Vacation for two: how to relax and not quarrel

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

The vacation that we spend alone with our loved one seems like a real paradise. We imagine how we will enjoy each other's company every day: walking along the narrow streets of an unfamiliar city, wallowing on the beach, sightseeing and having romantic dinners on the seashore, ending with a glass of champagne and strawberries. But, unfortunately, a joint vacation is not always ideal. Expectations are not met, the lovers quarrel, and two completely strangers come home.

It would seem, what should a man and a woman share on vacation? Everyone, as a rule, stops at the hotel, and there is no dispute as to who will wash the dishes or take out the trash. There are also no annoying factors in the form of exhausting work and hopeless traffic jams. Just know to yourself that rest, swim in the sea, sunbathe and eat fruit are ideal conditions to breathe new life into a romantic relationship. However, even in these almost fabulous circumstances, lovers manage to find a million reasons for quarrels. And, unfortunately, these reasons are so serious that sometimes they lead to parting. If you are planning a joint vacation with your loved one, we advise you to take into account some of the nuances in advance in order to return from vacation satisfied and full of energy, and not disappointed and tired of constant scandals.

I want to lie on the beach, and he wants to go sightseeing

What is not a reason for clarifying the relationship? Very often, lovers quarrel over the fact that their ideas about the perfect vacation do not coincide. The girl hates long walks, and museums make her bored. She only dreams of exposing her body to the gentle rays of the sun and falling out of real life for several hours. And so every day. And the man, on the contrary, was sure that they would visit all excursions, visit all significant places and enrich themselves spiritually. As a result, neither one nor the other does not embody their plans, because they prefer to sort things out in a hotel room.

What to do?

It is necessary to discuss plans for the upcoming vacation in advance, find out how each of you envisions an ideal vacation, and try to come up with options for spending time together. Agree, it is better to prevent a quarrel than to spend precious vacation days on it.

He looks at other girls on the beach more often than at me

You can see that your man is clearly attracted to other girls in revealing bikinis, and you cannot contain your anger. You begin to take offense, shout, throw tantrums right on the beach and respond to all his attempts to somehow justify yourself with a new outburst of anger.

What to do?

First, to understand that there is a man next to you, and not a tame animal, and men tend to involuntarily follow the girl passing by. However, if the tragedy takes on a truly serious scale, and the beloved systematically looks at the slender neighbors on the beach, then it is worth talking to him. Just do not throw a tantrum out of the blue, do without scenes of jealousy and better calmly explain to him that this behavior hurts you. To consolidate the result, you can take an interested look at the tanned, pumped-up handsome men a couple of times - let him feel what it feels like.

“There is no way we can choose a place for dinner. We argue, we swear and in the end we stay in the room"

It is surprising, but the gastronomic preferences of partners can also become a reason for a quarrel. You are an adherent of European cuisine and even in Thailand you do not want to give up the usual pasta and Caesar salad, but he pulls you to local restaurants, offering you to try new exotic Thai dishes every evening. Mutual reproaches begin, no one is ready to make concessions, and the vacation becomes like a rigid diet that excludes dinner.

What to do?

Pull yourself together, calm down and understand that you still have to make concessions, unless you want to ruin precious days of rest. Offer your lover this alignment: you take turns choosing a place for dinner so that no one is offended. Today you go to a Thai cafe and eat Tom Yam soup, and tomorrow you go to an Italian restaurant and order a huge portion of lasagna. Everything is fair.

“I don’t like to limit myself in money while on vacation - that’s why he is on vacation. And my man is constantly saving"

Unfortunately, the earthly financial issue worries lovers even on a paradise vacation. Some people like to relax beautifully, allowing themselves to order the most expensive cocktail at the bar, while others do not see the difference between vacation and working days and believe that it is quite possible to get by with a budget beer. Plus, partners begin to quarrel over the fact that they cannot decide where and at what rate to change the currency, how much to take in cash, and what it is wiser to spend this cash on.

What to do?

You need to deal with money issues even before you get on the plane. It is necessary to choose a free evening before the vacation and in a calm atmosphere discuss with the chosen one what policy you will adhere to in relation to finances: will you indulge in some excesses or will you tighten your belts tighter. As for currency exchange and the amount of cash, then it is better to trust experienced travelers and study the information on the Internet. Surely you will find a lot of useful advice from those who have already visited the country you are just about to visit.