The girl is lonely

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Everything in your life seems to be going great! You are a striking, purposeful woman. You have an interesting job, great friends, a couple of fans, etc. What about your personal life? But nothing. "Then, - you think, - I will still have time." But why sometimes your only friend is a pillow, wet with tears? Why are you sometimes unhappy when you are alone with yourself? Where does irritability come from, for no apparent reason?

Why am I young the girl is lonely? But because a worm has settled in your soul. He sharpens you every day more and more. He loves to feed on your love failures and the arranged personal life of your friends. The name of this worm is DISSATISFACTION! Yes, yes … Precisely female dissatisfaction, and precisely in personal life. Have you ever wondered where the "old maids" come from? Let's start from the very beginning.

Once upon a time on the territory of the USSR "there was no sex", which was successfully instilled in you by your mother, grandmother, and other people who "care" about you. By the time you matured and became a full member of society, you were already completely sure that it should be so (graduate from college, make a career … and your personal life? then think if you were surrounded on all sides by boys-bunnies-bells, who did not even think about these "black and dirty deeds". You thought that love is just a joint trip to the circus, theater, library … You never know how "exciting" events can be thought of? Of course, sometimes an echo of the outside world and the changed reality reached you - after all, nobody forbade the TV, and your friends, having matured, have long understood what and how. Many of them have already perfectly arranged their personal lives, but you have too few male acquaintances once or twice, and even they are embarrassed to touch.

And now you begin to remember your reasoning (and your own?) Or those that all your life tried to hammer into your head all sorts of "well-wishers" about: "personal life will follow." But something time flies inexorably, and personal life is not applied, and the prince on a white horse, apparently, got lost (yes, yours, there is also a grandmother who is staggering somewhere) … You would already be glad to change everything, but not everything is so simple - you had to think before. You wonder where the former admirers, whom you previously threw away from the threshold, have gone … And those few men with whom you now communicate will talk about this and that and will scatter to their friends. And none of them even thinks that you are also a woman and you also want affection and tenderness. Why is there a wall of misunderstanding and alienation in response to your timid attempts to create at least some pathetic semblance of a relationship? And because over the years, while you strove with all your might to achieve perfection in one plane, you almost lost everything in another. You have forgotten how to LOVE.

You don't know why all your acquaintances, meeting you, are constantly interested in "how's work?" Yes, because all these years you only thought about her, only talked about her … You were no longer perceived as a woman. Sex that you recently rejected and now want so badly has become unavailable for you. Every night, falling asleep in a cold bed, you hope that you will meet a person who will understand you, love you and truly appreciate you … But why are there only passers-by in your life? Why don't men stay with you for a long time? Why am I young the girl is lonely? And because in your life there is no longer a place for a man … You have been learning to do without them for so long that you did not notice how you used to do everything and decide for yourself.("SAMA" - once such an attractive word now evokes horror … it comes close to the word "ONE") And then you realize that real men love freedom and independence more than anything else, and they also love sex very much, which simply does not fit into your tight schedule, and if it does, it's funny to say, "according to the schedule." Moreover, you will never be able to give them the fullness of sensations - because sensuality was sacrificed to such words as "study", "work", "career", etc. By the way, what am I talking about? What kind of real men are? Real men found real women a long time ago!

And the worm sharpens and sharpens everything. After all, everyone wants sex, even such "busy" and "business" women like you … You are already ready to offer yourself to whomever you please, but the years have passed and no one needs you anymore … You start living the personal life of your friends, you worry with them, you are trying to solve their problems. No one from the outside sees what is inside you. Nobody knows how unhappy you are. Everyone around you is polite and friendly, you have friends, you have girlfriends, but you do not have the most important thing - men. Once a wall has fenced off you from those around you. And even at joint parties, the matter does not go further than light flirting. You would be glad to remove this wall, but it was not there, it has already grown into the ground tightly. And, worst of all, it is felt even by those who do not know you at all. It manifests itself in your behavior, gestures, voice, manner of communication … She is already inside you. And here the terrible, disgusting word "OLD VIRGO" appears.

At first, it was said as a joke by someone you know, then you accidentally hear it at work, among the whispering colleagues. And here again - an empty bed, nights in tears, and a worm that sharpens you from the inside … A month or two and this word is already firmly associated with you, another six months and you yourself have already come to terms with this … Neighbors gossip: "Such a good girl, such smart, beautiful and there were so many fans, but she never got married "(yeah, how good … good, at one time she spoiled more than one man's life), friends reassure - do not worry, everything is still formed (well, well … of course), and you already DO NOT care …

I will not continue. The sad end of the old maidens is known … Only a few percent really find love and harmony at last. And the rest … What about the rest? Rest girls are lonely remain. They sit by a broken trough. And they themselves are to blame for what happened to them … There is one very good proverb: "What they fought for, they ran into it." Yes, however, this article is not for them either - they themselves got involved, let them choose themselves. And I don’t know what to do. I want to appeal to girls whose adult life is just beginning. Do not repeat other people's mistakes … Develop harmoniously. Studying, work is, of course, good, but we must not forget about personal life. Learn to love and be loved. And then the terrible word "old maid" will bypass you.