The illusion of a happy relationship

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Good afternoon. I have a good news for you. The Matrix surrounds us. Even now, in this room. You see her when you look out of the window or read this column. Although in reality there is neither a window nor this column. This world was put before your eyes to obscure the truth …

The relationship between a man and a woman is also the Matrix. An illusion that a couple creates for each other. Are you sure you want to know the whole truth about your chosen one? Which pill would you choose on occasion: red or blue?

The red pill is a symbol of a bold choice. Most people, and you probably also believe that they would accept it, being in Neo's place. True, it is rarely offered. And if they offer it and you give consent, there is no turning back … Today I want to talk about the place of truth and illusion in the relationship between a man and a woman.

You are being deceived. And they often deceive. Often this is done by people close to you, about whom you cannot even think of this. Moreover, you yourself are constantly deceiving these very people. Yes … Such things. For homo sapiens, this is generally in the order of things. According to the results of a study conducted by scientists at Emory University, it turned out that a man on average tells a lie 179 times a day. The woman is about two hundred. If you don't believe it, try to follow yourself for at least a few hours. However, in most cases we are talking about such trifles that you should neither talk nor think about. This deception as natural to us as inhaling and exhaling.

But. About 15-20% deceptions - are quite conscious. Add to this the things you hide. That is, no matter how you lie about them, but you don't advertise them too much. And what you don't talk about. That is, as it were, no crime, and yet. All this, plus, of course, your best feelings, and creates the very Matrix within which your man lives. He reciprocates with you - with his set of illusions.

One of my acquaintances, married and quite happy with her family life, got herself an account on a dating site. Just. Due to the fact that the lady is very sociable. Without any severely punishable plans. Probably, there is nothing particularly bad about it. But should her husband know about it?

Another friend of mine sees her first boyfriend from time to time. Secretly from her husband, of course. In her opinion, he doesn't need to know about it. Only extra nerves, and we just drink coffee.

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The wife of my former colleague (by the way, a wonderful family man) would hardly be happy if she found out on what kind of sites her husband spends a considerable part of his working time. I haven't found out yet. And everything is good with them. I hope it will continue to be the same.

Volume and shape in each pair deceptions very different.

By the way, you have a chance to lie right here in the comments, saying that in your pair deception not at all.

Over time, the lie accumulates, it becomes more and more difficult to cope with the volumes, and the second half consciously or subconsciously has a choice: to find out “how deep the rabbit hole really is” or, after drinking a blue pill of blissful ignorance with a dry martini, stay in the Matrix for some more time … The whole problem lies in this very time. If I feel good now and I am sure that it will always be so, bring me the blue pill. I am not interested in the fact that I may not know something.

Twin brothers studied with me on the course. They walked with terrible force. At the same time, both had permanent girls who also studied with us at the institute. At some regular booze, one well-wisher opened the girls' eyes to the adventures of their young people with a detailed layout: who, with whom, where and when. One of the girls rushed to find out how the story was true. The second said that she believed her boyfriend. The first couple broke up almost immediately. In the second, a second child was recently born.

The relationship between a man and a woman is like a religion for individual use. It doesn't matter if there really is a God or not. The key concept here is "faith." God exists as long as you believe in him. But doubts and half-knowledge are deadly. Reckless observance of the commandments is the road to personal paradise during life.

Maximilian Voloshin has a poem that is so relevant that I want to cite it in full:

Deceive me, but completely, forever, So as not to think why, so as not to remember when, To believe deceit freely, without thoughts, To follow someone at random in the dark.

And not to know who came, who blindfolded, Who leads the labyrinth of unknown halls, Whose breath burns on my cheek

Who squeezes my hand so tightly in my hand.

And waking up, to see only the night and the fog, Deceive and believe in yourself deception, Deceive me, but completely, forever, So as not to think why and not to remember when.

You can live in the Matrix. Especially if you convince yourself that it is reality. If you don't let Morpheus near you on a cannon shot and instead of pills of all colors switch to fresh vegetables.

For a person who will never know what the real reality is, the Matrix is the real reality.

Living in the Matrix is difficult. If you know that this is the Matrix, reality can cover you at any moment. Then there is fear and uncertainty. For the inhabitants of the Matrix, it is like death.

You can live in reality. But for this you need to be always strong. And not to create Matrices for others. Living in reality is more difficult. Neo, accepting Morpheus' proposal and finding himself in the "desert of reality", learns that reality is actually much more terrible than he could imagine.

If you considered your relationship ideal, and then opened your eyes wide to something, was horrified, cried and did not get out of depression for a week, after a while an interesting effect may be observed. You want to go back to the Matrix. Like Cypher, remember? “I know this steak doesn't exist. I know that when I put a piece in my mouth, the Matrix tells my brain that it is juicy and tasty. Do you know what I've learned in nine years? Ignorance is bliss."

I don’t know how I would personally act in Neo’s place. Probably, I would be very wary if a hefty black man in a black raincoat in the dark offered me some pills that promise to expand my consciousness.

And you - choose. Daily. Red and blue. And remember that there is no spoon.

P. S. The opinion of the author of the article may not coincide with the opinion of the author of the article after a while.

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