Male discrimination

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

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I have often observed the development of the divorce process in my life. About how sometimes the female half of humanity unattractively demonstrates their primordially humane attitude towards their neighbor, in the following lines.

When in the last grade my deskmate got married due to pregnancy, the entire teaching staff of the school was on their ears. I remember we handed in graduation, and she was in the maternity hospital waiting for the approaching date.

By the New Year, I met her in my area with a stroller and even then to the question: "How is family life going?" - She answered evasively: "In different ways." Then rumors spread that her life was bad and the reasons were in herself. Too early marriage, and even an unplanned child, began to oppress the newly-made spouse. For a year of living together, she managed to shift the responsibilities of a mother, a housekeeper, a cook, etc. onto her husband. At that moment, she herself did not climb the barricades of careerism, did not study further, but simply rested for her own pleasure. I personally often saw her in nightclubs, in bars with friends who were far from being a female tribe … I do not know for what reasons the newlyweds had to live another couple of years together, but at one point it all ended and it was rather scandalous. They've divorced.

The child, according to the standards accepted in modern reality, was not even considered as part of the father, who was almost deprived of parental rights by his wife. Our broken-hearted divorcee (I apologize in advance for the familiar syllable) sent the child to the care of the elder sister in the village, and she herself - now absolutely free - went on through life without burdening herself with unnecessary care.

Another variant of this order happened quite recently in the family of my friends. Two adults accepted a gentleman's agreement that they can no longer lead the way of life to which they are accustomed and are now becoming independent from each other. Only one controversial issue for a long time escalated the situation, naturally, it concerned children.

Unfortunately, it is generally accepted that children are exclusively legal, moral and physical property of the mother. And if civilized people extremely rarely resent the fact that fathers have the right of access to upbringing, both joint and private, then for some reason in our country there is a rare case when a mother agrees to divide her children in case of divorce, or at least give the exmus the opportunity to practice on an equal footing. native children. I exclude cases with alcoholic husbands and other dangerous personalities, just scum or irresponsible "eternal boys" in advance. I stand up for men who are discredited by their ex-spouses undeservedly, simply from the principle: I gave birth - he belongs to me, and you took part in the creation … thank you, free.

In the family of my friends, everything ended not very well according to the calculations of the spouse, but "more or less" is not offensive. He got the opportunity to see the guys as often as he wanted, but they stayed with their mother, although their father continued to support them.

Yes … yes … my dear, I know that age-old traditions have driven a woman to the cradle, stove and other attributes of the household. I know that a woman in the concept of a man is a mother and a housekeeper ("a mixture of a combine harvester with a vibrator," I once wrote myself).

I know that unfairly often we are discriminated against on the basis of gender in areas far from the comfort and warmth of the family hearth. But don't you think that we ourselves sometimes defend our power over what is given by nature, armed to the teeth with stereotypes, traditions and the same hated way of life, which in other conditions women consider from a different angle.

If a woman is given a territory limited by home and family, then a man occasionally appears on this territory, and often not only because he is appointed from above to "earn and provide", but because he has no other choice: somewhere you need to feed, have your own pillow, watch TV and make a constant friend of life, with which you can let some of your "couples" go.

I am jarred by the phrase "your children", pronounced by men in most families, but not the same position of women on "theirs!" child? Can you imagine that you, as a MOTHER, have a rival in power over your blood, dear, born child?

I don’t want to generalize, there are families that I admire, in such families, as a rule, no one dominates, there is no authoritative parent, there is no finding out who washed the diapers more and who read more fairy tales. A harmonious relationship is the foundation. It sounds hackneyed, but no need to beat me for banality, what is polished with feathers often conceals the truth, but we pass by without thinking about the meaning of such phrases.

I will never believe that a normal man, a normal father, does not want to take part in the upbringing of his children. Often mothers themselves remove their husbands from the opportunity to "participate." And then the scandalous finding out who brought in how much effort, drops of blood and sweat, and who watched football.

There are cases when the duties of the primordially "female" are tried on by men. Here I feel sorry for them and for them I am most offended by divorce. I have in my collection of life situations and such an example.

The guy works, runs home at lunchtime - washes diapers, cooks lunch, dinner in the evening. He drags the child to hospitals, according to specialists, buys food (his wife stopped breastfeeding so as not to spoil the appearance), like a draft horse, literally sleeps on the go. And after two years of cloudless life (he never reprimanded his beloved for anything), she files for divorce, leaves the child to her mother (who lives in another city), and she goes to work in Europe to make a career.

Then it turns out that it was a long-written scenario in which the main character was framed in full and pushed not even into the background, but only included in the episode. They included, however, in a frame, so that it would not be so offensive and as a hint of eternal, but already only memory.

And how many times have I heard that women non-theatrically terrorized the children of their faithful, how many times have I heard how they threw mud at the same children.

What did I want to say with all this? I was sprayed about what can be concluded in one capacious phrase, which my wise grandmother once uttered as parting words:

"Zhenya! Do not choose a husband with whom it will be good to make children. Choose the one with whom, first of all, it will be good to bring them up well !!!".