Success and friendship

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Remember the saying: with whom you lead - from that you will gain. Few are fully aware of the tremendous impact friends have on our lives. Only parents and relatives are not chosen - friends are chosen. And success in life largely depends on our choice.

Few consciously seek friendship. More often it happens quite by accident: somewhere someone accidentally met someone, talked - found a common language, it turned out, "kindred" souls. Many cannot even distinguish acquaintance from friendship - they call a person a friend, communication with whom does not cause negative emotions. And as a result, they do not realize that, apart from their usual environment, they have no friends at all.

How to be? Easily awarding another friend the title of FRIEND, think about whether you quickly made him FRIENDS. How about a probationary period: eating a pound of salt together or knowing a friend in need? First of all, look at your surroundings differently. Ask yourself - are they friends? Can someone who calls you regularly be considered a friend just to talk? Or do you call friends those with whom you are just having fun? Or maybe your friend is the one who pours a tub of water over your head to bring you back to earth when you indulge in dreams?

True friendship is an energetic exchange, the joy of communicating with each other. Try to answer yourself the questions: Are we equally interested in each other's problems? Does this fellowship enrich us? Does it bring joy to both of us?

Are our value systems similar enough that communication brings us the same satisfaction? Are we not afraid to touch upon painful topics in conversations with each other? Aren't we cheating when we answer questions? Are we friends at the behest of our hearts, or only out of a long-term habit, the tradition of regular meetings after Sunday lunches?

We develop, improve ourselves, sometimes we "grow" out of this or that friendship, at the same time growing to another. You should not hold on to acquaintance with old friends if it does not bring you the satisfaction that brought you before. Someone with whom you felt good and free a few years ago, today, perhaps, already has a completely different system of values. You've changed. Together with you, your views, your goals have changed. And your friend has remained at the level at which you both were a few years ago, and does not even try to grow up to you, pulls you to the bottom.

You just have to "weaken the anchor". Do not be afraid to lose such a friendship - it does not mean that you should completely break the relationship with this person. Your acquaintance will remain, no one will cross it out, but now you deserve to receive more from friendship. Never mind if someone says sarcastically about you, "Yes, people change …" You are going in your own direction, chosen by you. Now you need new acquaintances and friends to help your inner growth. It has been checked: everything that is needed for it remains in life, losses are milestones of the path, a reason to remember good days, but no more. If you do not hold on to the roads that have fallen into the dust, it only becomes easier to walk. It is good that right now you recognized and discerned his true nature in this person, and did not go further with him. It's never too late to open your eyes. It's like giving a loan and not getting it back by selling this person and the opportunity to communicate with him in the future for the money lent to him.

Look for friendship among those who are now in the stage where you would like to be in the future. Choose friends among those who can enrich you with their knowledge, their views, their worldview. You cannot expand your horizons around people who are more limited than you. Pay attention only to those who look to the future with optimism - such acquaintances strengthen self-confidence. Avoid pessimists!

And remember the mistake that is typical for the vast majority of people.

Do you want to get to know people better by getting to know your own kind? It is like reading books by one author or books written by oneself, wanting to understand literature. Usually people avoid those who have different character, education, interests, religious and political views. But it is precisely the acquaintance with such people, who are not like us, that enrich us most of all. Often the strongest and most stable friendship is friendship between old and young people, people of different nationalities, religions and ideals. What unites them?

Mutual respect, sincerity of thoughts and the scale of ideals, even with different goals.