The Cleo Experiment: Eight Confessions of Love

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

It is generally accepted that starting a conversation about feelings is a matter for men. But many representatives of the stronger sex pull with confessions for various reasons. For example, because they are afraid to hear in response: “I don’t you”. Maybe you should take matters into your own hands? We decided to find out what it is like to confess your love first. And what will happen after such recognition. A detachment of three brave correspondents was sent to field research. They needed to play men in whom they really could be secretly in love: friends, colleagues, acquaintances, their own boyfriends. So, declarations of love.

Natalia Pokachalova: "I was glad that I know how to choose friends."

1. Tried to recapture his friend from his girlfriend

Igor, an old friend, I made an appointment in a cafe. I know he has a girlfriend. And over a cup of coffee, I start a conversation:

- We always spoke directly with you, so without much introduction I want to admit: I have loved you for a long time!

- (Choking on coffee and clearing his throat) Are you kidding?

- No, I'm more serious than ever. I really love you. Don’t bother, I’m not suggesting you marry.

- (Quickly) Yes, I don't really strain, just unexpectedly somehow. You never even hinted at any feelings there. I'm used to you being always there, your boyfriend on the board. Yes, I will not hide, I asked myself the question, what connects us with you … Or something like that.

- I wonder what it is "like this"? Is this sex?

- (Confused) Well, yes, I'm still a man. I could not help but pay attention to such a pretty and intelligent woman like you.

Alas, the compliments ended there.

- Igor, believe me, we will succeed, because we know each other so well, - I continued to convince him that we are an ideal couple.

He mumbled about the fact that he already has a girlfriend. I was a real homeless woman: "So what, today you are with her, tomorrow - with me." He blushed, was very afraid of offending me and tried to be patient. In the end, he began to frantically put on his jacket: he referred to some urgent matters and said that he needed to think about everything properly. I was relieved to hear that it was an experiment, and we immediately forgot about everything.

Feelings based on the results:

I was glad that I know how to choose friends. In response to my declaration of love, he did not laugh, did not get rude and did not insult me. He treated my feelings with care.

2. Received an indecent proposal from a colleague

With my colleague Alexei, a photographer, I decided to talk on the phone. At work, we are always busy, it is difficult to seize the moment. I'm calling. Lesha picks up the phone. I blur out to him:

- Hi, this is Natalia. I have long wanted to tell you, I love you!

In response, silence.

- Hello, Lesh, can you hear me?.. I understand that this is unexpected for you, but it just so happened, I could no longer be silent.

- Well … I don't even know …

The interlocutor is clearly in a stupor. I'm trying to stir him up.

- Yes, how talkative you are today! I am about love to him, but he is neither "be" nor "me". Maybe you can say something in return?

- Yes, I will not come to my senses in any way.

- Yes, you really come to your senses quickly, otherwise the girl was completely tired of waiting. What should we do with this now?

- (Thinking) Maybe we should get used to it, take a closer look at each other?

- How's that?

- Well, are you really little? Like all men and women …

- I do not understand.

- (Laughing) Well, you, mother, give it. I thought you were smart. What you do not understand? I propose banal sex, and then we'll see …

I am outraged. I told him about feelings, he told me about sex. After being silent for a little longer, Lesha finally gives the poor lover hope.

- You know, I also like you to some extent.

- Yes? (I don't seem to be able to contain the irony in my voice.) And how much do you like me?

- (Irritated) Why do you cling to words? I like you as a woman to a man. Let's try, maybe something will come out of this.

At this point, I stop playing and tell you about the task of the editorial board. He sighs with relief and jokes, getting rid of the feeling of awkwardness.

Feelings based on the results:

I think I enjoyed declaring my love. This is all so funny. But only when it is not about serious feelings. I have never made such declarations of love.

3. Found personal happiness

Zhenya, my boyfriend, should come to me in five minutes. I am about to confess my love and for the first time during this experiment I am seriously worried. We've been dating for four months now, but we haven't talked about feelings yet. But it would be high time. The doorbell rings, here it is. I refuse to go bowling with him: this is not the best place for a declaration of love. We walk in the park. I just can't make up my mind. Finally, I gather my courage and say quietly: "I love you."

It looks like it was like a bolt from the blue for him. Some time passes, he does not immediately manage to cope with emotions. He takes me in his arms and turns me around.

- You know, I myself wanted to tell you this for a long time, but somehow I did not dare.

He also tells me words about love and adds many others: "Now I will say this to you so often that when I am not there, you will always hear with your heart the words: I love you, I love you …"

Feelings based on the results:

It's good that I was given such a task. After all, for a long time we could not talk to each other about love, so much to lose precious time for us. Until I tell him about this experiment, I don't want him to think that it was just a joke, a game. Over time, I will definitely admit it. I think he will understand. After all, I love him so much.

Anna Korytina: "Men are waiting for us to ask"

4. Lost a friend, got a fan

The first "victim" of my experiment will be my best friend, Sasha. We have been friends since school. This is the person who is the first to know all the details of my personal life. He recently broke up with his girlfriend, so the situation is right. I call him in the evening:

- Sasha, listen, I'm writing an article here about how often romances happen between best friends. I wonder which one of you and I would make a couple?

- Very beautiful! A blue-eyed brunette and a brown-eyed blonde, why not a couple?

- What if I tell you that I have been in love with you for a long time and was just afraid to admit it?

A pause lasting a minute.

- Well … I like you too. (Oops, this is a discovery!)

- So you love me?

- Of course! You and I will get married, give birth to a bunch of kids and settle in the suburbs of Italy.

Well, he brought it down to a joke as always.

“Well, if you think my feelings are funny, then I have nothing to talk to you about.

I hang up, confident that he will call me back. He always does that. But not at this time.

