How to believe in yourself again after being dumped by a man

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Each of us has to deal with many failures, losses and disappointments in life - we all know the salty taste of grievances firsthand. When a man leaves us, we lose faith in ourselves and think that we can never meet a man better.

Remember our heroine Marina from the article "Why did he say:" We are different ""? Six months ago, a man left her, and she also thought that she would never feel the same, alive and elated. But now she is a happy, beloved, confident and strong woman who can no longer be broken. How did she achieve this? Find out from her letter.

I remember that very moment, six months ago, when Alexey, having said that we are different, disappeared from my life as if he had never been in it, as if it was just a pleasant dream that ended. It was as if my heart had been ripped out. I felt so helpless, lost, abandoned, abandoned and useless, that at that moment it seemed to me that the only positive thing was that it couldn't be worse. On sleepless, disturbing cold nights, my soul was torn to shreds - I sobbed every night for a week. I didn't want to do anything, my hands completely dropped - I went to work like a robot, being deep in myself, I was quietly suffering inside.

I understand now, it was wrong - I should not have closed in on myself. But she closed herself off and for two months was in a state of constant stress. Looking at the happy couples and families in love, I thought that nothing would ever work out for me in my personal life, that this was not for me and not about me. Bitter crying into my pillow at night was replaced by a complete loss of living emotions - I did not live, but simply existed.

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I felt that I had to do something, because I couldn't do it alone. I thought about a psychologist or some book on self-development, but somehow reluctantly believed that my condition would change. So, I forced myself to go to an appointment with a psychologist, but instead of an appointment, something completely amazing happened to me.

The night before that day, when I was going to the doctor, I mentally imagined Alexei and forgave him with my heart. I really realized that night that I was ruining and destroying my health myself and that this must be stopped. I just sincerely asked the Almighty to help me change the situation. Crying, I prayed to the Higher Forces that they would help me completely forgive Alexei. I fell asleep relieved, and when I woke up, I went to see a psychologist.

I caught a taxi, but halfway the taxi driver's Toyota slightly bumped into a Volkswagen Golf, which was driving in front of her - after half an hour of clarifying the relationship, my taxi driver asked me to catch another taxi. I got out of the car and started voting.

A mediocre car with tinted rear windows stopped in front of me, so I did not see that there was a person, and tried to sit down, but when I noticed a person who said to me a little surprised"

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Lying under the gentle sun on the beach at a time when it was frosty February outside, I suddenly felt so happy that I even wanted to cry with happiness. I realized that I should be very grateful to life at least for the fact that I can feel the gentle sand and warm rays of the sun. I realized that there is no higher happiness than just being able to see, hear and walk. I realized how happy I am only from the fact that I am alive and I have the right to choose. And from that moment I chose happiness! All the problems I thought up had gone somewhere very far, I felt that I did not need any outside help from psychologists and psychotherapists - I could help myself at any moment of my life. Not at all regretting that instead of seeing a specialist, I spent a day at the spa, I calmly parted with the money that I had set aside for psychotherapy. That day at the spa was the best therapy for the soul.

From that day on, my life began to change greatly - for three months I improved my life in every possible way, went to yoga, to the pool, to dances, read a lot and laughed, not allowing a single negative thought. I completely gave up watching TV, I stopped reading the news altogether, because I realized that 90% of the news is negative: disasters in some Japan, a plane crash over Irkutsk, the war in Syria. I do not need it. I still can't help the victims by watching the news. Instead, I chose various trainings, webinars, where they talked about how beautiful our world is and how limitless the possibilities of each person are. I read the story of Nick Vuychich and started laughing at my so-called drama with some kind of Alexei, whom, to be honest, I no longer remember. It became so funny to me that like a fool I paint my life in some kind of gray melodrama, while I can paint everything I want with bright colors - this is my life. And only I choose what it will be!

Just two weeks ago, I had my first date with the foreigner I met in a taxi. I don’t know how it’s going to be. Anything can be. I admit the possibility of everything and am ready to accept any lesson that the Universe will send me. I am very grateful to her for these lessons and the happy moments of my life.

With love, Marina.

What conclusions can be drawn by reading Marina's letter:

1. The universe hears us. Therefore, you need to sincerely make requests to the Almighty with an open heart and soul.

2. We are destroying our own health. Therefore, we need to stop the flow of negative thoughts and understand that our health completely depends on our thoughts. Never forget that you need to protect your health!

We can help ourselves! And in the same way, unfortunately, we can destroy ourselves.

3. We can help ourselves! And in the same way, unfortunately, we can destroy ourselves. Choose yours!

4. Thousands of possibilities surround us every day. Our task is to notice them!

5. TV is a source of negative waste. We do not need to know all the tragic events and problems that occur in the world.

6. If you can see, hear and walk - you are the happiest person on Earth! Be grateful for every day of your life, just for the ability to feel and just for the fact that you are alive! After all, while you are alive - everything is in your hands!

7. And most importantly - everything always happens for the best!