Coping with male addiction

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

The phrase “I love him so much that I cannot live without him” evokes some admiration in us - they say, this is love, this is a feeling. But in fact, there is nothing good in completely not imagining life without a man.

Mutual strong love, when one does not want to see someone else next to him, but only his chosen one, really deserves respect. But the inability to remain alone with oneself is nothing more than a voluntary renunciation of inner freedom. But freedom is necessary for every woman, no matter how strong a relationship she is.

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“He leaves - and I go out, I don't want anything, the world turns gray, everything is meaningless. He comes - and I shine, spin, cook, in general, he is a source of energy and strength for me,”- those women who sincerely think so are wrong.

A man is not a source of strength and energy for them, but a drug, and a rather strong one, capable of driving them into a state of depression, when everything falls out of hand and does not want to live. As a rule, such an attitude towards the chosen one suggests that a woman is not self-sufficient, does not value her “I” and sees herself only next to someone, but not alone. She is too painfully experiencing separation from her beloved, even the shortest, depends on his opinion and mood, does not imagine that it is possible to buy something without consulting a partner, and is very worried if her choice was not approved. All these torments do not make any of the beloved happy.

The man, in the end, realizes that there is too much of her in his life, and loses interest, because he sees that he has already achieved everything he wanted. A woman suffers when, for some reason, she does not receive the much-desired "dose" in the form of his attention, approval, or simply being around.

Of course, it is possible that in your case everything is not so exaggerated, but if you notice that you also want to crawl under the covers, when the relationship with your loved one does not go well, he does not call or goes on a business trip, that is, a reason to think, and not addicted Are you from your man? It may well be that these tips will be useful to you.

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Don't Shift Responsibility

We have said more than once in our articles that most people like to shift responsibility for everything, what do they feel, or for everything that happens to them, on others. So it is easier in your own eyes to remain correct, not to blame for any troubles, they say: "He did not come, because of this I was upset." But the only problem is that you yourself allowed yourself to be upset. Yes, it is possible that the meeting that had been planned was disrupted, he was detained at work, but you didn’t even try to spend the free time in some other way, instead, you preferred to put on the “I'm in sadness” mask and pull the blanket over your head again …

Remember: it is not a man that makes you happy, only you allow him to make you happy.

Don't get too high hopes

If your relationship is at an early stage, and you already feel that the absence of his calls makes you nervously walk back and forth around the apartment, then imagine that this is just a fleeting connection, nothing more. Thoughts that this is love forever, forever and ever (at least from your side), in this situation will not help you to remain calm. Imagine that a crowd of the same fans is waiting for you outside the door, and get down to your business with a cool head. He will call - good, no - well, the world will not turn upside down from this, the end of the world will not come.

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Find what you love

Addiction does not make anyone happy, because as soon as what they want is taken away from a person, he becomes vulnerable and sometimes experiences quite severe suffering. But if you are already addicted to your man, try to find another drug in the form of your favorite business. Immerse yourself in something that will distract you from your thoughts about your partner. Feel how your hobby makes you happy. And you will be surprised that you can sit at a decoupage master class and experience genuine joy, despite the fact that your man is far away.

Communicate

Man is a social being. Well, he cannot sit within four walls and wait every evening for a loved one from work, like the sun in a window. You just need to give your emotions and energy to someone else: friends, relatives, colleagues, even other men, if you don't allow yourself anything more easy flirting. By the way, the latter is a great way to raise self-esteem. Feel desirable, then you will stop literally pulling attention from your chosen one with tongs.

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Give him the opportunity to take the initiative

Women who are addicted to men do everything for them - they call 15 times a day, offer to go to a cafe or a movie, ask about how the day went and, without waiting for a mutual question, talk about themselves. In general, wanting to fill the spiritual void that forms every time he disappears from sight, girls completely deprive men of the opportunity to take initiative. Stop hitting him on the hands, he might, and would like to call you, but that's just no need - you just hung up. By the way, as soon as you see that he is showing attention and, most importantly, he wants it, your addiction will become a little weaker, because we always desperately want what is more difficult to get.