The Science of Passion, or the Rules of Seduction

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The Science of Passion, or the Rules of Seduction

Have you thought at least once in your life what it is like: you are walking down the street, like Monica Bellucci in the Dolce and Gabanna commercial, and there are more and more men around you, they are delighted to fall at your feet and themselves stacked in neat stacks? I've been thinking. More often than not, I thought it would be nice to feel this on myself at least once. Well, I also thought that for this, in addition to a stunning appearance, I probably needed some other secret ingredient, like in a witch's potion. Well, maybe a perfume with pheromones or is there a secret knowledge of male psychology? And then I met a girl whose profession is called "seduction coach." She teaches young ladies at trainings on a women's pickup how to conquer any man she likes. Only girls work in my home editorial office (Doctor Travel magazine - ed.). And, of course, everyone immediately became interested: how is it - to fall in love with whoever you want? And they sent me to the courses. And I went to the training.

An ordinary evening in one of the large Moscow shopping centers: many people wandering around the shops, couples sitting in a cafe. I am also sitting at one of the tables - in the company of Inna and Alexey, two seduction coaches. By the way, this is what they officially call themselves when they introduce themselves, because they conduct pickup trainings for girls.

In addition to the theoretical part with tips on how to attract the attention of a man you like, get to know him, have a casual conversation and make him make an appointment with you, the training also includes practical exercises. And I am at one of them - as an observer. To meet men in a shopping center in order to invite them for a cup of coffee in a cafe, to chat, and after that I cowardly refused to say goodbye. And now I drink my tea and watch how cleverly others do it.

Actually, the very moment of acquaintance for me remains "behind the scenes" - we and the coaches learn about it from the supports - young people accompanying the participants of the training during the practical lesson. The task of the support (from the English support - to accompany) is to act as moral support for the girls, as well as insurance in case of trouble. For young people, this is not a profession, but rather a hobby. In ordinary life, they are lawyers, doctors and managers of various specialties, most of them once graduated from men's pickup courses, and many are already happily married and do not directly engage in the temptation of girls, acting only as consultants.

- Look, what a nice young man, - one of the supports pushes his ward. - Like? Come on, go to him, tell him how you liked his image. Ask if he matched the scarf to the color of his eyes!

It is better to work out pretexts for dating in advance, although there is no large supply of templates - at the training each participant is given a random object (for example, taking it out of a neighbor's bag) and asked to come up with 5 questions about this thing, which can become a reason to start talking with a man. The more unexpected, the better, the coaches say. The most successful pick-ups and pick-up girls are those who are not afraid to be original.

- Girls, remember: a woman says goodbye any nonsense, - tells us Inna, our coach.- Do not be afraid to seem ridiculous: if a man pays attention to you, he himself will be glad to any occasion that you come up with for acquaintance. It is much more difficult for them, men, when they meet women - after all, we are very picky!

What is a pickup truck

The science of pickup (from the English pick up - slang "to take off", "to get acquainted") came to us from the West, and it has been actively used for a long time by men who want to quickly and effectively get acquainted with girls, enter into close relationships with them and, if they want, just as quickly and “bloodlessly” throw them, making more and more new girlfriends. For this, NLP and many other psychotechniques were used. The advantage of this method could be called non-banality: many girls consider such novels to be the brightest in their lives. But the disadvantages are also obvious: who is pleased to realize that you have been “bred” for emotions and sex, in fact, used and abandoned? So after some time our "answer to Chamberlain" appeared: the girls also began to actively study pickup methods. Unlike men, for whom the primary task was intimacy with the lady they liked, the girls put an increase in the number and quality of fans at the forefront, from which they could then choose the most worthy one - for the night or for life. And of course, the ability to manage relationships myself and get what you need from men.

- Men who adopt the basics of a pickup truck first want a lot of sex, then - sex with more "quality" girls, - says our coach Inna Paustovskaya. She came to the pickup after she decided to derive practical benefits from the natural gift: she always managed to successfully interact with the stronger sex. She looks, I confess, very impressive - men in public places curl their necks, looking at her gait from the hip, confident posture and an open smile.

- For girls, sex is not at all the final goal. She needs to attract attention to herself, interest her and then keep it in order to choose one of the many fans. And the main thing is that there should not be any men around, but certain ones, interesting to her, necessary, if you want. Naturally, it is important for a girl to always feel a lot of attention to her person, go on dates and take courtship. And, of course, to manage male attention, his emotions and relationships in general, to be able to direct them in the right direction.

Dating science

Seduction training for women takes a total of 6 days (three Saturdays-Sundays). One weekend - one level. In the first lesson, girls are told how to look in order to please men. The participants are consulted by professionals - a stylist and a make-up artist. The package also includes shopping support: after they tell you in words what style is right for you, how you can change your usual image with a few strokes, you can put all this into practice by going shopping with a stylist. A kind of "Fashionable verdict", only without witnesses and with a guaranteed good effect. To the indignation of feminists, at the forefront - alas and ah! - skirts and high heels are still there. Jewelry (necklaces, earrings, bracelets) are also good - it is very convenient to do so-called CCC with them - hidden sexual signals, which are one of the most reliable ways to attract a man's attention. And of course, a smile is the most powerful female weapon. In addition to the image, practical exercises also include walking skills, the ability to start and conduct a conversation, manage the conversation and attention of a man, make a date and practice the correct behavior on this date.

