10 life hacks that will help you fall in love with your spouse again

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Surely you still love each other. However, the scent of romance and passion in the little details of your behavior, the words and emotions that you exchange, have noticeably subsided. Or completely exhausted, like a perfume that they forgot to close.

Perhaps your relationship has just entered an even rut of a comfortable routine. There is nothing wrong. But sometimes the memories of the "roller coaster" of the candy-bouquet period cause wild nostalgia and a desire to soar again to the seventh heaven on the wings of feelings.

Here's what I suggest - fall in love! There are no typos here and you are not mistaken in the article. I, Julia Lanske, love-coach number 1 in the world in 2019. in recognition of the international iDate Awards, female trainer, expert in the selection of the ideal pair, I will tell you how to reboot love … to your own husband!

Work on bugs

One of the main steps to resurrecting your feelings is realizing the turnaround that brought you into the stagnant pool of your relationship. In other words, it is important for you to understand what in your behavior led to the cooling of feelings, and how to prevent this from happening in the future.

There may be several reasons why love fell asleep:

1. The habit of being together all the time. The days, as if turned on for repetition, erase the romance, filling everyday life with the boredom of everyday life and problems. You know each other by heart and do not seek to discover new facets either in yourself or in him.
2. Difference of interests. Each of you develops in your own personal direction, without dragging your partner along. And this fork takes your life paths further and further apart.
3. Devaluation of feelings. You no longer try to choose words, don’t say warm compliments to each other, don’t care what reaction this or that action of yours towards your partner will cause.
4. Mirroring. “Oh, are you so? Then so will I! " A silly little revenge for a partner's disagreeable behavior generates a retaliatory "blow". Childishly frivolous, adult-like painful and destructive.
5. Indifference to your appearance. There is a joke: a peacock without a tail turns into an ordinary chicken. With age, our tail thins: we change outwardly (and not for the better, unfortunately). Excess weight, wrinkles, oversized T-shirts and robes a la "goodbye to youth" - and the eyes no longer find that handsome man or beauty in a person who wakes up next to him in the morning.
6. The emergence of other priorities. Career, children, car, hobbies - it is logical that the shift in focus from relationships to another area of life leads them to stagnation and impoverishment. a flower bed that no one else cares for.
7. Lack of desire to be a trophy. You and your spouse no longer make an effort to please. It seems unnecessary when a loved one lives not only in your heart, but also in your home. Therefore, affectionate words are often replaced by rudeness, tactlessness and an increased tone, which you would never allow during the courtship period.

Strategy in "10 buttons" to reanimate feelings for a spouse

When we fall in love, then during this period we tend to treat our partner with the respect and kindness generated by love. However, love cannot be controlled: it either exists or it does not.

But she can be summoned like a genie from a magic lamp. You just need to know where and how to rub!

Here are some ways to help refresh your relationship effortlessly. Each of them has its own "button" that affects the feelings and emotions of both partners. More details about each of them are below:

1. Mutual recognition. It seems to you that for so many years you have learned each other. But time brings adjustments to the views, beliefs and desires of each of us. Perhaps your spouse has changed them, but you do not know anything about it. All because you don't communicate much with him. Talk heart to heart more often, share opinions, ask a man for them. It is important here to be able to listen to each other, to show interest in his feelings and sensations and not to interfere with him objectively cognizing your own.
2. Healthy selfishness and possessiveness … We are all a little greedy at heart - no one wants to give something loved, depriving themselves of happiness. But just imagine that your man has gone to another woman. Now he is a stranger's husband, he wakes up next to another in a warm embrace, rolls on the shoulders of their common kids, solves issues and protects the interests of their family. Not yours. Is it hard to even imagine? Then urgently deal with the return of love to your union.
3. One step back, two steps forward. The next "button" is nostalgia. Forgotten photos in dusty folders on your hard drive, wedding videos, songs, fragrances - everything that can take you back to the heyday of your love will help you to wake her up. Look at your man and remember what his qualities lit the fire in your heart, his jokes, corporate words and phrases. Surely you have something to remember! Share your flashbacks with him - I'm sure he will also remember moments that you might have forgotten. Prepare to both laugh notoriously, and quietly sad.
4. Conflict. It is said that a well-managed argument leads to growth. Many couples take advantage of this - but on condition that they know how to clash wisely, making the most of this type of communication. The main thing is to be able to control your emotions, namely, to transform negative into positive. Therefore, do not avoid conflicts for fear of problems. Lead them adequately and calmly, and then they will reveal those features of your relationship that are not visible in peacetime. Sometimes it's helpful to even make each other laugh during an argument, not to mention that making love after a conflict brings partners together again. According to sexologists, such a spicy ending to a quarrel can open up new facets of a relationship - of course, provided that both agree!
5. An acquaintance game. There is an unusual way not only to renew relationships, but also to bring a spark of enthusiasm into them. Invite your husband to play the game of dating again. Dramatize your meeting and first conversation. Take this with total immersion, convince yourself to fully enter the role of a stranger - alien, mysterious, attractive. It will be great even to appear before the faithful in a new, atypical image for you, up to a new hairstyle and perfume.
6. Update. Do not hang in the same role, develop and grow. The dynamics of your image, interests, activities and knowledge will certainly increase a man's fascination with you. Make him proud of his achievements, new facets and competence. It is possible that the man himself will want to match you to change and improve.
7. Energy. Use your feminine potential to influence a man on an energetic level. Your femininity, lightness, gentleness and wisdom can transform the impression of you, even if you have known a man all your life. Include the generosity of your soul in communication with him, do not skimp on affection and kindness - you will feel like a real sorceress, seeing the miracles of change with your own eyes! A man will definitely appreciate and change his attitude towards you for the better.
8. Variety of everyday life. Joint exciting leisure time helps a lot to dispel boredom and routine. This can be a weekend trip for two, romantic dates, experiments in behavior, communication, bed. Strive by any means to break out of your usual daily routine, which has set your teeth on edge. Even a banal night walk under the stars, arm in arm, will help awaken the spirit of romance, refresh the sensations and better accentuate each other.
9. Physical contact. Do you remember the last time you kissed your loved one? They say that when kisses and touches disappear, love also disappears. Perhaps this is said in a very exaggerated way, but the lack of physical contact is one of the clear indicators that it is time to revive the relationship. Since ancient times, body language has helped our ancestors communicate their intentions, express feelings and emotions. Tactile communication in the form of kissing, stroking, massage, dancing and simple hugs is never superfluous.
10. Understanding the psychology of men. Be understanding with every request for attention that comes from your man. They are sometimes silent and do not know how to convey to us what is happening inside them. I do not know your man, but I am sure - he needs support, care, participation. Inspire him, elevate him and make him stand out from others. Of course, he will no longer become the one you once loved and to whom you said “Yes!” With a sinking heart. Whatever one may say, under the influence and influence of each other, you both evolved. You will not return to the past - and do you really need it? It is much more interesting and exciting to move forward, together creating a new, high-quality, adult feeling.

Love, like ourselves, is born, grows, matures, gets old and sometimes dies. You can maintain it, update it and enjoy it. But even after only a month, she will no longer be the same as on the day of the first kiss. And then, it blooms or withers away, depends only on you!

Love lasts forever for those who appreciate and adapt to its changes.

If you cannot accept love in its changing forms, then you do not need a long-term relationship. You are not ready for them yet.

I, Julia Lanske, sincerely wish you feminine wisdom to cultivate love, take good care of it and nurture it within your family. And let no time, everyday life or other obstacles grow on your path to happiness.