I am always, everywhere and all by myself

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Oh, these customs, new trends, modern stereotypes, fashionable perspectives. When else was a woman so unbridledly free? In rights, in choice, in connections …

No, I certainly don't mind! I myself do not like gender discrimination. Only often does this freedom roll into absolute anarchy, leading to undesirable consequences for the liberated themselves. It is necessary to get out of patriarchal female slavery not with a jerk, so as not to choke on a breath of freedom, but slowly, and in small steps, knowing when to stop. After all, complete independence can turn you into a slave no worse than before. Compromises are most important. We go overboard so often that we don't know exactly which end we need.

But it's not so easy to wear a proud title -"

In any case, listening to pictures of a happy "single" or married life from the lips of their owners is like watching people wash clean clothes. Not a particularly interesting sight. And as the classic wrote: "Everything that is interesting is not quite decent!" It is clear that it is not decent to wash dirty linen in society. But still, the picture will not be complete, and one side of the coin will remain hidden if the light illuminates only the most attractive part or fate of a particular personal life.

Today we are discussing the topic of prolonged loneliness, when the choice is made in favor of the motto: "I myself!" The credo for life is not simple, because, focusing only on her own strengths and trying on the position of an independent person, a young lady should know that from then on she will have to fulfill all the responsibilities distributed between the sexes. Usually, after trials of this kind and bitter experience, the very tempering appears, which can then scare away any man who is strong in spirit and body. A lady who lives alone, every day is forced to practice situations where courage and courage are needed. In the end, catching myself thinking that ITSELF can do everything, and a man will be useful to her on the farm, like an umbrella to a fish.

The main plus of long-term emancipation is the constant take-off of a career. This rate, which is capable of giving a lot to a woman dreaming of self-realization, but it also takes so much time and effort that personal life is not just not "in time", but remains banned. By the way, in order to be noticed as a promising business woman during testing in a decent company, it is necessary to put work in the foreground in the graph of preferences, without even mentioning the dreams of a strong family life. Then there will be a chance for higher levels of professional growth. Having made such a bet, you will be able to add the number of educations, qualifications, the number of foreign languages, but you will hardly have time to remember the simple joys dear to a woman's heart. The usual diagnosis of such hectic years of career achievement is an extremely narrow circle of acquaintances and friends, as well as stress, depression, and overload. In moments of "realizing" your own loneliness (after meeting with a school friend surrounded by adorable kids), it is not easy to run away from the thought that the course of life is not the one that can bring true happiness. And if such thoughts come in a herd of cockroaches, regularly and with an enviable frequency (and there are no relatives at the dichlorophos-producing factory!), The state of mind can generally become tragic. Usually it seems that a free young lady simply has to be easy-going and her best friends are impromptu and experiments. More often the opposite is true, and it turns out that the chain of landmarks of a married lady is much more varied than the notorious "work-home-work".

Once I heard from my friend in a moping mood: "My prudent adherence to all the once-built reasonable arguments in favor of independence is simply unreasonable !!!" The next day, she shone as always, and to the question: "How are you?", Answered: "Best of all!". Well, even married women sometimes wearily admit that they would have abandoned everyone and everything, escaping to a desert island. The only difference is that independence is another myth that does not stand up to scrutiny. And simulated invulnerability, platinum protection are only masks in the game, which can become a habit. The habit of being alone. And like any unhealthy one, it won't be easy to get rid of. It is clear that, ideally, any woman dreams of a harmonious combination of career and family, no matter how many percent of emancipation is in her blood. Only this is a very precarious balance and, as usual, only theoretical. When my psychologist friend tested me on the topic of what you choose: an internship abroad or the proposal of a beloved man, I did not hesitate to answer that "love" is more important. In the meantime, the alluring lights are not burning on the horizon, the motto: "I am always, everywhere and all by myself" is slowly becoming a habit for me. Perhaps, that not only me, Tatyana Zemlyakova will agree:

I'll ruin a blank sheet of paper

All that has accumulated - I will write.

Let it not rhyme - I am not for the sake of fame

I need to know that I am still breathing.

It doesn't matter what's going on in the world

I should understand myself

One in a two-room apartment -

One is contrary to her fate.

I don't want to put up with my fate

I do not like him, the veil does not suit me

I want to achieve everything myself

What a merit that the wife …

I'll ruin a blank sheet of paper

All that is painful I will write.

And even if not in rhyme - I'm not for the sake of glory.

It is important for me to know that I am still breathing …