Twice aunt

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

When I was first awarded the title of honor:"

Naturally, in subsequent years, the sister did not even talk about the possibility of giving birth to another child, and the existing one enjoyed universal love and tenderness. After the fears and memories subsided, she decided to give in to the desire to raise her daughter, which freed the hands of everyone who dreamed of giving dolls and tying bows, and I hope to play "mothers-daughters" instead of my usual entertainment with the "little bandit", when two madmen are running around the apartment - an overage and a small one - shouting: "Give up! bang-bang-bang!" - and pistol guns in all possible places. Although, when I first saw a small and loud lump, I can't say that I was delighted. But as he grew older, the godson-nephew captured my heart and made me crawl on carpets with the fifth point raised, conducting rallies that were not inferior to Formula 1.

It cannot be said that I did not build my relationship with the "child" according to the books of Child Psychology, more often I am guided by intuition in life, but sometimes both I and my parents naturally had "difficulties" in upbringing. Now the miracle child is five, and this "atomic creature", never ceasing to amaze, sometimes makes you think about many questions, to which it is sometimes very difficult to give the correct answer.

I want to give out my "secrets" for winning love and friendship to all those who are interested, especially to aunts - uncles.

Play is as important to the harmonious development of a child as food, drink and a sense of security. Games bring joy to the child, enrich him with knowledge, develop skills and abilities, awaken his imagination. Therefore, when you are given a machine gun or a typewriter, you should not say that you have no mood or that you need to write a term book. You take a machine gun and rush around the apartment screaming and screaming. And if angry parents decide that such a "game" will not amuse the neighbors below, then your nephew will really like standing together in the "punished" corner, as persons who violated public order. The kid will be delighted with your solidarity, and secondly, he will not have resentment for the fact that both are to blame, but he pays alone.

A child is interested in literally everything, and if his natural curiosity is not limited by various prohibitions, he can learn a lot. Do not be afraid that the child will create a mess in the house, the main thing is not to suppress his craving for knowledge. Distinguish colors, count to queen, you can start from an early age. At first he will get confused, and give out something like: "What a blue grass, like a fire engine", but gradually he will learn to distinguish not only colors, but also shades: "This is not yellow, like the sun, but like an orange."

Again, it is very important, along with your little animals and cubes, to allow your child to become familiar with pots, lids, plastic dishes, paper, empty plastic bottles and many other safe household items. My cousin played only with kitchen utensils, and now he makes such soups that no one in the family can compete.

As experience accumulates, a child in the third year of life no longer simply copies the external form of a certain activity of adults, but more and more comprehends and reproduces its content. He bathes his doll, puts him to bed, or turns himself into a "chauffeur", "builder", etc. At first, these are simple forms of play, but later, when the child begins to go to kindergarten, the nature of the games is more and more close to reality, the number of roles increases depending on what the child has learned about the social world around him. The peculiarity of role-playing games is that the child mentally transforms into another person and acts accordingly.

Just the other day I receive a letter from my sister that my godson is already quite a prosperous fiancé of some Masha from his kindergarten group. When the phrase "I will have a bride!" Was first heard, one of my friends said: "Kohl, how many of them you will have! Brides and girls!" Tuned in to the "right" thoughts, the child answered without hesitation: "I will have a lot of girls, but only one bride!" - and, having received an approving nod from his beloved aunt, added: "This will be our friend Tom's with Zhenya!" (I meant my girlfriend, who fiddles with him as much as I do and whom he adores). I will notice right away that it makes no sense to emphasize this "unreal" choice, persuading and proving the opposite. He will simply declare that he "only wants her" and your friends will remember this funny episode for a long time.

Behaving in an adult way, children copy everything that they managed to "grab" and hear. Recently I came to visit my sister and when I was going to see friends in the evening, I first gave my nephew a full report on where, to whom, why I was going, what time I would return and whether I would even spend the night at all.

Children love it when books are read to them, not only at night, but also during the day. If the kid asks you to read him a fairy tale, ask him to choose the one he loves most - this is a very valuable indicator of the child's social orientation in the future. When we asked our teacher-psychologist how best to determine who the beloved creature would become, he answered briefly: "If your daughter loves Cinderella, this is a sign of a person who will achieve by hard work and reward (as a" kingdom "), and By the way, it is very important to orient "correctly" from the very beginning and not only with books. Television and radio are opium for the people no less than religion according to Marx. "Kiss me everywhere - I'm 18 already!" wives? He kisses one, is at home on the other, and another at work?"

If the birth of another child is expected in the family in the middle of pregnancy, when the mother's belly begins to noticeably round and the fetal movements are already felt, tell the child that a small one will soon appear in the family. It is necessary to explain to the child that he, too, was so small in his mother's belly, and then he appeared from there and everyone was very happy that a child had appeared in the family. "Now you are already big, and we will have a little one again, to whom we will all be very glad, and whom everyone will love like you." When Kolka was asked: "Whom does he want more: a boy or a girl?" he replied: "I do not want either a boy or a girl! I want to lyalu!" When Katyusha appeared to the question: "Well, how do you like your little sister?", He happily said: "She is the way I wanted!" It is very important not to disappoint the child with the appearance of another, and even the wrong gender, that he wanted. He must get used to changes in the family, rebuild. But parents should also take into account the new situation and not demand too much from the older child: "Shut up, please! You can see that I'm busy with the little one!", "Don't touch the baby!" Such treatment hurts the child, which is why many children begin to behave aggressively: throwing toys on the floor, breaking them, tearing picture books, etc.

The above, only to a small extent, meets all possible situations and cases. The main thing to remember is that children do not forget anything, and if you promise something, you must fulfill it, otherwise the child will not believe your words, and you will never win his favor.