My ex has the most honest rules

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

It's no secret that relationships, no matter how rosy and healthy they start, sometimes end in nothing. Rather, as a result, we still have something: life experience, memories … We enter the name of the former in a kind of "chronicle", where there are already other similar characters. Is it worth it in reality to maintain a relationship with your "ex", or does he have a place on the dusty shelf of memory? In the end, why injure yourself once again, or still …

The answer to the question: to communicate or not - actually depends on many things. From what kind of person he is, this ex-ideal, perhaps, in fact, he turned out to be a notorious villain, and there is no further desire to communicate with him. And also from the reasons for the breakup and at what stage of the relationship did the break occur …

Option one: he is bad, he is a stranger …

Well, that's how it happened. I fell in love, put it on a pedestal, from which he aptly and repeatedly spat into the most sacred in you - into the soul. She recognized herself, that is, she stuck to the wrong "half" … What to do? Well, drive with a filthy broom, that's understandable. What's next? Especially if, by the time of the breakup, the couple managed to acquire common friends, habits, go together to the same fitness center or work in the same office.

In theory, the most organic way out of this situation is to throw ends in the water: quit your job, change the gym and meet with friends only when you know for sure that he will not be there. As they say, forget my name, phone number and erogenous zones! There was nothing and that's it! And about how she blushed from his glances on the first date, how she dreamed of calling her firstborn Egor, and dying with this traitor on the same day, having lived happily ever after - it's a shame to remember. It was like that, wasn't it? Even some kind of irritation with herself at that time, stupid and in love, ready for feats in the name of love and experiments with her own life. You should not regret what you have done, this is also part of your invaluable experience. Perceive the situation as a kind of lesson from fate, which, as you know, rarely hits, but aptly.

Be careful: forgetting everything at once does not always work, for a long time you will hear the echoes of this love, especially if your ex is chatting "not a fool". Knowing that he can hit your sore spots, take advantage of the information that you gave him in a fit of sincere passion, be ready to defend yourself and retaliate. You may even have to come up with a subtle revenge plan. And take security measures to prevent your ex from using compromising evidence on you.

Option two: so dear and unloved

Love has passed, the tomatoes, unable to bear it, wilted, my knees no longer tremble, and I don’t want to have sex with him even under anesthesia … But it’s nice to lie down together in front of the TV set with a bottle of beer and click the control panel, discussing everything: from a football match to the size of a bust leading news.

He's your best friend! And it got both of them so much that you decided to leave. Well, you had fun at first. After all, now you can shamelessly have an affair with a work colleague or not shave your legs for a couple of weeks. But you never know what else can be done, getting rid of the hateful relationship! Here are just the bulging charms of TV presenters to discuss with no one. And only he, the former, as it turned out, knew how to choose your underwear with incredible precision and knew where your favorite shrimps are sold …

Is it worth striving to meet with him in this case? Well, until you stop crying at the sight of his sock or a forgotten toothbrush, accidentally found falling behind the sofa, you should not, of course! Wait until the wounds heal, old habits die off and you learn to satisfy your own needs (buy linen and shrimp, for example), after all, you are an adult girl! In order not to howl a beluga in front of a telecom, arrange bachelorette parties more often and get yourself new hobbies: even cross-stitching will do - there is no sense, but it kills a lot of time. In other words, fill in the niche previously occupied by "pleasant leisure" with your ex. And then, if by that time you, of course, have not changed your mind, you can introduce the tradition of rare meetings.

Be careful: with such, one of our own in the board, the former, there is always a risk of returning to the former swamp. At first it seems that after one spontaneous sex there will be nothing, then that twice a week is also not a relationship yet, and you will not notice how he will again end up in your apartment in family shorts. Do you remember how it ended last time? Yes, yes, I am hinting at the death of tomatoes. The variety has remained the same. So, soon you will again find yourself "one on one" with his forgotten razor.

Option three: love you dizzy

Ay, how it hurts! Oh-ho-ho, how unpleasant! You lie to yourself on your common bed, on which you, you know, … and more than once. You have already figured out how to persuade him to get married, how to find a common language with his parents, and how to "disarm" his friends. You decided everything for you a long time ago, until one day he comes and bryat from the doorway: "Sorry, we don't fit each other …" or "I want to be alone", "I fell in love with another harem", "… finally understood, that I like guys in navy caps."

But you never know what could happen to him, your legitimate boyfriend, because of which he instantly moved into the category of "ex".

While you are in shock, trying to comprehend what is happening and wondering if you are ready to change your gender and profession for him, he packs up his things and leaves. He rents an apartment for himself, changes his mobile number and forbids his mother to tell you where and with whom he now lives. Out! As they say, rewind the tape, I don't like this movie. But the film does not unwind, and for obvious reasons, it is impossible to make a photomontage in order to immediately jump into the future, when you feel good.

What remains? Cry, if crying, pull yourself together, if you can, knock out a wedge with a wedge, if it doesn't make you sick. Although it is better to try to switch not to other relationships, but to some laborious process - force yourself to learn Japanese, for example, or completely change your life: from hair to work.

Make the most of this cruel life lesson. What you later will call pathetically your own growth. "I have changed! - you will tell your friends, - I have become different, I have done so much for myself since then." Let this stressful and painful moment become a stepping stone for inner growth. Just remember: everything that you do, you do not "to spite him", but "in spite of everything." You are not broken, and it is admirable. It is advisable to meet with him after a while, when the storm and resentment subside. To look at him and, perhaps, think with horror: "God, what did I find in him!" Should I continue to see him? I don't know, it depends on you. After all, you simply may now be uninteresting with him.

Be careful: try not to get hung up, not get bogged down in your experiences, otherwise the desire to "prove to him …" will turn your life into a nightmare and an eternal pursuit of ghosts.