Little stubborn

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Children's whims of anyone, even the most balanced person, can lead to complete insanity. Sometimes it is as if a demon possesses a child - he does everything the other way around.

Here, for example, is a scene from everyday life. Early morning … Mom has enough work to do, she doesn't have to relax - feed everyone, send her husband to work, send the older child to school, take the youngest to kindergarten, and she herself needs to clean the feathers (as if not to be late for the morning meeting!). And then it begins!"

You, probably, yourself feel that your baby is an individual, unique, personality, and this is manifested from his very birth, isn't it? And by the age of three or four, a downright donkey stubbornness awakens in him. Nervousness, tears, dad with a strap and mom with valerian, but you never know what else … But you want to cope with this! After all, this is your child, and you value his peace of mind (and your own, too, what a sin to hide!). Therefore, do not rush to give a slap, restrain angry exclamations and try to adhere to simple rules that will help keep the peace in your home.

First of all - and the sooner the better - set boundaries … The child should know what is strictly forbidden to him. This may relate to his relationship with the world around him and objects that can cause harm: you can not touch matches (light it together, let the little one understand that it can be hot and painful), knives (just touch the blade), stick anything into the outlet and lean out the window; you cannot be rude to your grandmother, tease the dog and drag the cat by the tail - this is not a toy; when he grows up and will walk on his own - you cannot talk and leave (!) with strangers.

Such prohibitions should not be violated under any circumstances. In principle, as you understand, there are quite a few of them, and so that the world does not seem to the kid as one big one, DO NOT use the following trick - if possible suggest an alternative … Of course, you can't cut with a large kitchen knife, but if you take a toy knife (or also a kitchen knife, but completely stupid), then you can "cut" something for the dolls. You can't cut the leaves of indoor flowers, but you can cut them out of paper (and in the summer - under the guidance of your mother - cut the grass in the country). You cannot water the sofa or the TV, but if you take a watering can, a bottle of water and go out into the yard (and the pretend bench will be a sofa), everything will be great.

Of course, this does not always work, but here I propose a third trick - make concessions where possible … Returning to the example with the dress, I advise you to ask yourself the question: "Is it so important?" Most likely no. Then do not wait for the roar (in this case, it turns out that the little caprice "bellowed" an "indulgence" for herself), but immediately orient yourself: "Another dress? Oh, really, it is much better in it" or something like that. It's the same with food. Of course, no one says that the child, following his wishes, should be fed with chocolate in the morning, cake at lunch, and ice cream in the evening. But sometimes the hated porridge can be replaced with cereal and yogurt (usually children love it), milk with foam - with juice, and boiled carrots - with some kind of fruit.

It so happens that your sweetest child starts to "get turned on", but has not yet gone into hysterics. Here is where you try switch it to something else - think for yourself what is suitable in this situation. My whimsical daughter, for example, has one wonderful quality - she loves to help, bring and take away, "heal" her mother, and I use it. Only she opens her mouth to let out a deafening cry, and I immediately: "Hey, are we going to bake a cake? Bring the mold as soon as possible! And where is the flour?" Or: "Oh, docha, my head hurts. Do you remember where I put the pills?" Almost always helps (the most interesting thing is that she really knows where what lies better than me).

Can also be used for educational purposes invent and tell such tales … Option one: once upon a time there was a stubborn donkey, he often disobeyed his mother and therefore got into unpleasant stories. Once he chose boots for too long in the morning and was late for a holiday - all his friends were given gifts (list what your child especially loves - chupa chups, bananas …), but he didn't get it. Option two: once a girl - or a boy - was sleeping in a crib, and suddenly a whim flew into her mouth … Then come up with what you like. Just remember that in such a matter as education there can be no ready-made recipes.

Yulia Alexandrova