What to do if you earn more than your husband

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

We are used to thinking that a man is a breadwinner, and a woman is a keeper of the hearth. But even if a woman is also a breadwinner, then her prey, as a rule, is several times less than what a man brings to the house. In general, almost everyone considers the situation when the husband earns more than the wife is considered normal. But in the modern world, women are becoming more and more successful, often overshadowing the achievements of their beloved men. How to behave in a situation when your income significantly exceeds your husband's salary? How do the representatives of the stronger sex relate to this state of affairs? And is it worth sacrificing your own ambitions for the sake of the peace of your loved one?

It's no secret that many men, to put it mildly, are embarrassed by this situation. Representatives of the stronger sex in everything and always want to be better than others, and the realization that they provide a family and do everything for its comfortable existence is akin to daily self-affirmation. It is important for them to feel their own importance, they are ready to take responsibility for the comfort of loved ones. Otherwise, a man begins to doubt his strengths and abilities, groundless conflicts appear, accusations that can even lead to a break, if the situation is not corrected in time. No, this does not mean that you definitely need to change your place of work or ask your boss to cut wages. It even sounds ridiculous. You just have to show some feminine cunning and help your beloved man get through a difficult time for him. Otherwise, it will turn out, as in the TV series "Sex and the City", when the writer Jack Berger, unable to withstand the success of the main character Carrie Bradshaw (the publisher refuses to print Berger's book, while Carrie's book is more than in demand), parted with her through a note left on the table.

Be his personal fan, let the man know that you always see him as a reliable support and support.

Encourage his success

No matter how much employers value his efforts, you must show that you value everything he does (provided that he really wants to work and earn more, and does not lie day and night on the couch). Be his personal fan, let the man know that you always see him as a reliable support and support. Pay attention to the star couple Gisele Bundchen and Tom Brady: the famous model is clearly more successful than her football husband, but this does not prevent them from being happy spouses and parents of two beautiful children.

Do not reproach him or set him up as an example of other men

Again, we are not talking about men who do not even strike a finger on a finger in order to achieve something more, but only complain about the lack of demand. In the case when your husband wants and tries to achieve more, but until it comes out, you should forget about reproaches. And the idea of how to motivate him to new achievements by mentioning other more successful men - put it out of your head. You do not want to finally "finish off" your loved one? He is already not sweet from the fact that he is unable to realize himself in his career, and here you are with yours: "Masha's husband was appointed deputy general general yesterday."

Don't make him a housewife

If your husband is temporarily out of work, of course, there is a temptation to put all the household chores on him. Like, I feed my family, do at least something useful. But in this way you will achieve only a divorce and nothing else. In addition, there is a risk of swapping places with her husband: a woman belonging to the psychological muscular type, having chosen a feminine man, can eventually become the only breadwinner, turning her partner into a housewife. Therefore, make everything softer: ask him to do some household chores, but not in an orderly form, leave something for yourself (albeit sheer nonsense), but do not stop being a woman in his eyes.

Don't emphasize the difference in income

In general, it is extremely foolish to constantly remind your man that he is not wealthy, and you are extremely successful. It is unlikely that any of the women will thus solve the problem of his modest earnings. It is clear that such an attitude will only exacerbate an already tense situation. Look at the famous actress Julia Roberts and her beloved husband - simple cameraman Daniel Moder: 11 years of marriage, three children and no rumors in the press regarding financial quarrels.

It is extremely foolish to constantly remind your man that he is not wealthy, and you are extremely successful.

Don't make him ask you for money

Especially in public. Agree that both his and your earnings are the total budget that you distribute together. But never model the situation as follows: your husband does not have enough money to buy something, he has to call you and ask for money. For such cases, your family should have a supply available to both your spouse and you.

Someone may be scared: I will encourage and support him in everything, and he will relax, as a result I will become a man. But this is possible only in a situation where your partner is deliberately looking for a "warm corner" and does not seek to assert himself as a successful man. Otherwise, do not even worry: he will still try to do everything possible to prove to himself and to you his own worth.

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