Let's do it quick or a little about loneliness

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

The pace of your life is steadily increasing, haste has become the norm. You constantly do not have time for something and are late somewhere. Modern technologies increase the speed of information transfer and the speed of movement, but this is still not enough.

- What a slow country! said the Queen. - Well, here, you know, you have to run as fast just to stay in the same place! If you want to get to another place, then you need to run at least twice as fast! *

And you run. You are in a hurry, you are experiencing event after event. You set goals, achieve them and immediately come up with new ones.

This rhythm is dangerous. It is dangerous because it does not give you the opportunity to realize and pass through yourself the really important things happening in life. This can be compared to how, two days later, you forget the names of the characters and the plot from the detective Daria Dontsova you just read. I'm sorry, I'm sorry, of course, you don't read this … Only Kafka and Dostoevsky, of course.

Adapting to the modern rhythm of life, women are becoming more rational. Including in the sphere of relations.

Why go to theaters and discos with friends for long evenings in order to meet a worthy young man? It is much easier and more practical to place a profile on a dating site. And then with the methodicalness of Procrustes to chop off unworthy candidates even on the way …

One of my acquaintances offered the young people who had passed the initial face control a list of questions to which they had to answer. At first I thought it was nonsense, but now I’m just sure it’s brilliant!

Firstly, a person who is not serious will not spend time on this at all, and secondly, one way or another, the candidate for the girl's attention will show his intellectual level. And most importantly, these questions spoke about my friend herself much more than all the information about her located on a dating site.

Everything is clear. Questionnaire, selection in accordance with predetermined criteria, the agreed time for an invitation to coffee (ideally at lunchtime: time is short, you have to understand …) And the run continues …

In family life, the rhythm is no less frantic. Wake up, morning toilet, child - to kindergarten / school - and run to work for neuroses. And as quickly as possible, otherwise you will get the biggest and most unpleasant of them.

Now let's think about what happens if you stop. Or at least slow down the rhythm of life. The correct answer is NOTHING. The Earth will not go out of orbit, your company will not cease to exist, and even to you nothing special will happen. True, then you will have time to understand what you have been running from all this time.

And this discovery can turn out to be unpleasant. And so much so that you would prefer to return to the old way of life, about which you constantly complain to your friends. After all, an overloaded schedule creates a feeling of your need or even need. Gives the illusion that if you stop, everything will go to hell.

A business lady does not feel lonely at all - what kind of loneliness are we talking about if the phone is constantly red-hot and the battery lasts at best for one day?

By the way, about loneliness … Chuck Palahniuk once tried to define this concept. He came to the conclusion that absolutely everyone is alone. Loneliness is life itself. The quality of our loneliness is another matter … By the way, the fact of having a stamp on marriage does not mean that you are less lonely. Family relationships can be the most powerful and most ruthless form of loneliness. However, the conversation is not about this, but about loneliness.

We run, we run, we run … A huge number of new people, a sea of conversations, emails, SMS, ICQ messages …

There is such a term: communicative satiety. This concept was formulated in 1995. Indicates a situation in which the number of contacts increases significantly due to the loss of their depth. In itself, this is neither good nor bad, just such are the new circumstances of city life.

But communicative satiety has one important consequence. We gradually forgot how to talk to each other. Not choosing words for a long time, as in the course of communication on ICQ, but eye to eye, with ease, with tenderness, without hurrying anywhere and sincerely. Something really important.

One of my acquaintances left Odessa a long time ago. About a year ago I came to visit. Later I received the following message from her: “Here, in Odessa, people close to me live. For a year I thought: we'll meet - we'll talk … Let's talk cool. But I can't talk. Or we chat about something insignificant, about something that is happening right before our eyes, and not about some accumulated important things. Or we just live side by side during the short time that we see each other. And we part without speaking."

There is a very good song from Makarevich "Let's pause."

Listen. Think where and from what you are running. Stop and listen to this summer. There is very little of it left.

- No, no, I'm not talking about that. It's just … my dad changes cars almost every year.

- I know about such customs, - said Bogdan. - You see … I would, probably, too. To earn a new carriage every year, I would have to work twelve hours a day. Fever all the time. I could, of course. But I prefer, for example, in the spring every day to leave half a century from the city, to go to the side of the road … And think, and listen to the snow melting until dusk … **

* Quote from "Alice Through the Looking Glass" by Lewis Carroll

** Quote from "The Case of the Greedy Barbarian" by Holm Van Zaichik