Modern life and household: how to combine

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Our grandmothers could not even think that someday we would give up in powerlessness and say: “I can't take it anymore. Work, cleaning, washing, cooking, children - all of this is too much. I do not have time for anything. Maybe spit, and to hell with her, with dust?.

However, our grandmothers (at least most of them) did not seek to grab stars from the career sky, which cannot be said about modern women. It is simply vital for us to assert ourselves in work, and then come home and see that everything is in order there too. But is it real?

Do you come home after an eight-hour day at work and look longingly at unwashed dishes and a pile of dirty linen? You should not think that you are a careless hostess: in modern conditions, when a woman works no less than a man, it would be surprising if she would be pleased with the prospect of arranging an evening cleaning while the faithful stretches out on the couch.

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That is why some of the fair sex prefer not to run a household at all, giving such an opportunity to people who receive money for it. Others solve the problem on their own and at no extra cost, but at the same time they do not look like driven horses and feel quite happy. So what are the options?

Hire an assistant

Contrary to popular belief, today it is not only the rich who can afford domestic helpers.

In Europe, for example, this is a common thing: once a week, people invite a housekeeper who cleans their apartment to shine.

Yes, and in our country, the stereotype that has been forming for decades is slowly beginning to collapse: a woman must pull everything on herself - cooking, cleaning, successful (!) Work, and raising children.

A housewife is hard work, and all work should be paid for. That is why leave the care of the order in your home to the person who receives money for it. Just choose an assistant very carefully, after all, you let him into the holy of holies, and you would not want one day to miss a pair of earrings or half a bottle of your favorite expensive perfume. And one more thing - stop feeling guilty about entrusting your responsibilities to someone else. In the end, your husband is much more pleased to see a beautiful, contented spouse, and not a driven horse, which, after working with unhappy eyes, grabs a rag and snaps at the question: "How was your day, darling?"

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Meet FlyLady

The creator of this American system, Marla Scilly, claims: with her help, any woman will be able to keep her house clean and at the same time be able to enjoy life without rags, brooms and detergents. The followers of the Russian-style system are called reactive hostesses and lady bees.

The main idea of FlyLady is that even a business woman, who is at home only an hour in the morning and several in the evening, is able to keep him in order.

One of the principles of the system says: “Your house didn't get dirty overnight, and it won't get clean overnight. Small steps will lead you to the desired result". Marla suggests giving up idealism and not asking too much of yourself. In her opinion, any work should be enjoyable, and cleaning is no exception. In addition, the author of FlyLady advises to approach maintaining order in the house like a daily visit to the gym: it is not rare, but intense workouts that are important here, but regular exercises. Interestingly, the name FlyLady is interpreted differently by the followers of the system: someone claims that the word comes from the English "fly", that is, "fly" ("winged housewife"), while others say that "FLY" is an abbreviation, and it means “finally loving yourself”.

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Share the responsibilities

If it is not possible to hire an assistant, you do not want to bother learning the new FlyLady system, and dissatisfaction with the chaos in the house only grows, you will have to resort to the help of your household. After all, they also live in this apartment, so why should you only keep order in every corner of the common dwelling?

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Assign your husband to throw out the trash and wash the dishes after dinner (not just today, but every night), and the children to sort out the rubble in their room every Saturday. Let everyone be in business.

It seems that such unloading will not significantly affect the number of your cases? Nothing like this. Just remember how much strength (both physical and moral) takes away sleepy standing near the sink when you fall off your feet. Believe me, very soon you will appreciate the help of your spouse, let her be limited only to washing the dishes after dinner. You can devote this time to yourself: women simply need to think only about their health and beauty at least sometimes, otherwise they would not be women.

Whichever of these options you choose, remember that the realities of modern life work both against and for you. Forcing women to work harder and harder, they also give us washing machines and dishwashers, as well as multicooker and various kitchen electric grinders. Do not neglect modern developments, you are a "woman, not a dishwasher."