Day passed. I called him under a plausible pretext myself: I ask him to give back the disc that I borrowed from the video distribution. He offers to meet in a cafe. Strange, he used to always invite me to his home. Was he so scared?

Twelve in the afternoon, a cafe in the city center. As always, I was late for an hour. Sasha waited for me, however, as always … On the table is a bouquet of my favorite white roses.

- You know, I just realized that you are the girl I was looking for. How strange life plays with us. Three days ago, I was desperate and thought that I was no longer destined to meet my soul mate. But it turned out that I simply did not notice her …

Feelings based on the results:

Well, I'm in trouble. And how can I explain all this to him now? It turned out that confessing your love to your best friend is like crawling through a minefield. I remember someone saying that love spoils friendship. And he was not far from the truth. Therefore, confessing your love to your best friend is worth it only if you are one hundred percent confident in your feelings.

5. Scared a colleague half to death

The next "test subject" was Max, the editor of one of the magazines I work with. We met three months ago. He is married, but loves to have light affairs on the side and flirts with all of his employees, including me. For recognition, I chose the usual way of communication for me and Max: ICQ.

I started with jokes about our relationship. He picked it up enthusiastically.

- Max, and I really love you …

- Are you serious? Or are you kidding?

- Well, do they joke about such things?

- Maybe then we will meet in private?

- You do not understand, I want a serious relationship …

The flower of his ICQ suddenly turned red … It looks like this one really got scared. Three days have passed. Max fell into the ground. There is no ICQ, he does not answer calls, however, as well as SMS. Well, nothing, today we have a planning meeting. On it, he simply must be.

I was five minutes late for the planning meeting, perhaps because I was afraid to come earlier. And as soon as the discussion of the new issue came to an end, he quickly walked to the door. He attacked the wrong one! I intercepted poor Max and literally dragged him into the editorial dining room.

- We need to talk seriously.

- Well, you understand … I have a wife … I love her … You are a wonderful girl. You will definitely meet your man.

Feelings based on the results:

Confessing your love to a colleague means starting not only an office romance, but also rumors that will haunt you. Tested on our own experience. I will not make such declarations of love again.

6. Learned new things about men

Pasha is my boyfriend. We agreed to meet with him after work in a cafe.

- Pash, we have already met with you for two months … Maybe it's time to decide something?

- Are you offering us to get married? (There is a slight fear in the voice).

- No, for now I just want to tell you: "I love you."

- I love you too, kid.

- Do you really love me?

- Of course, kid.

- Why did you never tell me about it?

- So you didn't ask!

Feelings based on the results:

It seems that some men are not the first to confess their love to us just because we do not ask them about it. It makes sense to take the first step.

Irina Bolotnikova: "Communication has not changed."

7. Not disappointed in a friend

- Hello, hello, I need to meet with you, - I said on the phone to my friend Pasha. The voice trembled with excitement, and it fit perfectly into the script. - On a personal matter …

We agreed to meet in the park. Pashka appeared, as always, cheerful, and at first we chatted for a long time about business.

- You know, Pash. Don't think about anything … I understand that we grew up together, and matured, and I attended your wedding … But, unfortunately or fortunately, I no longer have the strength to keep my biggest secret in myself.

Pashka frowned and listened. We looked very serious. I thought, probably, I would tell him something secret about my family or something like that I was sick with something. Even some kind of fright appeared in my eyes.

- In general, I love you.

- What are you, Ir? Is that what you wanted to tell me this secret? I also love you very much! To me too, surprised … Although, nice, of course!

Until I explained that I meant romantic love, he was "pretending to be a hose." And then slowly but surely he began to ponder over what I had said. I asked to think about my words. And the next day he called and told me:

“You and I are the best friends. We are proof that friendship between a man and a woman exists! - Pasha almost shouted from excitement. - You need to forget about it. Just forget it, you know? I cannot break my whole life, family and … and lose such a friend! I'll call you … It's like Lenka and Zhenya and I were going to "300 Spartans".

Feelings based on the results:

I did not expect any other reaction from him.

What makes sense for a woman to take the initiative?

	Get to know yourself
	Declare your love if you fall in love
	The most hint of sex
	The very offer to marry
	Always and in everything whenever you want
	Better to push men to take action gradually.
	Any initiative must come from men.

8. Was shocked by reciprocal feelings

But with the next "experimental" the situation turned out to be more interesting. Meet my colleague Artyom, who, according to rumors, has long dreamed of being my boyfriend. He is a good guy, I even felt sorry for him a little, as I thought that I would have to disappoint later.

A love letter was used. In all colors and details, I painted him my unearthly love. “I wanted to confess earlier, but I was afraid. It always seemed to me that you would consider me an easy target or unworthy. But I don't want to hide anymore. If you refuse me … Just forget about the letter and never tell me about it. And no one else."

He came to me with sweets that very evening. “You knew that I would not refuse you, you knew! You have no idea what this means to me!"

I felt so ashamed that I almost burst into tears. I had no idea that he would react so violently.

I had to lie: “What? What are you talking about, Tyoma? Yes, I got up the nerve to tell the unfortunate guy that I don't know anything, I haven't written anything to him and I'm very sorry. Kind of like this is someone's evil prank.

Fortunately, Artyom believed me right away. He apologized, gave the candy and went home. I didn’t think about it anymore, but I wasn’t particularly embarrassed either.

Feelings based on the results:

Our communication has not changed. But my conscience sometimes tingles.

It looks like the game is worth the candle. According to statistics, 70% of men welcome women's initiative in relationships. Our experiments confirm this. All three girls received confessions in return, although they interviewed not a hundred or ten of their acquaintances, but only two or three. In other words, the probability of success is very high. And another good news: men do not laugh at women in love and do not offend them. These are our declarations of love.