6 questions to ask him before the wedding

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

(Some stars didn't)

To determine how well you suit each other in the long term, it is enough to discuss a few simple, but extremely important questions. Below are the stories of several Hollywood marriages that fell apart just because famous brides forgot something from their grooms before getting married.

Question number 1. Where will we live?

One of the main reasons for the divorce of socialite Kim Kardashian from the famous NBA basketball player Chris Humphries: the couple could not decide where to build a family nest. He was going to return to his native Minnesota, and she wanted to stay in Hollywood to be closer to her star family and to the paparazzi. Probably, before they trumpet the whole world about their wedding, they should have come to an agreement on the "housing issue". Perhaps then the marriage of Kim and Chris would have lasted longer than a few weeks.

Discuss with your future spouse where you are going to live in the near future and in the long term - these are things that must be clarified and approved before the moment when you exchange rings. This is not an idle question about weather preferences outside the window. Ask yourself if you can stand life away from your parental home, from friends, from the usual infrastructure? Is there an opportunity in the new place for self-realization and continued career growth for both of you?

Question number 2. When will we have children?

According to very plausible rumors, the divorce of Brad Pitt and Jennifer Aniston led to disagreements on "when to have a baby." Aniston still justifies herself, assuring that she always dreamed of children, but during the time preceding their breakup, she found herself between two fires: on the one hand, Pitt insisted on replenishing the family, on the other, filming of the series "Friends" and Aniston had just finished hoped, being on the crest of serial fame, to start a career in big cinema. What is the result? Scandalous divorce.

Jennifer can hardly be blamed for anything. But her fate can serve as a lesson for us: of course, each of the spouses dreams of children, but before marriage, you need to discuss more specifically in what period of time you are planning a pregnancy.

Question number 3. How much do you believe in heaven, hell, Zarathustra or aliens?

Poor Nicole Kidman! It would seem, what could threaten their happy marriage with Tom Cruise? And suddenly 10 years of carefree happiness down the drain! Dispersed! Divorced. And because of what? It turned out that Tom's commitment to the teachings of Ron Hubbard is much stronger than the commitment given to the altar to his wife. Nicole, you see, as a Catholic, could not agree with some of her husband's convictions. In general, I found a scythe on a stone! As a result, Nicole was left with a nose, while Tom converted the less scrupulous Katie Holmes to his faith.

Of course, the problem is not that two people with different religious views cannot get along under the same roof. They can, and there are many examples of this. However, if either of you or both of you are extremely principled in matters of faith, no matter what, be it Christianity, Judaism, Buddhism, Satanism, atheism and anything else, you should definitely have a serious conversation on the topic “How can religious differences be reflected? on our life together? Certainty is needed on many issues, starting with what ceremony the wedding ceremony will take place, and ending with the religious upbringing of children. And in general, ask yourself, how big a problem will it be for you that one of you, for example, is sure that he was created in the image and likeness of God, and the other sarcastically claims that people are not far from the monkey?

Question number 4. Do you have debts that I don't know about?

A year ago, Jennifer Lopez finally decided to break up with Mark Anthony and filed for divorce. But, apparently, their relationship cracked back in 2007, when it was suddenly revealed that the hubby must return taxes to the state in the amount of 2.5 million dollars. Marriage is not only the merging of two happy hearts, but also the amalgamation of their financial obligations into one family budget. Therefore, the tax problems of the spouse after the solemn exchange of rings become your headache from the point of view of the law. Hubby's two and a half million debt to the federal government meant that J. Lo would not receive a significant amount of royalties from concert activities, as they would go to pay off the family debt that had become common.

Unless you're a Hollywood star, you probably shouldn't worry about your betrothed's millions in debt. But before you defile to the Mendelssohn's march, it is advisable to find out for sure, and not if the dear half will charge you with the previously unbearable loan?

Question number 5. How close are you to your family?

Maintaining close relationships with your family is a wonderful skill! But some people cannot even take a step without their mother's or father's approval. When Nick Lachey and Jessica Simpson broke up, it was rumored that Jessica's father Joe, who dominated her career and unceremoniously disposed of her personal life, played a decisive role in this.

You need to understand in advance what impact your family and the groom's family can have on your family life. Relatives, no matter how you love them, often put pressure on authority, give unsolicited advice or express very subjective opinions. The fate of your marriage is largely determined by whether you both are able to withstand this "pressure" with dignity. Nick supposedly couldn't come to terms with Joe's dad's influence on Jessica. And Jessica, in turn, either could not, or did not want to make an effort to save her own marriage and put in her father's place.

Question number 6. Are you sure you're only willing to have sex with me for the rest of your life?

It is better to find out his true thoughts about whether adultery in marriage is permissible in advance. Honestly discussing such things gives at least confidence that you will not feel like a complete fool one day after discovering that you have been cheated on over the past ten years. But what if, deep down, he believes that cheating on his wife is the sacred right of every man, that “a good leftist strengthens marriage”? Upon learning of this, you can either accept this position, agree to deliberately "not notice" his adventures, or end the relationship. In any case, it is better to agree on everything else “on the shore”.

But it can be difficult to get the truth out of men about such delicate issues. How can you find out before the wedding how faithful your spouse will be to you? There is a sure way: look into his past! Find his ex and ask her if he cheated on her. Does he have the fame of a ladies' man in the ranks of friends? It would be advisable for, say, Sandra Bullock to inquire in advance about the past of Jesse James, a traitor who never missed a single skirt.