He will not resist! Life hacks for bright dates

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

A deep, beautiful voice with a well-delivered speech is one of the main weapons of a woman, given by nature.

Due to stress and tightness in the body, most people hardly use all the possibilities of their voice. For those who strive for self-development and beauty in everything, the actress of the Taganka Theater Margarita Radzig, the leading teacher of REFORMA LAB - laboratory of acting and oratory - picked up some simple exercises and talked about the peculiarities of the female voice.

The vocal apparatus of women is more developed - it is so laid down by nature. To establish contact with children, to listen carefully, to be able to “read” non-verbal signals is a woman's prerogative.

Women have better skills in recognizing facial expressions and gestures than men. In the fair sex, these areas are more mobile and emotionally saturated. Empathic hearing is developed: women can identify subtle emotional components, are more capable of empathy and understanding. Yes, they like to talk more, learn the world through communication, they like the communication process itself, while men are more receptive to specific information.

Clamping the muscles of the body, especially in the area of speech-forming organs, leads to the fact that the voice does not sound deeply, and its natural beauty is not fully revealed. Stress, obsessive thoughts, inability to rest and relax, the state of struggle with the world - all this is reflected in the voice, therefore, in order to reveal it, it is very important to work with the body and be able to relax it.

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Parting with tension in the body and muscles, we get rid of, among other things, internal psychological problems. Aids such as yoga, Pilates, swimming, massage and more can help you get in touch with your body and gain relaxation skills. You can relieve tension in the body just before the meeting thanks to the recommendations from my last article. There you will also find some secret acting techniques for developing your voice.

A common female problem is an overpriced (squeaky) voice. In this case, the head resonator vibrates and rings most of all, that is, you feel your voice most in your head. Vibrations of the voice are transmitted to the interlocutors, and if the voice is squeezed and only one part of the vocal apparatus sounds, this can irritate the interlocutor.

In this case, when the voice sounds only from the head, you will be perceived only at the level of intelligence and information. It's okay if you're in a meeting, but on a date the other person will expect something completely different from you. A fully open natural voice sounds from the center of the chest.

A child's squeaky voice in an adult woman also causes interlocutors to subconsciously doubt her intellectual abilities, and the audible information is automatically devalued.

The chest resonator is the natural support of the voice, its center, the tone that was conceived for your body when you were born. It is also an emotional resonator: when the chest vibrates, emotions and feelings are transmitted to a person, he is involved. This is how all feminine and personal charm manifests itself. Concentrate on the chest while interacting with a man, and the chances of seducing him will seriously increase.

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To develop the strength of the chest voice, you can do the following exercise before a date: take a deep breath, and exhale slowly, with a pleasant, drawn-out moan, uttering the sound HA or HM, as if moaning with pleasure.

If we talk about effective communication techniques for dates or other important occasions, body freedom and full deep breathing are first of all important. So the brain works better, the state is calmer, the body as a whole functions better. Remember to smile - it automatically positions the interlocutor and gives a relaxing signal to your body. Avoid closed poses and closed gestures.

Slightly parted lips are also a communication channel that enhances your attractiveness.

To tune in more with the interlocutor, you can imperceptibly and slowly mirror his pose. This is one of the laws of human communication, we subconsciously use it when we go to get closer and establish contact.

You can shorten the distance if you try not to deliberately adjust to your interlocutor in breathing. If you feel that the rhythm is too fast or slow, after a while you can change this rhythm, as if leading your partner with you. For example, a partner is very worried - start breathing like him, and then slow down his breathing, and he will relax.

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Eye contact is very important. If there is none at all, consider that there is no contact as such. You shouldn't look into your eyes all the time, as this can cause embarrassment and discomfort.

The distance between people is important. It should be comfortable for both. And the closer relationship you want with a person, the less the distance should be, but it is worth cutting it carefully, each time checking if you are breaking boundaries.

Another effective means of establishing communication is touch: here women have more freedom, we can accidentally touch, and the more tactile contact, the closer the relationship.

The path to a man lies through a genuine interest in him: be sincere, attentive, have a real interest in a man, ask questions, be interested in his state and affairs.

But from time to time you need to tell a little about yourself. It is very good if you transfer the conversation to the area of feelings and emotions, and make a statement in the spirit of "I am messages": "I am very comfortable now", "I feel that we have a lot in common" … Only say what is really feel. The emotional sphere is an area where a woman has no equal.

And finally, two more verbal weapons: compliments and humor. Men love compliments as much as women. They should not be too direct or rude, and there is no need to praise the interlocutor either. Pay homage to masculine qualities: strength, confidence, intelligence.

The second weapon is humor. This is the best way to establish any communication. Even if you are not brilliant, you probably know a few anecdotes or jokes that you can insert during an awkward pause. By the way, a sense of humor, as well as a voice, can be developed. We do this in the lessons of acting and public speaking, and stage speech.