How to nudge him into a serious relationship: 8 tips

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

It's a big mistake to think that if a guy thinks you're cute, you're on your way to a serious relationship. No matter how it is! If he's impressed with your looks, it's more likely that you and him are on the right track … to an easy flirtation followed by a stormy night together without obligation. The man to whom you show attention will, of course, rush into battle in order to quickly take possession of the prey. And you will have another wonderful evening with a passionate night. That's all. And, as a rule, no serious intentions on his part.

A reasonable question: what does the right first step to a serious relationship look like? You need to settle in his head. Make him think about you. Constantly. To make him admire you, be intrigued, try to figure you out! This may happen before or after the first flirting, or flirting may not be needed at all. Physical attractiveness in this matter is not the main thing, although, of course, you should not discount it.

Before moving on to practice, that is, dating, it is worth assimilating the main points of the theory. While some of these tips may seem controversial, they definitely work.

1. Be self-sufficient

If you are suffering now and think that if you had a boyfriend, life would be completely different, then you have to do something about it. There are always very few people willing to pull depressed people out of their swamps, but everyone instantly flocks to bask in the radiance of a happy person. If you truly enjoy your life without a man, it will be very easy for you to find a loved one. Remember: you don't need a guy to “complement you” or make you happy, and he can't do it. You are perfectly capable of enjoying life right now and today, regardless of whether you have someone. Make your life interesting and be grateful for what you have. It's great, of course, when you have a loved one, but to be happy, it is enough to be happy, and that's it!

2. Exude confidence

No one can consider you beautiful and amazing if you do not think so yourself. What is your self-esteem? Do you think that your company is a gift for a man, or are you afraid that everyone is bored next to you? Don't forget that you are the hero's reward! And not at all for everyone, it is completely normal that all men in a row do not like you. Your main task is to be confident in yourself and your charm! If you cannot believe that you are really a tidbit, work on yourself, in the end!

Take action! What do you dislike about yourself? Fix it! Talk to someone who can help, don't sit back!

3. Be elegant

A couple of years ago, one of the famous glossy magazines conducted a survey about which image of a girl is most attractive to young men. It turned out that 67 percent of guys find attractive ordinary "earthly" girls who live, for example, in the neighborhood, and only 12 percent of respondents like vamp women oozing sexy, "sex bombs". What conclusions can be drawn from this? Beauty is in naturalness. It's time to stop trying to tease men with provocative clothes and bright makeup. The only thing you get with this is erections. Not love. If you are the owner of a good figure, do not succumb to the temptation to show off all the charms overnight. No need to go to extremes and wear worn sweaters, just be a little more elegant in your choice of clothes.

4. Since you are not a couple, then you are free

It may sound somewhat mercantile, but dating is a kind of shopping, where everyone "assesses the price" or "shows the product with his face." By the way, men are always more active regulars of such shopping. Girls can be shocked by the idea that you can go on dates with two or three guys in the same period of time, but men do not think the same idea about women at all.

Therefore, while no obligations have been stipulated, everyone is free to dispose of themselves at their own will. As the song says: "We choose - we are chosen."

5. There must be some kind of mystery in a woman …

Some psychologists advise girls to remain a "mystery" for a man as long as possible: in their opinion, you should not open up to him one hundred percent, even if you have already become a husband and wife. In a stable love relationship, there is almost never equality: rather, there is someone who loves and someone who is loved. The one who cares and the one who is cared for. Don't take on the overwhelming burden of caring for your boyfriend (and prospective husband). And do not open your soul wide open to him right away: guys sometimes get scared of such openness. It is better to keep your experiences to yourself or share with close friends: their emotions are more similar to yours, they will definitely understand. Men like to “figure out” women, to try to understand what the other half is feeling. Don't deprive your man of this opportunity.

6. The old rule still works

The strongest love relationships arise between soul mates. Sex is not an assistant here, but rather the opposite. You need to go through mutual sympathy to friendship, from friendship to love and, ultimately, to sex. Postpone sex as long as possible until both of you get to know each other better. This is the case when the sum changes from the permutation of the terms: sex in the first days of acquaintance can complicate the process of the emergence of friendship or even put an end to further relationships.

And in general: guys appreciate the long thorny path to victory!

7. Do not make scenes for him, you are not even a couple yet

Do not vent your resentment on a guy if he, in your opinion, hesitates and cannot make a decision about your place in his life. John Gray in the book "Men are from Mars, Women are from Venus" compares guys to rubber bands: they can step back for a while, so that later they can "fly" into a woman's life with renewed vigor. If he needs some time to think, give him that time. If it appears - well, meet it calmly, without pretensions and reproaches. If it does not make itself felt for more than three days, just continue to live your normal life, do not cling to it and do not attack with calls. Because by doing this you only block his path to return. If you emotionally demand from him to be there, he will not return: he will know what awaits him: accusations, tears, misunderstanding. Men hate dramas. The only possible way for reconciliation is long conversations to sort out your feelings and desires. Keep calm.

8. Look for the positive in everything

Do you have anyone now?

	I'm married.
	I have a boyfriend.
	I go on dates before I decide.
	I enjoy being alone.
	I'm lonely and I don't know what to do about it.

"Here's another, open secret!" - you think. And you will be right: how many times it has been trumpeted and written about, but everything turns out to be small: because everyone knows this secret, but only a few use it. The rest continue to sigh and complain about their fate, allegedly unable to change it, although the recipe is known: be positive! If you treat yourself badly and you have low self-esteem, then those around you will also react to you. If you think you are worthy of love, you will find it sooner or … no, not too late: just in time.

Don't stay at home, communicate actively, meet as many interesting people as possible. And believe in yourself.