I'm an egoist? Thanks for the compliment

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Remember how some time ago it was fashionable to shock the public, declaring that "yes, here, they say, I am such a selfish nature, and I am not ashamed of this vice in any way!" It is clear what kind of reaction the proponents were counting on - most often it is the shock of those around you tickling your pride, saying: here she is, a woman who truly loves herself, which is not given to many to become! But, you must admit that a short moment of triumph, although pleasant, is not at all fundamental.

I would still like to bring a more stable support under my own egoism … such that the ubiquitous THEY trembled, and YOU yourself did not tempt your conscience with unexpected questions about whether your egoism is justified, is it permissible for you and, in general, is there a concept of "healthy egoism "or it is just a figment of your dreamed imagination. Especially in order for us to finally stop squabbling, competent psychologists through tricky research have determined that, it turns out, all people with a healthy psyche are the most egoists. Moreover, this is an absolute norm!

And some of the researchers generally believe that being selfish is practically a civic duty of each of us. For example, the well-known psychologist Naritsyn claims that: “True altruism is possible only in a psychiatric hospital - there, if a person gives the last bowl of porridge to his roommate, the staff will in any case not let him die, in extreme cases, they will feed him through a tube. in the surrounding world, where there is no one to take care of a person, if such an absolute altruist distributes everything that he has, without any compensation for himself, as a result, he will not be able to exist as a biological subject, and even more so he will not be able to help someone because he has nothing to give to others."

Having collected authoritative opinions, results of surveys, tests and experiments, as well as a lot of subjective and objective, but necessarily useful information together, you can construct a real Code of Laws and Rules of the Reasonable Selfish … The result is the following:

1. Even being guided by the noblest life goals, first of all take care of yourself, thereby providing yourself with the necessary conditions for further caring for others. For example, it is quite an ordinary situation - your bosom friend once again parted with the subject of her, alas, now bygone romantic dreams. And with might and main hints to you that if you, cruel, do not postpone the fifth time with your beloved Pavlik for the sake of going with her to a nightclub, the fifth this week, you will deservedly acquire the title of Not-Girlfriend … however, Pavlik's patience is not unlimited! (About this he tried to puff into the telephone receiver in response to your last refusal …) The murderous "either I, or HE" is about to come off the lips of your adored friend, along with accusations of "female lack of solidarity" … But do not rush to repent and rush to club to fidget there, presenting tomorrow's serious battles with a loved one. Psychologists are categorical: do not jeopardize your personal life, guided by the interests of your friend's personal life. Be selfish!

2. Try to clearly define what the concept of Sense of Duty is PERSONAL FOR YOU. And then, comparing it with the generally accepted interpretation, deduce your personal meaning of such, in general, a streamlined term, like this most notorious Feeling. Consider that the Feelings of Duty are different: before parents, before society, before the Motherland and nature … (I am lost, but, in my opinion, Marital Duty is wandering around somewhere …) Take time and sort out each category. This is in order to once and for all establish a normal relationship with all kinds of Feelings of Duty. And never again feel guilty or annoyed in relation to those.

3. Surely you have your favorite weaknesses. And maybe even a hobby! Great, if any. A hobby is the right path to self-actualization, which, according to the definition of the luminary of psychology Abraham Harold Maslow, is nothing more than the most important of human needs. And, by not satisfying this cunning need, by the way, we risk becoming entrenched in the opinion that "life has been lived in vain, everything is perishable and there is no need." Do you need it? I think no. In addition, being Selfish and realizing the "normality" of the existence of your own quirks and weaknesses (provided, of course, that they are not a serious obstacle on someone's path in life), you automatically become loyal to other people's weaknesses and quirks! And this, you must admit, is a direct road to various kinds of "mutual understanding".

4. The following logically follows from the previous point: the expression "Love your neighbor as yourself", which has set on edge, should be understood LITERALLY! That is, if you do not love yourself FIRST, then you simply cannot love anyone else! Being Selfish, day after day, cherishing your body and nourishing your spirit, you understand that a caring, loving, reverent attitude towards a person, in principle, is not a whim, but a norm. And this norm, of course, is true for everyone - for you, and for him, and for everyone else. That is, self-love and self-understanding teaches you understanding and condescension towards other people.

5. Public opinion and its possible inconsistency with yours is a special moment. Many and many of us, guided by the principles of universal "collectivism" instilled from childhood, have long despaired "to fit into social norms." And this "inconsistency" became a real disaster for them, giving rise to inferiority complexes and obsessive-compulsive disorder! Judge for yourself - well, how, with a height of one meter fifty, for example, you can fit yourself into the standard of a modern "socially erected" appearance ?! No way. Selfish women do not at all strive to "correspond" blindly. And you are not advised. And psychologists agree in unison: try to find your own for each point of "public" opinion. Not necessarily, by the way, contrary to the generally accepted! (Not everything is still so bad in this world …) But, you must admit, when you are firmly and reasonably confident that you are right, when you know that your point of view has the right to life - it, life, that is, becomes much more pleasant!

6. "Calm! Only calm!" Selfish women (not to be confused with self-centered women) are self-sufficient and calm, self-confident and friendly to others. How do they do it ?! Yes, easily: they extend their right to a free, interesting, exciting, useful and enjoyable life both to themselves and to everyone around them. Without exception.