They sat on the golden porch

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Children's counting room.

It's no secret that all children love fairy tales.

First, they slip colorful books to mothers, fathers, grandmothers, unfamiliar aunts, who, by the will of fate, happened to be with them at the same time in the same place … Everyone who is able to read these tales to them.

They are read by them on their own, having barely learned how to put letters into words.

Then they imagine themselves as characters of their favorite fairy tales, which are tightly included in their lives: girls give dolls the names of beautiful princesses, on New Year's they want to be fairy knights, Thumbelina and Cinderella, they play fairy tales in the yard …

And imperceptibly fairy tales grow into reality.

It is so imperceptible that the children themselves, having already become adults, are trying in vain to understand the reasons for their life failures. And, probably, more than once you have heard from your friends the phrase "Why am I so lucky for..?" Further options are possible: married, narcissistic, mama's sons and so on, and so on … Or maybe you yourself like to repeat this phrase?

The origins of all our likes and dislikes are located in the subconscious. And they arise there in the earliest childhood, when the worldview is only being formed, and the "correct" scenarios of relationships between people are being built in the subconscious. And what more than fairy tales can influence the vision of the world?

Indeed, for a child who is not familiar with the real state of affairs, the fairy-tale world differs little from the real world, in which good, unlike a fairy tale, does not always triumph over evil, a magic pike can bite on the finger, and a handsome prince turn out to be a coward and a scoundrel. In addition, in a fairy tale, a child can find answers to all the questions that arise in him.

If in your relationships with people, and especially with the opposite sex, the same scenario constantly creeps in, perhaps this little test will help you identify the role that you subconsciously play.

So, what fairy tale did you love the most in your earliest childhood?

"Cinderella"

And with her "Tiny-havroshechka", "Frost" and similar fairy tales.

The most important thing in life is to work, to remain obedient to fate, and then only you will be worthy of the love of the prince, who will immediately appear in your life.

The skills of an excellent hostess, the ability to create comfort around you and work hard, not dividing work into "worthy" and "unworthy" of you - this is undoubtedly worthy of praise and respect. But behind all this, you must always remember that, day after day, scrubbing the pots, in the end you will get … only shining dishes. And no more. A clean kitchen and well-written paperwork will not attract a man to you, unless he is a potential employer. Indeed, in building relationships, other skills are much more important: the ability to understand and accept another person, find a compromise, the gift of being interesting and attractive in all respects. Cinderella was lucky - her fairy goddaughter made her a beautiful princess in time, worthy of the attention of a prince. But would the prince pay attention to Cinderella, finding her at home cleaning the fireplace?

"Princess Frog"

And also "The Scarlet Flower", "The Mouse Princess", "The Swan Princess" and a hundred more similar fairy tales that any nation has.

The most important thing in a person is his soul, his inner world.

A beautiful soul is wonderful! It's great that you give the first place to the inner world of a person. Just do not forget that, as Chekhov said, in a person, deeds, thoughts, and body should be beautiful. Therefore, it is not worth turning into a shaggy monster in order to be sure that it is the soul that is appreciated in you. After all, the heroine of "The Scarlet Flower" remained in the castle of the enchanted prince not at all of her own free will, and only over time appreciated his soul.

"Sleeping Beauty"

And also "Snow White and the Seven Dwarfs", "The Princess-Not Laughing", "The Tale of the Dead Princess and the Seven Bogatyrs" and others.

Love will find me on its own, and the initiative should always come from a man. He should be the first to come up and get to know each other, he should call and invite him on a date. And a woman must dutifully wait … or look for another, more active and quick-witted prince.

The beautiful fairy tale "Sleeping Beauty" from the point of view of psychology can lay in the consciousness a negative program of passive expectation and lack of any choice. The girl whose favorite heroine was "The Sleeping Beauty" may never "wake up" until the "prince" arrives. Unfortunately, in life, the "prince" often does not even know that he has to come, and the "beauty" waiting for him will sleep all his life.

This scenario is perhaps the most common. And if he can still work at the very least when meeting, then when building a relationship, he literally bursts at the seams. Of course, it's easy to blame your loved one for not knowing how to propose. Fighting for your happiness is much more difficult. But this must be done, because it is impossible to build a relationship just by smiling. The appearance of the prince is far from a fabulous ending. Do not forget that this is only the very beginning of a long and painstaking journey, and you will have to make efforts, be proactive, and not wait for the weather from the sea. A man also needs initiative on your part, at least in confirmation of your interest and sympathy for him. Otherwise, he can easily be taken away.

"Mermaid"

As well as "The Snow Queen", "Finist - a clear falcon", "The Tale of Tsar Saltan …" (if your favorite character is the Swan Princess).

A sacrifice for love! And the more victims - the better! You just don't believe in love without self-sacrifice. Such love seems to you strained and unnatural. Therefore, you deliberately perform feats for the sake of your beloved, often inventing them yourself - to go there, I don't know where, bring something, I don't know what, fight the Serpent Gorynych or steal a magic apple from the garden of Koshchei the Immortal. And if at the end of everything you have to throw yourself into the abyss of the sea, turning into white foam, you will be in seventh heaven with happiness.

You have a wonderful quality! You just need to send it to a peaceful channel.

Getting to know a married man and trying to take him away from his wife is far from the best feat. Therefore, the next time, when you "by chance" managed to get to know a married man, tell yourself "stop!" There are many free men in the world who are ready for a serious relationship and need your support and help. Pay attention to them! And you will have enough feats even if you live together with him in a cozy hut …

"Vasilisa the Beautiful"

In general, he looks like "Sleeping Beauty" with the only difference that in addition to initiative, you also expect feats from a man.

For some reason, the concept of "feat" is often different for men and women. A woman wants snowdrops in December, and a man considers it a real feat to wash his own socks with his own hands. And not everyone is capable of reading minds. A young man of one of my friends spent a month preparing her for some kind of surprise, which she should have been incredibly happy about. Can you imagine her condition at the moment when the miracle was supposed to happen? Now imagine how she felt when the surprise was a new car that her beloved was finally able to buy for himself.

Therefore, be prepared for the fact that if you want your beloved to save you from a terrible monster, then you yourself will have to chain yourself to a rock and hint to the savior about it.

Finally, I want to say that the reason for all our failures and troubles lies only in ourselves. And if you are catastrophically lucky for a certain type of men, it is not because good men have grown up. It's just that your subconscious mind chooses them from all the variety, not paying attention to other "types". Therefore, it is very important to be able not only to find this reason, but also to correctly resolve it.