His dream is threesome: what to do?

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Svetlana met with Mikhail for about six months and considered this relationship ideal: there is always something to talk about, and it is not a shame to show such a handsome man's friends, and the bedroom is never quiet - in general, a dream. However, Michael, apparently, did not think so, and on the eve of his birthday, the young man asked Sveta as a present for a mere trifle: “Honey, let's invite another girl to our bed. All my life I dreamed of having a threesome. Dumbfounded Sveta, expecting to hear anything but this, took her things from Mikhail's apartment a week later.

Lovers of sexual experiments may think that Svetlana is a typical Puritan woman who does not know how to enjoy life. But do not rush to condemn girls who are not ready to share their man with someone else - they have good reasons for that. They are not at all convinced by the arguments of those who, foaming at the mouth, prove: "All men walk to the left, and it would be better for him to do this in my presence than to hide and hide." Women who do not consider threesome sex an acceptable way to diversify the intimate life of a couple are unlikely to be able to understand those who easily relate to the layout of FFM (we are not talking about MFM now - that's another story). That is why it is so difficult to give an answer to the question whether it is bad or good to “think for three”, because each of us has our own truth, and what suits one couple may be condemned in another. However, no matter what point of view you hold, when you hear one day a lover's proposal to call another girl into your bedroom, think carefully before giving an answer. And be prepared for the fact that threesome sex, like any experiment, is a risky undertaking.

Why is threesome sex dangerous?

Disappointing statistics claim: most couples - lovers of threesomes - sooner or later break up. The point is this: even after agreeing in advance that this is just entertainment and nothing more, people in any case remain people who are inherent in a feeling of jealousy. And many of those who see their man caressing another woman then cannot cope with the irritation that has come from nowhere. It is impossible to admit its true reasons: “We discussed everything the day before, and I agreed,” but negative emotions do not disappear anywhere. They manifest themselves in other spheres of life, misunderstandings arise, quarrels appear, as if from scratch, and one day people cannot withstand the intensity of passions and part.

Disappointing statistics say that most couples - lovers of threesomes - sooner or later break up.

Even if the feeling of jealousy did not overwhelm you after the first experiment, it may arise after the second or third, just a small spark is enough to ignite the flame: “You looked at her longer than at me! Did you like her that much? Yes, maybe he really liked her, and he will want her to be the third next time, but you will object - this is another reason for the scandal. In the end, we women will always compare ourselves with other representatives of the fair sex, and God forbid your guest will have a bigger breast or a fifth point more seductive: you can put an end to the pleasure of the process, and the interested look of your beloved man will be another reason to get nervous …

When to refuse

If there is even the slightest doubt as to whether you can even just look (we are not yet talking about participation) at the "oil painting" - your loved one caresses another girl, then you should postpone the realization of his desire for an indefinite period. Believe me, threesome sex "through force" will not bring you pleasure. Rather, on the contrary - the next morning you will feel betrayed, deceived, and your man will seem like an insidious cheater. Even the arguments “you yourself agreed” will not help here.

In addition, it is worth paying attention to exactly how your man talks about his fantasy: if he insists, forces and even threatens to break up, then it is better to immediately pack up your things and leave. A relationship with such a macho is already doomed to failure, so why do you need this goodbye show?

Finally, don't settle for an experiment like this if you don't trust your partner. More than once caught him flirting with other girls and making scandals? Do not even hope that after a threesome sex your man will go crazy and become an exemplary family man. Firstly, it will not go mad and will not become - it will "carry" to the left again and again. And secondly, you will definitely never be able to believe him. In general, you should think about the prospect of a relationship with such a womanizer long before he asks you to "figure it out for three."

When can you agree

The first and foremost condition is mutual desire. In principle, if you yourself are eager to conduct such an experiment, then you probably do not need to read this article - you will still do as you want. Although it is also not worth following momentary impulses, you need to take at least a day or two for reflection and find a reliable partner, not to mention taking care of contraception.

No one can guarantee that after such an experience, the trust will remain the same.

The second condition is that you trust your partner as you trust yourself. No one can guarantee that after such an experience, the trust will remain the same, but at least there are more chances that you will not run away immediately.

And, finally, the third condition - you see no other ways to diversify your sex life. Honestly, the motivation is weak, because it is this innovation that can ruin you, but it still helps someone.

Expert, sexologist, psychotherapist Alexey Vilkov comments:

According to statistics, threesome sex, when a third participant is invited to intimacy, is the most common fantasy of men, but a man does not always realize his secret thoughts. He can often think about it and present seductive scenes, but not everyone will dare to openly offer the desired scenario to his soul mate. More often, the self-voiced proposal is an opportunity to check the partner's attitude to his fantasies and desires, to find out her reaction, and it is not at all necessary to implement them in practice. Having received a negative or positive answer, a man will take note of it, which will be reflected in the intensity and brightness of his fantasies. Alternatively, such a proposal may be a blind, spontaneous step towards overcoming a crisis in a relationship, to heighten feelings, diversity, a new game - but this is just an attempt to get away from problems in a couple, from internal discussion to external stimuli, because mature, harmonious relationships presuppose exclusively a pairing, where any third is superfluous. If someone from the outside appears in bed, then such a relationship either initially has a contractual, non-binding basis without deep feelings and affection, or quickly or slowly, but still collapse.