5 types of rude men

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2024-01-18 00:05

Some men in bed swear like shoemakers and even make their friend repeat "dirty" words. They prefer positions of power, avoid kissing and caressing. Why does it happen, how to live with it and can it be fixed?

Why are men rude in those moments when only tenderness is expected of them? One of the leading reasons, surprisingly, is the fullness of feelings. A man takes too much pleasure to remain impassive, and he was not taught to express his feelings correctly. In the first grade, out of an excess of emotions, he pulled the girls by the pigtails, by the age of thirty he had mastered Russian abusive and uses it without hesitation. Alternatively, he simply does not know other words for sex. Or he considers intimate relationships too indecent to use a different vocabulary. However, these are all flowers - in such situations, it is usually enough to say "it is unpleasant for me" to stop the abuse. It is much harder to build relationships with men for whom sex and swearing are inseparable, and often real aggression is mixed with a hellish cocktail. And there are more such types than it seems. Here are the most common ones.

1. Sadist "for life"

Not a fatal villain in black leather who waves a whip, and not even a brutal "bad boy" Jason Statham, but a vulgar Vasek "from the house", a domestic tyrant for whom a woman is simply not a man. For him, only one type of relationship is possible: suppress the weak and grovel in front of the strong, assert himself at the expense of his loved ones. Sometimes this is a consequence of a pathological character or mental illness, more often it is the product of family education, several generations of aggression and humiliation. Sexual abuse and violence is only part of the iceberg.

What to do with this? It is impossible to re-educate. If you really want to keep the relationship, you need to force the sadist to respect himself, that is, to squeeze into a narrow layer of people whom the homebrew macho considers his equal.

2. Sexual preference sadist

Dominant in bed, a person who

likes to suppress and rule, lover of bound women, handcuffs and lashes. At the same time, outside of bed he can be a decent, sane and even shy person - just his sexual addictions are weird. Even psychologists do not always guess the reasons for such a perversion.

What to do with this? Unfortunately, it is almost impossible to correct the sadist. But agreeing with him is easy. The fact is that the "gentlemen" discuss with their "slaves" all the details and details of what is permissible. And if you're willing to wear leather lingerie and undergo shibari, your partner is likely to agree to a number of your terms.

3. "Armored Knight"

A man with heightened defensive reactions, it is this type who avoids caresses and hugs for fear of showing weakness and becoming vulnerable. One of those boys who were taught that "men don't cry" and forced to "not act like a girl." With the likelihood behind his shoulders an unsuccessful marriage or an affair with a not very pleasant woman who brutally kicked the poor knight in the soft abdomen - which is why I had to put on armor.

What to do with this? The most grateful option in terms of fixing. It takes a long time to heal, it is tamed like a wild animal - only affection and trust, no rudeness, no sudden movements. But the effect can be simply amazing: from a biting, embittered creature, a loving, gentle and very sensitive man will turn out.

4. Traumatic

A man who takes revenge on women for past wrongs. A variant of a knight, but devoid of knightly nobility and, most likely, deserving those kicks with which he was awarded. He, like unloved or orphanage children, forms a vicious circle: the worse a man behaves, the worse he is treated, the more reasons he has for revenge. And swearing in bed is just a special case of anger at life in general and the fair sex in particular.

What to do with this? In his youth, he has a chance of "returning to people", after thirty tangle of obvious and fictitious grievances can be unraveled only by a highly qualified psychologist.

5. Narratophil

Narratophilia is a perversion in which a person is excited by obscene conversations. He just likes to swear himself and hear curses from gentle girlish lips.

What to do with this? Convincing a narratophile not to swear is like asking a cat not to meow. He still won't become a well-bred goody - it's easier to part … or taste dirty words. What if you like it too? The famous sexologist Ruth Dixon not in vain advised her frigid patients to begin treatment by uttering those swear words that seemed to the poor things the most obscene.

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