The best quotes from the book "How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere"

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

World famous American TV presenter and journalist Larry King was born on November 19. During his career, he has conducted more than fifty thousand interviews with public figures. Who, if not him, knows how to properly structure his speech and interest the interlocutor in conversation - in the personal sphere, during employment or in business negotiations.

King shared his advice in the book How to Talk to Anyone, Anytime, Anywhere. We decided to collect quotes from this book that will help you find out the secret of the author's success.

Talking is like playing golf, driving a car, or running a store: the more you do it, the better it comes out and the more fun it becomes.

It is better to be silent and be suspected of stupidity than to open your mouth and immediately dispel all doubts on this score.

You can also practice to speak well. In addition to studying books - and now videotapes that teach you how to speak - there is a lot you can do on your own. Talk out loud to yourself as you walk around your house or apartment. This is exactly what I do - though, I hasten to add, not too often. I live alone, so sometimes, for no reason at all, I can say out loud a few words or some preparation for an upcoming performance or for one of my programs. There is no need for me to be embarrassed: there is no one around, and no one hears me. You can follow my example even if you do not live alone. To do this, retire in your room, in the basement, or exercise while you are driving. Plus, keeping an eye on how you speak is exercise too.

You can also stand in front of the mirror and talk to your reflection. This technique is well known, especially among people who are preparing for public speaking. However, it is also suitable for everyday communication. In addition, it helps to establish visual contact with the interlocutor, because, looking at your reflection in the mirror, you learn to look the interlocutor in the face.

To become a good interlocutor, in addition to being willing to work on yourself, you need at least two more things: a sincere interest in the personality of the interlocutor and openness.

You cannot succeed in a conversation if the interlocutor thinks that his story does not interest you or you do not respect him.

It is necessary to treat other people's knowledge with respect. Listeners always guess what you think of them. Feeling your respect for themselves, they will listen to you more attentively. Otherwise, no matter what you say, they will ignore it.

We all tend to be nervous, or at least close to such a state, when we speak with someone unfamiliar or during our first public appearance.

The way I've found to overcome embarrassment is to remind yourself of an old adage that the person you are talking to also has one nose and two ears. This phrase, of course, is banal, but, like any banality, it corresponds to reality - that is why it becomes banal.

It clearly shows that we are all people, which means that you should not lose ground just because your interlocutor is a professor with four higher educations, or an astronaut who flew in space at a speed of eighteen thousand miles per hour, or a person chosen the governor of your state.

You should never forget: your interlocutors will get much more pleasure from the conversation if they see that it gives pleasure to you, regardless of whether you consider yourself their equal or not.

The golden rule - do to others the way you want them to do to you - also applies to conversation. If you want the other person to be honest and frank with you, you must be honest and frank with them.

This does not mean that you have to constantly talk about yourself or share personal secrets - quite the opposite. Would you like to hear about liver stones from a neighbor or about a weekend trip to your mother-in-law from a colleague? Most likely not, which means that you should not touch on such topics in the conversation.

And at the same time, you should always be ready to share information about yourself - at least what you wanted to know about the interlocutor. Sharing backgrounds, tastes, and passions is part of any conversation. This is how we get to know other people.

People are extremely fond of being talked to about themselves. Do not think that I was the first to notice this. Benjamin Disraeli, an English novelist, statesman and prime minister, gives the same advice: "Talk to people about themselves and they will listen to you for hours."

Most people who have succeeded in life can speak. Unsurprisingly, the opposite is also true. If you can develop your ability to speak well, and it can be developed, you will succeed. If you think you’re already successful, you can achieve even more if you speak better.

We all sell something. Every working day, you sell yourself, your education and experience - regardless of whether you work as a salesman or someone else. Perhaps you are reading this book because you want to sell yourself at a higher price. When it comes to buying and selling, those who succeed in business follow a few rules. You need to study your products and services well, as well as everything that helps and hinders selling them. The only way to achieve this is by talking to your colleagues and reading any available literature that describes the experiences of others.

Every year I give lectures and speeches many times to people of all levels. My secret to success is that I simply don't think public speaking is fundamentally different from other types of conversation. This is how I share my thoughts with other people.

They say that while traveling, you can expand your horizons, however, if you are curious enough to listen to the people around you, you can replenish your knowledge without leaving the yard.

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