Husband's past: if there is jealousy

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Not a single event in our life passes without a trace, all the more so vivid as love. Both us and our loved ones were influenced in many ways by previous romantic relationships and marriages

Someone closed in on themselves, someone after the betrayal of a loved one lost their former gullibility and became more suspicious. Someone, on the contrary, believed in themselves or found a favorite thing, thanks to a meeting now with ex-lovers.

In our life there are no casual encounters, no casual acquaintances and no casual relationships. If they were, it means that for some reason they were needed, they played some role.

Your first boyfriend discovered the talent of eloquence in you and dragged you to the television auditions by force - now you are the star of the screen. Well, what if you didn’t work out with him, but what a happiness that at that moment that crazy idea came into his head! The mother of the second taught you how to cook amazing Ukrainian borscht, which helped turn your third's head. And if not for this glutton, you would never have met his former classmate, who became your fourth man and first husband!

The same sequence of non-coincidences can be traced in the relationship of your beloved - already with his ex. Therefore, stop blaming yourself for not being your first, don’t reproach him for not saving yourself from temptation before meeting you, and stop monitoring the pages of his ex's on social networks and be jealous. After all, relations with them gave him that invaluable experience that will help him avoid many mistakes with you and appreciate you. Therefore, thank you from the bottom of your heart for your precious beloved. And there are plenty of reasons for gratitude.

If not for her, how would you meet?

Misha, the husband of my friend Gali, was born in Vladivostok. If not for the crazy holiday romance with Muscovite Dasha, his first wife, he would never have got to the capital. Dasha convinced him to move to Moscow, and after a divorce from her, Misha remained in the city. He already had an interesting high-paying job that he did not want to quit. In one of the Moscow fitness clubs, he met Galya …

Recently, Galya admitted that at first she was jealous of Misha for the crazy love that came before her. But then, convinced of his feelings for himself, she even felt gratitude to the unfamiliar Dasha. After all, if not for her, Misha would have remained to live in Vladivostok and Galya would never have met her wonderful husband.

His ex can introduce him to going to the theater or give him a subscription to the conservatory, in which Cupid's arrow will overtake you. She can be your work colleague or classmate and will speed up your meeting. One way or another, the former passion, which is usually portrayed as an angry fury, can often act as a real guardian angel, connecting hearts.

If not for her, how would he know that you were so wonderful?

Only having experience of relationships with other women, your beloved will be able to appreciate you. After all, to evaluate is to compare. And how would he know the value of your cheerfulness, restraint and unselfishness, if his former passion were not dull, irritable and petty?

When Anya began dating handsome Igor, she learned a lot of flattering things about herself. It turned out that she is kind, gentle, well-groomed, intelligent, well-read, sensitive, attentive, sociable, with good taste and an excellent sense of humor. She was especially amused by the little things "neat" and "not a fidgety".

Compared to the women with whom Igor had dealt before, Anya was sheer perfection. Fear of missing the girl of her dreams and made the inveterate bachelor and incorrigible heartthrob hurry up with a marriage proposal. 3 months after they met.

At the same time, Anya's previous romance with her peer Sasha, which began at school and lasted 4 years, ended in nothing. It seemed to Sasha that he had seen too little in life, that there are girls and better. 2 years after the wedding, when Anya was already pregnant, Sasha confessed to her that he regretted their breakup. Only by comparing her with others, he realized how good the first beloved was.

If not for her, how would he be so wonderful?

The first pancake is lumpy. Marriage and close relationships are no exception. Few people manage to meet their soul mate the first time, and rarely do they manage to avoid conflicts in the first experience of relationships with the opposite sex.

His ex had a hard time - it was on her that a flurry of scandals over toothpaste and uncooked breakfast, a storm of frenzied jealousy and a typhoon of selfishness fell upon her. It was she who had to go through the work on mistakes with him, she had to teach him to find compromises. Then it is she who should be thanked for how sensitive, attentive, understanding and wise he is with you. Or maybe, on the contrary, she was the initiator of conflicts, then your beloved became more discriminating in relations with women, learned to appreciate the wisdom, self-control and calmness of the second half.

If he decides on a second marriage, he will repeatedly weigh the pros and cons. And be sure, his choice is not a youthful whim, but a balanced decision of a wise man with experience. You are so smart and good that he is not afraid of repeating the previous negative experience, that he will appreciate and cherish your relationship. Thanks, again, to her - his ex!

If not for her, how would his mother understand how lucky she was with her new daughter-in-law?

And this is already as a nice bonus. Be sure that in comparison with the son's former love for his mother, you will seem like a real angel with wings and a halo. After all, the mother-in-law usually accepts the first wife of her child with hostility. Although she can be kind, sweet and loving. Even if you hurt yourself in a cake, it is still not good.

But when your beloved son is tormented by this gorgon, who, in a fit of rage, breaks the service presented by his mother for the wedding, and even in the heat of the moment puts the son in a frying pan - there is no time for fat. Here it is for happiness when the son brings such a charming girl like you into the house! Better to compromise with you than with the gorgon, right? Moreover, by that time, my mother becomes more tolerant and accommodating. And the son will no longer allow her to actively interfere in your young life and quarrel you over trifles.

Poor ex-girlfriend, happy you!