Colleagues, what

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Quite often, all recommendations for career growth relate to abstract concepts, such as advanced training, working with character for perseverance, mastering new skills, and so on. All this, of course, is a necessary and important matter. However, a successful career also means building relationships in the workplace. Let's not talk about sycophancy, snitching and other strategies of this kind. Let everyone deal with his own conscience and decide whether he needs it or not. In addition, there is, as a rule, in every office a category of people with whom it is very difficult to get along. But so that it doesn't happen to you, you need to know that there is a way out of any conflict situations, you just need to correctly apply the methods of influencing the people around you. So, if your scandalous, valuable, stellar colleagues, what are the ways to deal with them?

Brawler

His favorite technique is direct aggression. He loves to emphasize his superiority, threaten, and blame.

Your main task is to let the brawler "blow off steam", to play for time. Do not try to defend yourself (you are not to blame for anything), and most importantly, do not respond with a threat to a threat, even if the situation allows you to. A response to aggression with aggression will give a short-lived result. At some point, the brawler is able to retreat under your onslaught. But in the end, you can be absolutely sure that the work will not be done, the project will fail, and the issue will not be resolved in time.

Demand specific explanations from the brawler: "Make a list of my mistakes and we, together with the authorities, will sort them out." Usually this tactic disarms the brawler. Try to make it clear to the interlocutor that you know his point of view, but you have your own and do not intend to deviate from it. Let's say that in this case the interlocutor continues to behave aggressively towards you. Make it clear to him how much his behavior hurts you. And if the edge is overflowing, say: "You are so hot-tempered, because, apparently, you have a lot of personal problems. I cannot take offense at you. I hope that everything will work out for you in your personal life soon" …

At first he will be furious, but wait out the storm … After it there will be complete calm. In any case, keep your contacts with brawlers to a minimum. They have another negative trait - they drain your energy even with a minimum of words. One presence strains every fiber.

Cynic

Contempt or disdain are his favorite tricks. He always finds your weak points and makes caustic remarks on any occasion, can deliberately repeat obvious things in a conversation with you, raising his eyes to the ceiling and, as it were, calling those around him as witnesses. When you are confronted with this type, it seems to you that you perceive information poorly or your reaction is inadequate (and then you look like a hysterical woman). But the cynic can be overthrown …

Such attacks are obvious to you and those around you. You must immediately make it clear how you feel about such behavior ("Your remarks leave me indifferent, not understanding what you want to prove?"). The cynic either tries to reduce everything to a joke, or insists, and then the situation turns into a stage of personal enmity. If he tries to joke, point out that he was unlucky with a sense of humor. In principle, this is more often than not enough.

Liar

Such a variant of a colleague, which are most often liars. It is very difficult to deal with him, because all his tactics are of a hidden nature. You can never hope for such people. They say yes, think maybe, and do nothing at all. They are always busy: "The boss at the last moment hung up on me another matter …", - they are looking for excuses: "No, I cannot stay, because my cat is giving birth today!", Pretend to be deaf, blind, absent-minded, armless and legless. Such a person is not familiar with punctuality, and reproaches about constant delays seem unfair to him. In the mornings, his alarm clock always breaks, he regularly escorts his aunt from Kostroma to the station and gets sick 20 times a year with mumps.

The deceiver expresses feelings that he does not feel, he blackmails colleagues with flattery in order to shift his part of the work onto others. He is always aware of all the rumors and uses them to destabilize the situation in the team. The liar sows doubt, confusion, quarrels and tension. But his …

Avoid the temptation to bring the hypocrite to the surface. If you catch him by the hand, you will make him your enemy for a long time and then you will not get away with dirty tricks. On the contrary, try to play on trust. Make it clear that you do not doubt his loyalty and count on his support. By invoking the remnants of decency, you may achieve the desired result. If this does not work, use the "spoiled record" tactic. This is very simple, but quite effective: you have to relentlessly, with the same intonation, over and over again, repeat your request, highlighting the problem that the colleague uses as an excuse (“I understand that you are very busy, but the report has not been made and in this form it cannot be submitted to the bosses … you will have to take work home or work on weekends … "). In the end it will work. Especially if you insist on specific deadlines for making a decision. If such a person does not change, do not despair: sooner or later he will still have serious problems with leadership.

Star

We have to deal with people of this type quite often. An all-powerful chef, a fastidious client, an ingenious inventor - all of them, the one and only, are confident in their exclusivity and require appropriate treatment. They look at you languidly, haughtily, do not even give a word to say until you begin to feel like a brainless insect. Give a star, too, without regret …

You have only one way out - to put the "star" in its place. It is impossible to really connect or work with such people. Therefore, take courage and decide on a frank, hostile confrontation. No scandals or personal attacks - only calmness and self-confidence ("Perhaps you consider yourself to be something exceptional, but this still does not give you the right …"). Naturally, you have to take into account the situation: you cannot be equally upset with your boss and your selfish colleague. You can first acknowledge the claim of the "star", playing on her craving for narcissism, and only then express your demands. With a colleague of your equal status, you can be a little more aggressive. After all, you are also something of yourself. And yet, say a very effective phrase, they say, we have no irreplaceable ones!

Chatterbox

Everyone was tired of her long and boring monologues. Her typical behavior is "sucking" other people's problems. At the same time, she extremely rarely allows the interlocutor to speak out. As they say, the goat rushed over the bumps to heaven!

Feel free to interrupt her, turn the conversation into a different direction, reduce your interest in her monologues to monosyllabic "hmm" and "ah, yes." Doesn't help - show persistence, pointing out to the chatterbox her verbiage. Return to the original topic of the conversation or cut it off if the dialogue turns into a goat's monologue again!

Freeloader

Such an employee does not act out of malice, but nevertheless he always wants to grab a sweet piece from every bowl "for free"."Won't you let me light a cigarette?" - he asks, barely seeing other people's cigarettes. With an exclamation: "How delicious!" - eats candy from someone else's box. But on his birthday he pretends to be loaded with urgent work.

Out loud, define the firm boundaries of what is permissible and, finally, say that his begging is getting on your nerves. For example, I once said to my colleague: "Sorry, I smoke quite expensive cigarettes, I understand you like them, but I cannot afford to supply you with them too!" Helps in a similar situation and merciless "begging".

As you understand, all the antics of such colleagues that you can endure … In the end, all this is the little things in life. But remember! A drop wears away the stone. And then you are alone, and there will be many colleagues! Good luck!