An acquaintance is announced

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

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Life melodrama is this: a single woman wants to meet! Let it be such, here, "comic", the most veiled, literally "covered with the darkness of the roofing iron" way, but still wants. Moreover, through the announcement. And, forgive the pun, is this Lonely One really so lonely in her quest to get to know each other through an ad?

Judging by the huge number of dating services - not at all: demand, as you know, gives rise to proposals, and in such a truly intimate sphere of human existence as a meeting and then reuniting two loving hearts, helpers and intermediaries abound. Yes, and the conversation will not go about them: today I would like to try to figure out what makes people of both, by the way, sexes refer to this, here, uh … a little strange way of dating, like an ad. Can you really count on success? And, in general, what to expect from an acquaintance on an ad?

Based on simple statistics, the first thing you hear in response to the above questions does not inspire optimism: where has it been seen that a NORMAL person "offers himself" in an ad ?!

"All the standing men have long been dismantled, married, or even more than once, and there is also a queue of mistresses behind them!", something is wrong with her … "- these are the most average statements of" not alone "about this way of arranging a personal life.

The lonely and the seekers are less categorical. And even the most skeptical of them, no, no, and will go over the column of dating ads. Why? Have they never heard the now commonplace saying that the "normality" of a person looking for a couple through dating announcements is questionable? Yes, no… you heard, of course! And in more successful "paired" times, for sure, they also pronounced it themselves with a proper dose of irony. So what makes them interested in dating ads?

According to psychologists, the largest percentage of single people who are interested in dating ads or submit these ads on their own are those who are almost desperate to get a couple in another way. Moreover, many of them themselves are unaware of their "despair", trying to hide it behind curiosity, idle interest "from nothing to do" or a desire to have fun.

Meanwhile, if you think carefully and put aside all the "gimmicks and jumps", it becomes clear that acquaintance by ad is the only, perhaps, widespread way that this "interested person" has not yet used in an attempt to find personal life happiness. That is, no acquaintance at work, in a cafe, on the street and in public transport, as well as all other possible success, did not have. The announcement remains.

Another category of acquaintances from the ad is the so-called "reinsurers". They, left alone, (even if this loneliness is not even a week old), begin to feverishly hiccup for themselves a couple in all known ways, including all sorts of resources, including dating announcements.

"Reinsurers" are mortally afraid of being left alone. They simply do not know what to do with their sudden loneliness, where to put themselves and what to direct the irrepressible energy of their loving heart. And the announcement is one of the ways in which you can move in the search for the second half. Moreover, this path is far from the only one: "reinsurers" are active on all fronts in the field of dating.

The number of "curious" is not very large, but it is still present. These citizens are naturally interested in the most unexpected things. They are eternal explorers. In everything. Including in matters related to the arrangement of personal happiness. "Meet the ad? Why not! Great idea!" - here is the "curious" answer. Most of such experimenters are very interesting and easy-going citizens, with them, as they say, "you will not get bored." However, one should not expect constancy from them either.

By the way, according to psychologists, it is among the "curious" that the highest percentage of those very coveted NORMAL, on which those who want to get to know each other by an ad usually count: an easy attitude towards life does not slow down the "curious" with almost nothing, therefore they will enthusiastically take advantage of any opportunity to get to know each other for a long time without hesitating either about the consequences or about the "decency" of acquaintance with an ad.

It is curious that the number of women and men who meet each other by ad is almost equal.

Someone prefers to post their own ad and humbly wait for answers: these are, as a rule, people are free, a little passive, not burdened with an excessive amount of inferiority complexes, (and sometimes even the other way around …), sometimes they are prone to narcissism, so read carefully how the person introduces himself and how many photos he attaches to the ad. Most often, oddly enough, they do not pin too high hopes on acquaintance through an ad, but treat it as another chance to meet their soul mate or get a pleasant adventure, nothing more. Those who, without placing their own announcement, carefully look for the one that should be answered with the purpose of acquaintance among the proposed ones, most often they are a little secretive, but decisive and proactive. They are more serious about this method of dating and sometimes think carefully before writing to the chosen applicant or applicant for their precious hand and heart.

And yet, you must admit, be that as it may, our attitude to dating through an ad remains ambiguous … Despite the fact that, according to statistics, a modern person has less time, and most importantly, opportunities, to find a suitable match, and, the higher the social and educational level of a person, the less chances that he will accidentally or purposefully dare to make an acquaintance!

Both modern men and women are too preoccupied with maintaining their own self-esteem at the proper level. This means that they are wary of a possible refusal that could shake this self-esteem, or they are terribly afraid of not meeting the requirements of the "opposite" side …

It would seem that dating by ad is a completely civilized way to find a partner, at least when you meet by ad, there is time to think, choose, calculate the consequences or costs … Why is the reputation of dating by ad, despite their simultaneous popularity, somewhat tarnished? Paradox? Or a logical pattern? Why are modern singles not in a hurry to use the services of dating services? Finally, why are these services invariably thriving? I would like to understand …