Marriage of convenience

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

How little you need to be happy, right? I just want to meet a handsome, rich (and what is important - generous), smart, interesting, charming, gentle, kind, loving man, with a good sense of humor, an expensive foreign car in the garage, a cottage on the seashore and a three-room apartment in the city center … This is such a trifle! Of course, your current boyfriend is also nothing, but he earns a little, and there is no apartment, and no prospect at all!

Why are we looking for a rich man?

You, of course, remember the fairy tales that your mother read to you as a child and which you are now reading to your children. We were not brought up on articles about Marxism and Leninism, we were told about Cinderella, who married a RICH prince, and Ivan the Fool, who married a RICH princess. What now we, adults, call self-interest, profit, calculation, has been inherent in us since childhood. It was a natural desire for every girl to meet a handsome prince. Note! We dreamed not about Emela from the stove in childhood, but about the prince!

When the wonderful years of our youth pass and we are faced with elementary everyday problems (buy bread, washing powder, pay utility bills), we have a natural desire to be sure that we can pay for all this both this month and and next. Money gives us confidence in the future, gives us freedom and independence from many things. When a person starts"

Calculation in relationships is a natural need, however …

When does marriage of convenience become a mistake?

When, for the sake of material gain, you are ready to make concessions, break your principles and the freedom given by money turns into dependence, and you begin to demand money from your man as if he must buy you a new mink coat and pay for the twelfth trip to Egypt this year …

A clear desire: we all want to live well and beautifully. But if you are ready to live with a man without feeling any feelings for him, except for the desire to once again put your hand into his wallet, sooner or later you will regret it. I don't want to scare you with a phrase like "God sees everything", but just think about how it would be for you if you were treated the same way as you do with your "sponsor"? The truth that you have to pay for everything is still valid.

Yes, you can justify yourself with some facts of your life (you need to raise the child to his feet, you do not want to return to the "communal apartment" to your mother), but then I will ask you another question: who gave you the right to sacrifice the feelings of one person for the sake of the feelings of another ? It's up to you to decide, of course. I know many couples where my friends got married according to the calculation, and everything is going well in their marriage: feelings, affection, relations in the family are even and harmonious towards my husband over time. Only to the question "will you stay with him if he stops making good money?" I will not wish such a wife to any man. And you wouldn't want a husband ready to leave you if you suddenly find yourself out of work, would you?

What do men think of a marriage of convenience?

: "The fact that women all the time look at my car and suit immediately puts a big obstacle to our, so to speak, spiritual relationship. Ladies are used to looking at my wallet the same way I used to look at their legs. negative imprint. I'm tired of being a sponsor. But I'm not good at understanding people and can't always understand what a woman is interested in: me or my wallet. Unfortunately, the latter wins almost always. That's why I didn't get married. I don't want to be an ATM."

: “When I start a relationship with a girl, we, of course, start going to restaurants, to discos, to the cinema. But it is clear that in addition to pleasant walks there should be something else. Sex obliges me to a lot. And first of all, I consider myself obligated to pay for all our entertainment. I am a man and I have to take care of the financial side of our relationship. And if I marry a girl, I have to provide for my family myself. And if this is a cold calculation on the part of the girl, I will learn about this is the first one. Simply because my character is difficult for a person who does not really love me. For no money in the world, a woman who does not love me will not be able to tolerate me."

: "In the morning - money, in the evening - chairs. Everything is fine here. In terms of sponsorship. I need sex, she needs my money. It's a normal deal. It's another matter that I took my former classmate as my wife, not a young long-legged girl. was with me always, even when I did not have a company and two cottages. I am sure of this person. And these girls who jump from "wheelbarrow" to "wheelbarrow" jump, find themselves some Vanya from Prostokvashino and will be him to spread rot to old age, that they dreamed of diamonds, but got a milking cow."

In fact, a person who is willing to pay to have someone with him or to have sex with him is spiritually dissatisfied. This means that at some point in his life, he could not achieve some goal without money, but realized his plan when he was able to pay. A person is not confident in his abilities, but he is sure that he can buy what he could not get for free. They hide their complexes and fears behind their wallet. And many of the men are ready to be sponsors for the simple reason that, enjoying the opportunities that money gives them, they indulge their pride and raise their self-esteem. This is a kind of virtual reality that can end at the moment when the company goes bankrupt and the property goes under the hammer. Now, such cases are far from uncommon. Which, by the way, suggests that marriage with a rich man (a private entrepreneur, for example) does not give you a guarantee that you will be provided for for life.

When you sit well next to a rich groom, a marriage of convenience becomes a normal, natural and even inevitable thing. At such moments, conscience, disinterestedness and adherence to principles, for some reason, go on a long-term vacation. But you also get addicted to other people's money. And it will be very difficult to find support for your ambitions if you ever lose this money. If you married for convenience, I sincerely wish you to love your husband and be happy to you, regardless of his financial situation. And if you cannot extract any benefit from your man besides endless mutual love, lean on each other's shoulders and build your future and your capital together.