what she deserved from the fashion editor Victoria Selantieva: "The most beautiful Samara girls have been in Moscow for a long time!"

That's not trivial, I presented one with a lump of sugar, stepping on the other's paw without a second thought.

so

Every pro should be aware of how complimenting correctly. The title of a skillful shooter for cute targets, prettier in front of our eyes from positive assessments of their external data, is assigned only to those who know how to express their emotions:

1) sincerely, 2) non-standard and individually, 3) exclusively unidirectional!

Not infallible Evgeniya Suvorova