Secrets of Family Happiness (A Guide for Women)

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Leo Tolstoy once said that all happy families are alike, and every unhappy family is unhappy in its own way. The great Russian writer hit the bull's eye. Ask a dozen happy married couples what helps them maintain a strong family, and almost everyone will answer you the same thing. They have their own secrets that all women on Earth should know.

A happy family life is seemingly simple, but at the same time difficult. It would seem that there is no need to do anything supernatural, but for some reason we find difficulties even in elementary things and, brick by brick, we dismantle the strong wall of our own family happiness. Of course, it would be wrong to blame only women for everything - men are also far from angels, but the weather in the house depends on us. We have collected for you several universal recommendations on how not to lead to a "thunderstorm and hurricane".

1. Respect his relatives

Of course, situations are different, and sometimes the relationship with his mother resembles a competition in which her beloved son is the main prize, however, even in this case it is worth “fighting” with dignity. Don't even try to tell your spouse that you don't like his parents, that you don't want to see them at home, etc. It would be very unpleasant for you to hear this from your husband. True, if the relationship with the mother-in-law is already very strained, we suggest not pretending that everything is fine, but sorting out the problem. Believe me, the efforts made will pay off threefold.

Don't even try to tell your spouse that you don't like their parents and that you don't want to see them at home.

2. Do not cut it over trifles

A wife with a saber bald is not like a wife. This is the husband, only in a skirt. If you constantly poke your spouse with your nose, like a kitten, in his mistakes, say “I knew it” and always insist that your point of view is the only correct one, then do not expect your union to be long and happy. Never forget that you are "behind your husband" and not in front of him.

3. Have sex

The gorgeous Samantha Jones from the TV series "Sex and the City" said the sacramental phrase: "Sex is a barometer of relationships." Over the years, sex becomes less and less, but you can't live without it at all. Loving people must make love, because otherwise they live with each other as friends and not as spouses. Even if you suddenly have problems in the intimate sphere, solve them immediately. There are many ways to bring sex back into a relationship.

4. Trust him

Even if you really want to ask: "Who writes this to you there?" or “Why was your phone turned off? Probably, you are hiding something from me,”- it’s better not. Men need freedom, even family ones, and not one of them will agree to live “under the hood”. Your spouse, like you, needs personal space, and it would be rather foolish to think that he should keep a record of every step in front of you. You, when you go to your friend, do not call him back every hour, so why should he do this?

5. Don't give your family all of you

An ideal mother, wife, hostess is, of course, great. But, unfortunately, not interesting. But the ideal woman - well-groomed, athletic, well-read - is already intriguing. Do not forget that the family is not your cross, and therefore you should not make unnecessary sacrifices. Always remember that even an experienced spouse should remain an attractive woman who devotes at least a couple of hours a day to herself.

6. Do not neglect affectionate words

Do you call your husband by his last name? We urgently need to do something about it. Remember the beginning of a relationship when your loved one was a "cat" and a "bunny". Do you think that all this is childish babble? In vain, psychologists assure that just such - affectionate and slightly infantile spouses - remain happy until old age. The fact is that such "lisping" takes us back to childhood, where we were truly happy, but isn't this necessary for two adults burdened with daily problems?

7. Know how to speak

If one of you begins to dislike something in family relationships, do not keep it to yourself, be sure to discuss the problem with your significant other. At the same time, try to avoid an accusatory tone, try to make the conversation as constructive as possible. And never be silent about what really bothers you. Otherwise, you run the risk of stumbling upon a shocking "dislike". Psychologists say that the concept "I do not like" is very vague. The fact is that sometimes love is simply not visible under the pressure of accumulated grievances, problems and innuendo. Therefore, do not bring the situation to the point when it will be too difficult to change something.

Do not neglect spending time together if you do not want one of you to neglect the other one day.

8. Spend time together

Your job, his job, your friends, his friends are all great, but in no way connect two loving people. Do not forget that it is not enough for spouses to just talk on the phone and occasionally send SMS, they need to touch each other, look into their beloved eyes, have dinner together and watch interesting films. Therefore, do not neglect spending time together if you do not want one of you to one day neglect the other.

Building a happy family is not that difficult. It is much more difficult to collect the bricks of a destroyed wall and try again to make it strong and stable. Cherish what you have and always work on the relationship. Then you yourself will say "thank you".