What should be the ideal man?

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

What is the concept of "ideal" for me? Probably, the synonyms that I choose mentally when I hear this word will answer this question: utopia, unreal image, template, standard. I think enough.

The ideal, like any purely personal subject, depending on individual tastes, can be absolutely opposite, according to different people. But there are still some general touches that everyone uses, then, already in their own taste, style and interest, completing the main picture. These fuzzy lines, which serve as a dotted line, most likely should carry a positive charge. Simply put, the ideal is something positive and light.

When people get into the perspective of any concept (regardless of gender, age, etc.), it is necessary to remember that a person is not a computer, not a robot, and nothing extreme should be allowed. It is impossible to see an animated face initially in that in which it is impossible to see it. To put it clearly, if we talk about people, then the calculation of the "ideal" is inappropriate. This is not true from start to finish.

There is nothing similar in this world, just as nothing is perfect. We have not yet come up with something that perfectly meets all requirements and standards. Then why all this talk, why constant talk and screams, arguments and quarrels?

I can philosophize for a long time and tediously on the topic of "ideal" men, but, despite the position of the owner of the article, I decided to include the opinions of other people in the dialogue. On the one hand, this is interesting, but on the other, it is a confirmation of what was previously written that the opportunity to discuss something and someone is a chance "not to have a boring time". So sit back and get ready to listen to the men who first responded to the request to introduce themselves as a woman and indicate what the ideal man should be like?

"I'll try to tell my vision of the ideal man from the perspective of a woman. So:

To love (this includes flowers (not only on holidays), carrying on hands, gifts, performing various quirks and whims, well, sex, probably more often - this is for advanced long-term couples or families, and so that immediately after it does not fall asleep, but talked a lot, about how good I am, gentle and affectionate, etc., etc.

Attentive attitude - after work to communicate with me and my family, not to spend the evening watching TV or computer, remember our important dates - like when we started dating, when we got married, when … and more - and made surprises for me.

3. To bring money into the house, which would be enough not only for pins and hairpins, but also at least for weekly shopping in boutiques.

So that he was not a bore, had a sense of humor, spoke interestingly and beautifully, but was not a chatterbox, was a sociable guy (but in any company so as not to forget about me), loved my parents (or at least respect them - I don’t demand the impossible), was an independent, developed interesting personality (although I will always correct those character traits that I do not like), listened (or at least pretended to) my opinion.

And, of course, that he drank and smoked in moderation (that is, a little with me). This is the main thing, we will decide everything else in the course of life. Well, here's something like that."

“It's really hard for me to say what image of the ideal man women paint for themselves. I'm 38 years old and I don't consider myself an old person or a person of old formations. I can only assume that it should be important for a woman that next to her is a real man, with whom it is reliable, easy, warm and she can always hide from all adversity behind his wide, or not very, back. Unfortunately, in society, values change and perhaps for someone these are mostly material benefits, but all this, in fact, is passing and, unfortunately, not from a good life, but love, decency, honesty are permanent categories. And it seems to me that this is what should be appreciated."

"The idea is this: maybe an ideal man for a single woman, and maybe one that is close to the ideal for the majority. Paradoxical as it sounds, he must be a woman or know what it means to be a woman - only in this case he will be able to do the most fully understand women - if there is a desire, of course."

Opinions, in my opinion, are different and there is something to think about and speculate about. Just do not rush to conclusions, because you have not yet learned the points of view of the ladies who agreed to answer the question: What should be the ideal man for you?

"So so! Probably, appearance is still not the main thing … so I will go straight to character … or behavior … For me, an ideal man is the type of Ratt Battler (" Gone with the Wind "), (or the heroes of Antonio Banderas), that is, the first first - a man! Sexuality should be felt, albeit hidden, but I should feel that when we are alone … Next, I should be gentle, but at the same time, so that you feel masculine strength both in actions and in conversations. one of us to be reasonable), with a good sense of humor - this is perhaps a must … You don't have to be a party-goer, but easy enough to get up on all sorts of walks, romantic evenings and other outings that are lovely to a woman's heart. to me, I am describing my own husband … And, of course, I must love me, but if it had not come to love, then see all of the above "…

The ideal man, in my interpretation:

1.smart

2.with a sense of humor

3.generous

4.determined

5. last and foremost: He must be a MAN !!!

And now about everything in order …

I do not consider myself a silly person, especially since I have two higher educations in various fields of activity (legal and acting). If I have time and no one is around, I spend it with a book. Friends consider me an intellectual, because curiosity is the main feature of my character … I hope it is clear that the man next to me should not lag behind me in his horizons and even be a little higher in order to be interesting to pull himself up.

I am a cheerful person, and for us to be always funny together, only my witticisms are not enough.

I don’t like stingy guys, but the main idea is still not about money. Generous for the time given to me, generous with beautiful words (even smart women love with their ears), generous with affection, kindness and care.

A man who does not know how to make decisions is not just not perfect, but simply NOT a man. Details further:

MAN - a person who is the opposite of a woman in terms of sex and function. He has to hammer in nails, he has to carry heavy loads, he has to say the last word, he has to be the OWNER. I will never tolerate a comrade next to me who needs to be managed, who needs to be led by the hand and who does not know what is important for him in life and what is secondary.

"I like to test men, choosing the most suitable candidate for my brutal appetite, and, therefore, ideal for me. Since I live in virtual space all my time, the casting takes place there. I can take off my stockings, faint and demand artificial respiration, I can dance flamengo and knock with castaneda, drink Martini and offer all individuals hiding under loud nicknames to drink for brotherhood. Naturally, while playing, I observe how a man will behave in different situations. self-confident types. So it turns out that my ideal man should be strong and dexterous, successful and wealthy, with the ability to formulate his thoughts verbally and have a decent supply of compliments, since a woman loves with her ears. He must have an aversion to pasta, as it makes me fat. To nurture great feelings for cats, because he will have to share our family bed with my mustachioed pet. Adore children (who simply must be born) and pamper them with all sorts of gifts, however, like their mother. To endure and respect my beloved girlfriend ICQ and our lovely hour chirping. Don't limit my freedom. Do not have the nerve to assert that there is no need to wear short skirts, since there are long ones. Give your mother-in-law with kindness and attention once a month. The main thing is to revere and adore such a miracle of miracles as me. Continue the list?"

I left my humble view on the topic of conversation for last. I have already told about my position on the question of "ideal" in general at the beginning. As for ideal men, I think they do not exist, if only because there are no ideal women. Naturally, I evaluate people when they meet, get to know each other, at work, in life, and there are many more options when you can pin a label on this or that person. To be honest, I don’t really like the word “tag” and I don’t like to hang this, but it’s easier to call the habit of appreciating people. Although often for shortcomings.

Just the other day I was asked: what should be the ideal man? On this simple question, I could not intelligibly answer, it turned out that it is not easy. Because in my attitude to people (men and women separately) there are certain criteria and certain general qualities that I like, but I do not want to endure them as an "ideal image", since a separately taken personality is a separate image.

In men (since we are talking about them), I have always appreciated two main features - decency and a sense of humor. The first determines a person's ability to focus on universal human values and principles of life, and the second - not to pay attention to the fact that life and universal human values and principles are often incompatible.