Impermanence is the eighth sin

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Or divorce in Russian

Medical scientists call divorce the second most powerful stress after the loss of a loved one. Divorcing, we also lose, also close and almost dear. But this time - voluntarily.

Alas, the family in our mentality is no longer a shrine. According to statistics, the initiators of the divorce are mainly women, "keepers of the hearth". We condescendingly call a man a big child. But if our son gives us trouble, it does not occur to us to "divorce" him. However, we part with men with ease. We rarely define them in the category of close people: they usually remain in the position of life companions. Feel the difference.

Reading about the classical nineteenth century with its fatal passions, you are touched, then you are indignant. Take, for example, the classics - "Eugene Onegin". After all, Tatyana loves her unlucky Eugene, and he finally flared up, but no: "I am given to another and will be faithful to him for ages." Even if he is not young, and ugly, and she is indifferent. Or Chekhov's "Jumping". She brought her husband to the grave with her adventures, but there was no way to leave him. I don't even want to talk about Anna Karenina. And so it is always: no matter what book you take, everywhere there is an insoluble conflict, everywhere love is forced to fight the opinion of society. And then the children of the progressive 21st century have a feeling of superiority: they say, yes, in her place I would have left my hubby long ago and left with my beloved, and what does it matter to me that they are talking!

In a word, first there was the abolition of serfdom, then - emancipation, then - the sexual revolution, and finally, feminism flourishes. So what? Have we become freer? Not at all. Yes, we can choose a husband at our discretion. If we fell out of love, we can get divorced. And we can have as many children as we want, and lovers too, because our life is one, unique, and we will not spend it on one man. And when your husband can't stand it, you need to hurry up so that you leave him, and not you, and then go in search of a new big love. And you will find her, because you, dear, are the best and sexiest, and all men are crazy about you. And if they don't admit it, then they are not worth you. In the meantime, go to shaping, learn Japanese and office work, make a career and become "terribly interesting to yourself", don't let yourself get bored at all, because men are not the main thing in life!

Here is a brief summary of the position of a modern woman who has seen enough of imported serials about the local "emancipation", who changed her dress 10 times in one episode and her husband - once every 10 episodes. She fit into the market conditions, earned $ 200 in a week and decided that she was a super professional. She had read life-affirming women's novels with a shaggy beast on the cover, with which trays in the subway were littered. She is told five times a day that she "deserves it." What is this? Total! Here is the same haircut as Mila Jovovich, and dye in "Feria" from Loreal Paris. And the woman wanted to. I wanted "Cartier" on the finger and Pierce Brosnan in bed. I wanted a new bright life. And 99% of her old husband will not fit into this holiday.

Damn it, you can understand men who hate feminism and chant together that women's struggle for equality destroys marriages! The cherished keys of capitalism: "freedom", "choice", "new opportunities", etc., have eaten into our souls, like Givenchy cream into the skin. There was a wild, sweet, unbearable lightness. You begin to believe that everything is fixable, reversible, replenishing. Whether it's work, friends or husband.

And we stop appreciating what we have. How else to explain the fact that every second marriage in our developing country ends in divorce. Fifty percent of marriages fall apart! The notorious freedom from the conventions that kept Tatyana Larina, Anna Karenina, Poprygunya around her husband was not in our favor. And very few people did not get better from this freedom. Sometimes you read in the newspaper the story of some "divorced woman" who was not at a loss, at the age of 35 she found her next husband and confidently declares: "There are still men in the world!" Well done! But there are much more completely different destinies: they did not share something, they were disappointed in something, divorced, decided to start life anew. And then he has hard drinking and casual relationships, she has two children and the prospect of cuckoo alone for the remaining decades. It's not fun.

In this matter, I am delighted with the good advice of various fashion magazines and newspapers. Imagine, a girl writes in a magazine, like in a heavenly office: "I have been living with my beloved for a year, but the old feelings have disappeared, the joy in bed is no longer the same, and in general we are more friends than lovers." What, they say, should I do, my favorite magazine? And the magazine replies:. And then another girl sprinkles into this magazine, whose situation, in general, is the same, only she lives with her beloved man not for a year, but for a year and a half, and his name is not Petya, but Vasya. And what does the psychologist answer under the heading "Cry of the Soul"?

How do you like it? This is an example from life. Here they are, our opinion leaders. Now not only there are more divorces. Nowadays they marry much less, preferring to marry in heaven rather than on earth. What is this, also the influence of feminism? Or will it be easier to leave without committing yourself? One day, a good friend and I discussed the concept of an ideal marriage until 2 am. So, he very convincingly proved to me that the now common formula of women's happiness "family plus career" was initially doomed to divorce. "You see, if a woman moves up the career ladder all day and feeds her family with ready-made dumplings in the evening, such a family will not last long. another woman will be needed. He will never leave such a wife, and in this confidence both of them will be happy."

Where to find such a potion to drink it - and fall in love with your own husband forever? What color to paint so that he looks at you and shines with happiness for the rest of his life? The Hindus have a parable. When a wife enters her husband's house, her future family life is a vegetable garden, which she can dispose of as she wishes. If he wants, he will grow beautiful flowers and fruits. If he wants, he will throw stones. Hindus believed that lack of love for a future husband was not a hindrance to happiness. And even more so, when the years have been lived together, and all these years you went to bed with him, cooked for him, made his house bright and comfortable, gave birth and raised his children - won't you have warm feelings for him? As with other southern peoples, among the Hindus, the bride often did not know the groom before the engagement. Completely strangers entered into marriage. And it was instituted: the husband, whatever he is, is one for life. And the wife too - whatever she is - alone. This feeling of reliability and support in each other is expensive. Maybe this is the notorious family happiness that nothing can break?