Not a reason to quarrel: how to give and receive gifts

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Giving gifts is no less pleasant than receiving. But in order for this process to bring mutual pleasure to the giver and the gifted one, several basic rules must be taken into account. Svetlana Bashmakova, a psychologist and personal development coach, tells how to choose and present a present, how to correctly accept what was handed to you.

How to choose a gift to get to the point

It is inappropriate to give something bought "for show": sincere joy is delivered by a gift chosen taking into account the desires of a particular person.

How to find out what the hero of the occasion wants?

1. Focus on the hobbies and interests of the birthday person. A reader will be pleased to receive an interesting book, an embroiderer - a set of threads, an athlete - a useful fitness device.

2. Ask your loved ones: in most cases they are aware of what the future recipient of the gift is dreaming of.

3. Explore social media profiles. Look at which communities the person is subscribed to and to which products he left comments in the style of "cool thing" and "I want this for myself."

4. Go shopping together. In the process, pay attention to what brands and products attract the attention of the future hero of the occasion.

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And of course, listen to what the birthday man himself says shortly before the holiday. Perhaps he, as it were, casually starts a conversation about some specific things.

Trick gifts

Now they often give just money. Should I do it? Look at the situation. But still, it is better to purchase a specific item or a package of services for this amount - for example, a certificate for a trip to a spa or a flight in a hot air balloon.

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Why? Because many people are used to deny themselves what they want. And if you donate money, then the amount received will be spent on some "more important" needs, and the dream will remain a dream.

You also need to be careful with expensive gifts. It is better to give them to the closest people, because not everyone is ready to accept and evaluate them correctly.

How to get the gifts you want

No one knows better than you what you want as a gift. Therefore, if you want to get something specific, do not hesitate to answer the truth to the question "what to give you?" With your answer, you will make it easier for the donor and you will finally get what you want.

If there is no certainty, then allow yourself to dream, and then make a wish list. Enter everything you want there: from little things, for which you usually feel sorry for money, to some pretty expensive things. Make the list available to others and update it periodically by crossing out what you have already presented.

Believe me, donors will be sincerely grateful to you for relieving them of the torment of choice.

How to take presents correctly

When you receive a gift, always give thanks. Here's how to do it right:

1. If the present is desired, thank for the act itself ("I am so pleased to receive gifts from you!..") and show how much you liked the gift itself ("this is what I dreamed about! It is so beautiful!..") …

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2. If you didn’t give exactly what you wanted, rejoice and thank you for your deed (“I am very pleased with your attention”).

It is recommended to open the gift immediately in the presence of the donor. The only exception is if you were asked to open the present later.

It is possible and even necessary to refuse a gift only in one case: if the present turned out to be inappropriate or even offensive. When explaining your refusal, be confident in your words and maintain your self-esteem. Accept all other gifts with gratitude, evaluating not their value, but the efforts and attention made by the person to you.