The first is not the last

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Agree that even if you have long lost count of your fans, current, past and future, the mention of the "first date" can "shake" properly … By "first" I do not mean the very first date in your life (memories of they no longer provoke your Homeric laughter, but rather, cause something touchingly nostalgic).

It will be about the category "first date with the next (oh, my God!) Contender for your priceless hand and heart." How many of them have already been, these "first dates" … And all the same, thinking about the possibility of another "first", you worry and worry: will everything go smoothly? What to wear? How to behave, how to present yourself? What should be avoided, and what, on the contrary, is included in the "must-have program" of first dates? And, by the way, these worries are not groundless: the mass of seemingly promising novels are buried under the categorically failed First Dating …

- Postulate " Meet by clothes … "No one has canceled it yet. And it is this point that we, such responsible and careful, stumble upon most often! And precisely because of the notorious" responsibility ": we are so attentive and picky about trifles, so we strive" not to lose our face " that we risk simply overdoing it! The result is deplorable: "and here she is, elegant", our heroine becomes like a real sponge cake "in terrible roses", … which, "roses", that is, they also press, rub, crush, slide and callous mercilessly in the most unexpected places, since they are dressed for the first time.

The bias of the First Date is romantic. So equipment in this style is highly welcomed! Lightness, airiness, classic and elegance … with a slight sexual bias. And let it be comfortable for you, both physically - (it does not rub anywhere - does not press), and morally - (extreme mini, if it is "not quite yours", it is better to save it for another case).

If you wear on your first date a blouse with a huge neckline, a short skirt, black fishnet tights, tall stilettos, paint your lips and nails ruby red - do not be surprised that a man will try to drag you into bed on the very first evening. Think carefully, is this included in your plans?

- Date place - also a topic for excitement. And here the initiative of a man is preferable (who, by the way, according to etiquette, must pick you up so that you go to the place of the first date accompanied by him). If your chosen one has given you the right to decide where you go, choose a DECENT restaurant! And don't let the possible high expenses of your companion bother you! (By the way, all the same rules of etiquette say that these should be HIS expenses. But in order not to worry too much about how this date will turn out, you better have a certain, rather large amount of money "for every fireman").

Be careful when choosing your dishes: spicy and spicy can provoke excessive thirst, and running to the toilet every fifteen minutes … well, you know. In addition, such dishes often include onions - garlic … But God forbid you order a salad and a glass of mineral water! First, it has long been known that a girl who demonstrates her draconian diets is asexual. And, secondly: "I was terribly disappointed when, after all my efforts in choosing a restaurant and worries about the correct choice of collection wine, Masha ordered a green salad and reluctantly poked around in it all evening … Why then, in general, was this chic pub, could easily sit in an ordinary cafe … "(Igor, 34 years old).

If a man ON THE FIRST ROMANTIC DATE proposes split the bill payment equally or is trying to somehow "discuss" this delicate moment, then I would prefer not to meet with him anymore. Despite any arguments about equality and brotherhood. Although, I admit that my position is controversial.

There is also such a moment: many girls do not feel completely comfortable in a situation when a man who has paid for a luxurious dinner in a restaurant does not at all like them, but the burden of his expenses somewhat burdens their conscience … Nonsense! You, too, spent a lot on him: your time, endless kind smiles, cosmetics, in the end! But you never know what - do not try to feel obligated to just something because of some kind of dinner in a restaurant!

- If you are nervous and have a bad idea, how much he likes you, pay attention to the following little things:

1. When he meets you, he immediately turns off his mobile phone. This is a sure sign that, apart from you, he is not interested in anything at the moment.

2. If he asks you about the best vacation in your life, about the most pleasant memory, about his favorite pastime in his free time, he is tuned in to closer communication.

3. He constantly leans towards you, as if inadvertently touches you, touches you with his hand or shoulder? You are clearly not indifferent to him, and he hopes to continue the relationship.

4. Interest, love and admiration - his eyes will tell you best of all. So don't look away!

- Probably the most controversial (and worthy of a separate article) question is whether it is worth deciding for more than a kiss at the entrance, after the first date? Opinions are polar: "Yes, because we are free and adults, and to deny ourselves pleasure if the desire is present, and it is mutually, at least strange!" (Mikhail, 24 years old) and “No, because there are strict, albeit unspoken rules, one of which is“A woman must definitely refuse on the first date, and in the future this refusal will beneficially strengthen her position in the relationship”(Oleg, 31 years old).

It is difficult to advise something here, but if you decide to "spit on conventions", it is better to do it on its territory - it is very convenient to slip away if suddenly something goes wrong. And one more thing: even if the night of love passed very worthily, it is better not to stay overnight with him, but to call a taxi and go home, no matter how much you would like to meet the morning in the arms of this man. (The halo of romance will remain, you are not yet "completely your own." And stale makeup in the morning will be terrible …)

- So, you decided to spend this night with him … Do not expect too much from this night: as a rule, "first sex" with a new man is a kind of equation with many "unknowns", because the partner's reactions to certain ways of love play not known. In order to avoid "moral trauma" like, "I'm doing everything wrong!"

In general, the best emotional mood on a First Date is the Game. Yes, indeed, let your attitude to the First Date be frivolous, light, free … Your "playful" mood will certainly be felt by your man, who, you can be sure, also worries and trembles like an aspen leaf. Relax both! The state of "mutual comfort" is a win-win condition so that the first date does not turn out to be the last.