What is love for a man: we analyze

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Until now, we have talked about your feelings and how you need to communicate with a man. Today I propose to look at what is happening between a man and a woman from the perspective of the other side - after all, it is no secret that the same things are perceived and evaluated differently by a man and a woman.

So how does he feel? What's going on in his soul? How does he react to what you do? Admit it, it interests you a lot. Today we will try to look into the male soul and learn the first lessons. We will use my experience in advising men, the opinions expressed by them, observing their reactions in different situations and formulate conclusions that will help both of you to harmonize your relationship.

First lesson. He prefers to live for today

That is why often in the process of establishing mutual understanding, developing relationships, the initiative comes mainly from the woman. Men are dismissive of these “laces”: “They always complicate everything. I feel good with her, and she is trying to make a husband out of me. Why rush things so fast? Why doesn't she like the way things are going now?"

Men, as a rule, are in no hurry to analyze their feelings, just as they are not always interested in evaluating your feelings for themselves. Very often they are guided by the principle “Everything is good, and thank God”, that is, the development of feelings, building relationships are clearly not among their main concerns.

At the same time, a man may strive to see you quite often, communicate with you, feel your closeness, and have sex. However, instead of asking “Is this true love? Is there something on which to build a long-term relationship? Am I wasting my time? " a man says to himself: "We are good together, but whether it is love or not is the tenth thing." In other words, a man much more often lives in the present day and wants to have fun, and not bother with any useless "philosophy".

Output. This peculiarity of the perception of life is really worth learning from a man! And what a sin to conceal, we often try to solve the problem of our whole life at once. And then at the reception I hear such questions: "We have been meeting for three weeks, and I do not understand what is between us!" What difference does it make if everything is fine today? And tomorrow will be tomorrow.

Lesson two. He has no burning need to see you every day

And even when he is really in love with you - he just is so arranged.

And yet, in two cases, a man wants you to be always there and every day. First, when he is afraid of losing you. And then it doesn't matter whether he is offended at you, whether he is angry, whether he thinks you are guilty around, he still thinks: “I don’t want to lose her. She may not be right, but I will do as she wants. I will meet with her once again."

The second option is when you “do not give” yourself to him. You don't fly to him at the first call, sometimes you leave him earlier than he would like. You are busy and for this reason refuse to accept his invitation … In this sense, the words of my client are indicative: “Probably, I love Galya. Before, I didn’t know how to send the girls out on Sunday evening, and when Galya leaves me on Sunday morning, I so want her to stay, I’m trying my best to keep her.”

Output. Help him want to see you more often. Do not rush to him at night on demand. Agree, on an empty stomach, everything is much tastier than when you overeat.

Lesson three. And what is love for him?

This is not about what a man thinks when he says "I love you." It is possible that he uses these words for manipulation in order to achieve no matter what: desired sex, forgiveness for some mistake, or maybe so that you just don't leave him now …

We are interested in what constitutes the true, sincere love of a man. As a rule, it is based on three senses.

The first is the fear of losing you. But here you need to understand that in itself, apart from other feelings, it is not love. For some, it may be caused by fear of loneliness associated with self-doubt, or by materialistic considerations. To become love, it needs the support of the following two senses.

The second component of love is pity and a desire to take care of you.

A man will never tell himself that he loves you if he does not feel sorry for you. For a man, love is closely related to the desire to protect his beloved, to worry about her, to try in every possible way to make her life easier, to take care of her. If a man is just glad that he did something good to a woman, and he does not really need her thanks and praise, then he most likely loves her.

Here are the words of a man in love heard at the reception: “I am pleased to do a lot for her that I would never have done for anyone. I am so sad when she feels bad, and very good at heart when she is happy. When a man perceives the situation in this way, he is really ready to admit to himself that he loves you.

And finally, the third feeling underlying male love is admiration for you. It, however, is most clearly manifested at the initial stage of falling in love or in a situation of unrequited love. Sometimes a lack of admiration is not an indicator that love has passed: it can be associated with a bad mood, trouble, depression. But in such cases, the man does not admire other women either. That is, either you (your devotion, your understanding, beauty, charm, etc.), or no one.

It must be admitted that it is difficult to maintain a sense of admiration when you know each other "like flaky", with all the merits and demerits. But at this stage, it is replaced by tenderness and affection, and thus male love is still based on the "three whales."

Output. Don't let the man feel like he has conquered you once and for all. Even if you are very strong and independent, sometimes pretend to be weak and helpless. Or don't be afraid to show yourself like that - let him feel strong, realize his “defender complex”. Try to remain admirable, even if you've been together for a long time. Moreover, in this case, you should know better than others what exactly is capable of delighting your man.