What to do if there are no girlfriends

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Despite the widespread belief that there is no real female friendship, many girls still do not stop looking for it. We just need to know that there is a person of the same gender, to whom we can tell the most intimate secrets, with whom it is pleasant to discuss the past day, sometimes gossip about a bored colleague or go shopping together. Someone will say that the best friend should be a loved one. But, unfortunately, you can't talk to your husband about intimate female things, and sometimes we need this too.

Due to various circumstances, not all of us have a close friend. Someone loses touch, leaving for different cities and countries, others quarrel over a trifle and stop communicating altogether, and someone cannot find a soul mate who would understand perfectly. But in any case, everyone who experiences even the slightest discomfort from the absence of friends sooner or later asks questions: “What to do? Search on purpose or let everything take its course? And what to do when you so want to cry into your best friend's waistcoat, but she just doesn’t?”. Let's figure out what to do in a similar situation.

First, do not think that something is wrong with you

Many girls who don't have girlfriends think they are the problem. Of course, if in your life the situation has been repeated over and over again when you quarreled with loved ones and they said the same phrase to you, it is worth analyzing your manner of communication and behavior - perhaps you really offended your friends with something. However, if nothing like this happened to you, then do not think that people shy away from you like a leper. Girlfriends come and go - that's okay. Time will pass, and a person will appear in your environment who can understand you better than others.

Second, fill your life with a hobby

You will kill two birds with one stone: fill the time with pleasant and useful activities and get a great opportunity to get to know someone.

Surely there is something that you are extremely interested in doing. It's not just long conversations with a friend and shopping trips that can make a person happy. Buy a subscription to the fitness room, sign up for foreign language courses, attend master classes on scrapbooking, decoupage and other types of handmade art, since now their choice is quite large. Thus, you will kill two birds with one stone: fill the time with pleasant and useful activities and get a great opportunity to meet someone who shares your hobbies and may well become your best friend.

Third, do not hesitate

For many girls, shyness and inability to meet strangers become a serious barrier on the way to finding a real friend. We are afraid that our behavior will be seen as an imposition of our society, that we will be alienated. But just think - if a nice smiling girl talks to you in line at the clinic, you won't push her away and ask her to shut up. Of course, there is no guarantee that once you meet in line, you will become friends. But you definitely don't have a chance of friendship if you behave like a taciturn and arrogant person.

Fourth, don't make people too demanding

If you just enjoy communicating with a person, give him a chance.

“This one doesn’t know anything about cooking, and I love to cook so much. She considers shopping trips to be an empty activity, while I would "live" in shopping centers. And there’s nothing to talk about with this one, she doesn’t have a higher education like me”. With such thoughts, you risk never finding a girlfriend at all. It is important to understand that there are no people who fully and completely meet all your requirements. Someone will always look at life a little differently. But if you just enjoy communicating with a person, give him a chance. You should not look for flaws and reasons why it does not suit you. You are not perfect either.

Fifth, learn to be friends with yourself

People are drawn to someone who accepts himself completely and completely: with all the advantages and disadvantages. For someone to be interested with you, it is necessary that you yourself be interested in being alone. You should not shift the responsibility for filling your life with positive emotions and experiences on someone else, and even more so on your friends. First, learn to be friends with yourself, become interesting for yourself, and you will see that people will be drawn to you.