Falling in love technique: tells a sexologist and NLP trainer

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Falling in love is not love yet. But it all starts with her. Suppose you have a man in mind with whom you would like to build a relationship, or you already know, but the relationship does not develop. What do you need to know in order to fall in love with a man, to become the one and only for him? Inna Paustovskaya, family psychologist, sexologist, international certified trainer of NLP and personal development programs, full member of the APPL, head of the wclub.pro training center, shared her little feminine tricks with "Cleo".

Do you have something in common?

Let's see how falling in love arises. Exists three whales on which the whole technique of falling in love is based … The first is your interest in each other when communication between a man and a woman is just beginning to develop. And here it is important to know: the more in common between you, the more likely your partner will think that your acquaintance is not accidental. That is why it is important to emphasize coincidences at the very beginning of communication, and if you see them, do not hesitate to talk about this man, focusing on even the smallest things. Act on the principle: the more the better. In addition to simple coincidences from the “me too” category (“I love it too,” “I also”), coincidences in values are more important when you find common views and interests. And here you need not only to say about them, but also to reinforce them with your actions.

For example, friends can be valuable for a man, then a girl should never scold her friends or ignore their attention. A man may say, "You don't need friends so much that you don't want to answer the call?" or "Is it difficult for you to help when they need it?"

Work is also a priority for many men. Then there is no need to reproach him with the fact that he often disappears at work and pays little attention to you. Instead, support him and show that you share the same views with him. When people have a lot in common, when there is a partner nearby who understands us, I don't want to let go of such a person. This also includes everything that unites you: an interesting pastime, joint actions, a hobby.

Proper investment of resources

The second critical component is the investment of resources. The golden rule of relationships is that whoever tries harder needs more. Therefore, if we want a man to be in love, it is important that he tries. The three main resources that he should invest in a relationship are time, money, and emotion. The first thing it all starts with is emotions, they also pull up all other types of resources. For example, when a man remembers how good it was, when he dreams of a future meeting, plans, fantasizes, etc. This also includes emotions with a minus sign when he is worried, for example, why a girl does not answer the phone.

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Emotions entail a temporary resource: a man thinks about her, he wants to meet with a girl more often, communicate by phone. Any help, any joint action is an investment of time, which is why it is important to provoke a man to pay more personal attention to the girl: not call a taxi, but take him himself. And the third element is money, when a man is spent on a girl. The more funds are involved in a relationship, the more their value to a man. When he remembers how much effort, time and money he spent on a girl, he no longer wants to abandon her. The girl needs to quickly assess which resource is the most scarce for the selected man in order to provoke him to invest the missing one. It is only important to do it delicately. For example, a student may have a lot of emotions, time, but little money. He is ready to communicate with a girl for days, but even a bouquet of flowers can be quite a big waste for him, especially if it is a large expensive bouquet. A successful man who is in business may be fine with money, but he is sorely lacking in time. It is easier for him to entrust someone to help the girl than to try himself. In this situation, you need to provoke him to invest his free time to the maximum.

No sex anywhere

And the third important component, without which the relationship will be more friendly, partner than close, personal, is sex. Some men say, “Why do these techniques of falling in love exist at all? Let the girl first feed the man, then satisfy him, and he will not go anywhere else. Of course, this is a joke, but it proves once again that sex is a really important component. There are relationships that only hold on to sex, because partners are so good with each other that they cannot feel anything like that with someone else. But such a relationship will be short-lived, because sex cannot always be equally good: what used to cause a storm of emotions, then becomes the norm. And here it is important that the effect of novelty is present, as well as the ability to receive and give pleasure. For example, there are girls who are focused only on the pleasure of a partner, but for many men the fact of how satisfied a woman was is important. This is an important moment for their self-esteem.

It is important that the effect of novelty is present, as well as the ability to receive and give pleasure.

In any case, all three components are needed to create and develop a beautiful and vibrant relationship. As soon as one of them drops out, it seems that something is missing. For example, there is an investment of money, common interests, but there is no good sexual component, in this case the partners will be ideal friends. If there is interest and good sex, but there is no investment, these will be meetings without obligations. If there are no common interests, then it will be a short-term "barter" relationship. The girl needs to make sure that there are no gaps in any of the three elements. Then the man's interest in her will not wane, the relationship will be long-lasting and the man himself will want to develop them and be always close to such a girl!