10 questions to yourself that can change your life

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

In 2017, did you decide to radically change your life? To achieve success in your career, engage in self-education, stop stuffing your head with negativity and become more attractive?

Before taking action, ask yourself a few questions. With their help, you will understand what you really need, and what is just whim and stereotypes imposed by society.

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1. "What can I praise myself for right now?"

In an attempt to improve our lives, we often engage in self-flagellation rather than realizing our strengths. It is not effective. Only by believing in yourself, you can set the right goals and choose the best ways to achieve them. The fact that you blow your potential to smithereens won't get any better. So think right now, what can you praise yourself for? An inspired person is capable of real feats, which cannot be said about someone who is "depressed".

2. "Am I doing what I love?"

The question concerns the professional sphere. Are you really doing what makes you happier, fascinates, helps to develop and improve?

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Or do you go to work just to not be left penniless? Of course, situations are different, but if now everything seems to be fine (there is food in the refrigerator, and there is a roof overhead), but work only depressing and irritating, it's time to think about your true purpose. Perhaps, for complete happiness, you only lack what you love.

3. "Why is it so important to me what they think of me?"

Have you ever wondered how many opportunities you deprive yourself of, being afraid of condemnation from the outside? Thousand. In striving to be good for everyone, you turn out to be bad for yourself.

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Talk to yourself very honestly, find out why you are so worried about what relatives, friends, colleagues, neighbors think? Perhaps everything drags on from childhood: the pursuit of fives, the desire to please and deserve the love of parents. Let the result of the internal dialogue be the realization that the reasons, whatever they may be, are in the past. And you live here and now.

4. "Why do I communicate with those who are unpleasant to me?"

We are not talking about the boss, in communication with whom you have to maintain subordination. We are talking about those friends and girlfriends in whose company you are uncomfortable, but for some reason you voluntarily keep in touch with them. Such "friendship" (rather, addiction) does not make you happier, after meetings you return home emotionally devastated, with a new set of complexes. Think, why do you need this? The answer will help you figure out who you really need, and who only pulls down.

5. "Am I healthy?"

Yes, it's that simple. The question seems trivial, but it is very important. The fact is that health (physical and psychological) is the basis of everything. Our ancestors knew a lot when they said that a healthy mind is in a healthy body.

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Answer yourself honestly, do you really have no health problems or are you just afraid to go to the doctor? If something is still worried about, but you are hoping for "it will pass by itself", we advise you to reconsider your attitude to this issue. A little more self-care - and life will become much easier and more pleasant.

6. "Am I considerate of my surroundings?"

Relatives, loved ones, friends - they are the ones who are there when life throws up another lemon. And let it sound trite, but there is no greater wealth than close people with whom you can share your most intimate.

Answer the question - are you attentive to those around you? Are you sometimes selfish and rude?

Of course, we are all not without sin, but if now you realize that you haven't called your close friend for a very long time, then it's time to find out how she's doing. By giving, you get much more in return.

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7. "What are the consequences of my actions today?"

Everything has a cause, and everything also has an effect. If today you regularly eat fast food rolls and wash them down with cola, do not be surprised at excess weight and health problems in a couple of months.

If now you prefer to look at cats and freaks on the Internet, instead of reading articles and books on self-development, do not pretend that you do not understand why you have not moved up the career ladder for several years. Your habits today make your tomorrow.

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8. "I really can't do that?"

American writer Dan Brown said: “Anything is possible. The impossible just takes more time."

This phrase has spread on social networks, and almost everyone already knows it. They know, but for some reason they do not refer to themselves. In fact, Brown is right: you can do much more than you think. If a dream seems unattainable to you, ask yourself why? The brain will give out hundreds of reasons, but for each of them there will be its own counterargument, and you will be surprised - in fact, you are capable of much more than you think.

9. "Will it make me happier?"

Do you really want to achieve everything you put on your Yearly Goals list? Learn French, take barista courses, lose 10 kg and get married?

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Are these your wishes or advice from mom-girl-friends-colleagues?

Listen to yourself and think about what will happen if this or that wish does not come true. It's OK? Then maybe you should save your strength for something really important? Leave on the list only what you really need, and do not be sprayed on trifles.

10. “Why did it work then, but it doesn’t work now?”

Surely in your life there have already been moments when you managed to pull yourself together and change circumstances for the better. Ask yourself, what then was the catalyst for change? What helped you overcome difficulties and focus on achieving goals? A positive example, and even more so your own, is the best motivator. If you succeeded once, it will work out now.