Irina is the first of the participants to come to the cafe with her boyfriend. Frankly, I'm not surprised: the girl is going to become a pickup coach and with her communication skills she stands out against the general background. Two hours ago, during the theoretical part in the office of "Pickap.ru", I watched her train with a young man from men's courses, who was asked to become a "guinea pig" for girls. The guy was reserved and clearly expected a catch - what do you want from someone who walks into a room with 17 smiling and flirting girls, who, according to the apt remark of one of the coaches, are taught to professionally powder the brains of men? But after 10 minutes, he took an interested pose (for men, these are legs wide apart, smile, gestures) and agreed to drive Irina in his car - in return for her promise to do the same for him. It is very important not to overdo it here: the same "CCC" in inexperienced hands look extremely vulgar. Try to stand in front of a mirror and lick your lips invitingly or shake your hair - you will understand what I mean. But when a trained girl gets down to business, a man may not even understand what exactly hooked him besides her neckline. He will simply watch her like a rabbit at a boa constrictor.

The support quietly escorts Irina to the cafe and approaches our table. Coaches observe how she communicates with a man: if necessary, they will send her a text message with a couple of tips. For example: "More CCC!" Or: "He's not interested yet, close the distance." Sometimes a participant needs help to finish an impromptu date. After all, at the training target girl - to work out the skills of acquaintance and communication, and not to find “the one, the only one”. It is very likely that the man in the mall will not be the one with whom you would like to exchange phones and arrange a real date. In this case, it is worth sending a signal to the coaches, and either a “late friend” in the person of Inna, or a “brother” in the person of coach Alexei or your support will immediately approach you.

Workshop

Tips for girls from pickup coach Inna Paustovskaya:

1. CCC - hidden sexual signals - a powerful weapon, but there are subtleties. Straighten your hair, stroke your wrists, run your finger over bracelets, fiddle with jewelry, touch yourself (run your hand along your neck, décolleté, knees), play with elongated objects - all this must be done slowly! Otherwise, it will be a sign that you are nervous.

2. When communicating with a man, the position of the body in space is very important. Observe the principle of "open" and "closed" poses - while communicating, stand facing him or at least half a turn. If you are sitting in a cafe, and he came up to get acquainted, offer to sit next to him.

3. The most comfortable communication is at arm's length. The elbow distance is already an intimate area. You can shorten the distance, for example, at the movies or asking for help (for example, helping to fasten a necklace).

There are questions that a man shouldn't ask at any stage of dating. In antitop 5, I include such classics of the genre as "What are you thinking about?", "Does this dress make me look fat?" and finally, "Do you really love me?"

Difficulties in translation

It cannot be said that the path of the training participants is strewn with roses alone. Unpleasant moments also happen: for example, a waitress came up to one of the girls who returned with a new young man to the same cafe in half an hour and asked to pay the bill - it turned out that her previous boyfriend left without paying. Note that this girl offered to pay for coffee both for herself and for the gentleman - in cases when you initiate an acquaintance and offer a man to run into a cafe for 15 minutes, you need to be prepared in advance that you will pay. But he refused: he spread his tail in front of a new acquaintance, which did not prevent him from escaping later. Of course, at the same time he did not think that the girl would become aware of his "feat".

- Well, but she immediately understood who she was dealing with, - Inna shrugs, - and now she won't waste time on an inappropriate boyfriend. The problem in this particular case was that the new man who was present during the conversation with the waitress got scared and left immediately, and our participant really liked him.

These are the disadvantages of training with their harsh conditions: you need to bring a man to the one and only cafe in which the coaches are sitting. In ordinary life, you are unlikely to meet a new man every half hour - unless, of course, you dare to become a pro and go to courses.

“Before my eyes, people were changing: many completely revised their wardrobe, everyone had the same light in their eyes that attracts girls without additional action on your part. The timbre of the voice, intonation - everything changed. The non-verbal one became more and more confident (and the non-verbal one cannot be faked - it always comes from your personality). So, everyday, without miracles, without “magic pills”, the guys turned into real seducers,”one of the trainers of“Pickup.ru”writes in his report on the men's pickup-intensive. I can confirm - this is also relevant for girls. Having worked out the most common questions such as: "How to meet the man of your dreams?", "What to talk about on a date and what is not worth talking about?" Should he be dating?”, you will already feel more confident. And the way to the top is through training, training, as in any profession or sport.

Finally, I ask Inna if men should be afraid of pickup trucks as girls are afraid of men, whose pickup truck is becoming a way of life.

- In my experience, meeting such a girl can only be happy, - Inna smiles. - Communication will be easy and pleasant. Most likely, a man will not be pulled down the aisle, because seductresses know how to enjoy life. If the decision on marriage is made, the chosen one by that time will want it very much!

At the exit from the cafe I run into one of the participants - she is walking, chatting merrily with two young people at once. Unbeknownst to them, she winks at me. Yes, I am afraid that now this shopping complex will no longer be a simple point for me to buy new clothes. It turns out that here, unnoticed by the uninitiated, serious passions are boiling and almost spy novels are played out for adults who want to paint their gray everyday life in bright colors and become directors of their lives.