Why am I lonely?

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Love myself! Yesterday Today Tomorrow. I love in all forms - sick, healthy, beautiful, ugly. I love! I wake up every morning and think: "God, how cool I am! How great that I was born this way …" And I live enjoying myself, taking care of myself, nursing and nurturing myself, my beloved. Because I am selfish and proud of it!

Sometimes the question arises: why am i lonely? I look around at people … Few of us are so correct, aimed at ourselves. Most are serving more and more others. And why? Because they don't know how to love. You ask any psychologist, and he will answer you: it is impossible to love another without learning to love yourself. There is Svetka from our department … Everyone feels sorry for her, she is such a good girl, and she has such a difficult fate: she has no money, her husband walks out. And why, they say, is it to her, after all, a man of holy souls. So they say - "little man", as if she is some kind of subhuman! And now look what would have happened if Sveta thought like an egoist … Husband - in figs, I would find another job (with her qualifications to sit on such a humiliating salary!) Or Alena … Also a "little man", only she has her own fad - "already unbearable to get married" is called. She has a stand for every man. An incident came out recently. Alena was instructed to manage the affairs of one company, a large contract was expected. As long as the opposite side was represented by a woman, everything was OK, but then they changed her to a man. So what? Alena perked up, kept telling me what a sweetheart he was and how he smiled sweetly at her. As a result, the contract is overwhelmed (because the conditions that Alena promised contradict not only the interests of our company, but also common sense), the bosses are dissatisfied, and no one married her. You need to love yourself! To love and respect, and in this matter - no compromises.

I looked in the explanatory dictionary:

"An egoist is a person who puts his personal interests above the interests of society and those around him." Right to the point, it's about me. So something, but the needs of others - society, the state - interest me least of all. I am too fragile and small to care about others, especially in the categories of "humanity", "nation". I'm small, you know? I am alone, and taking care of myself is much more effective than globally. After all, if each person thought first of all about themselves, the number of happy people on Earth would long ago increase. And believe me, we would all benefit from this.

It also makes me very funny when they call me selfish, thinking that it should sound offensive. So poisonous: "What are you selfish!" Yeah, she's the one, I put my personal interests above the interests of society and others. And happy! How else? Otherwise, you become a puppet in the hands of the same others and dance to their tune, satisfying their needs. It is unprofitable for them (the same society and others) that you think about yourself. It is much easier if you are part of a controlled mass, in itself predictable and keep within the framework of morality. Because just a little - you can always be pinned down on a sense of guilt, shamed and reoriented into a common channel. For example, tell me: is divorce good or bad? The correct answer is neither one nor the other. For some it is bad, but for others it is the beginning of a new life and getting rid of a traumatic relationship. And from the point of view of society, this is definitely bad. Or, for example, is it bad not to communicate with your parents? Of course. These are your parents, they gave birth to you, and you owe them (this is a generally accepted point of view). And if your own parent (consciously or unconsciously, at the whim of the soul) destroys you, your life, your family? Or does this not happen? Maybe you think that motherhood is a special condition that automatically makes all ordinary women sensitive, kind and fair?

I'm selfish but why am i lonely? I don't like the crowd, I don't want to be like everyone else and have everything like everyone else.

I want to have what I want (and not others, society). I want to sleep with the one I desire, eat what I like, and work where my needs are met, not someone else's. Whatever I do, I try to test myself according to the principle: "How my gut reacts to this." Whether I want to do it or not. And as a result of this, I will be in plus or minus. Of course, no one canceled common sense, there are also compromises with your precious ego, but not big ones, but on trifles.

For example, my darling is lazy to write a report or prepare for an exam, well, she doesn't want to! It is much more pleasant to do some nonsense or just fool around. Then you have to build yourself (sort of like stepping on the throat of your own desires), but in the end I myself benefit from this "construction". In general, I win a lot. At least that I do not need doping from others in the form of public encouragement. I do not need to pervert my nature in order to fit into the norms of society and receive what I have suffered through - "the holy soul of a man". Do you think I have no friends? There is! And there are no whiners or losers among them. On the contrary, they are cheerful, successful people. Do you think I have no beloved men? Again by.

Recently I heard a conversation between two women, when one tried to persuade the other to become less demanding, so, they say, you are so unapproachable, that's why you don't even have a man. Something from the series "keep it simple, and people will be drawn to you." In my opinion, this is another widely publicized lie. If you are "simpler", then, of course, people will reach out to you, but what kind? Those who are "simpler".

Actually

The thesis that successful people who live with a soul not wide open are unhappy is another convenient myth and nothing more. It's like a divorce, remember? Maybe so, or maybe vice versa. You, whatever you are, build an environment similar to yourself, that's all. They are your mirror and there is no reason to blame him if something goes wrong. And sometimes the question still arises: why am i lonely?

Oddly enough, there is no clear rule that you are poor, kind and happy, or rich, evil and unhappy. Everything is much more complicated. But another rule almost always works: living on the same wavelength with losers, you become one of them. If you think about it, the human community itself is neutral, it resembles a multi-apartment high-rise, in each apartment of which life flows according to its own laws. And you always have the right to choose - in which apartment and with whom to live.