Video: The right partner can be identified by the style of conversation
2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00
How to interest a man? Some psychologists recommend “mirroring” the object - dressing in a similar style and even breathing in sync while communicating. Indeed, our sympathies are largely determined by our own characteristics. In particular, American scientists have found that similarity in speech style is one of the factors of long-term romantic relationships.
Conversation style (the way a person uses prepositions, conjunctions, interjections and words like "this", "this", "to be", "something", "what", "I will", "him", "and") can play an important role. The experiment showed that people with similar speech styles tend to show interest in each other.
“Functional words are important, they require social skills. For example, if I talk about an article coming out and for a few minutes I mention it in conversation as "this article", and you and I know what I mean. However, the person who did not participate in the conversation will not understand,”Pennebaker said. "What is most wonderful is that it happens spontaneously, we cannot control our style of speech."
Scientists, led by James Pennebaker of the University of Texas at Austin, assembled a group of volunteers who were to conduct several speed dating. Each meeting lasted no more than 4 minutes. During the meeting, the students told each other about their area of specialization, about their hometown, hobbies, and more. All the conversations were very similar to each other. A special program analyzed the transcripts of the messages. This made it possible to identify similarities and differences in the style of speech.
As a result, couples with similar speech styles were four times more likely to be willing to continue communication after the experiment. Scientists obtained the same result in a study of 10-day online communication of couples - 80% of couples whose writing style was the same continued to communicate after three months.
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