How not to quarrel with your husband

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

It would seem that any kind of clash with her husband is a phenomenon so unpredictable and uncontrollable that it is impossible to deduce at least some rules of behavior during a quarrel.

However, this opinion is erroneous, and we, women, should remember a number of taboos that in no case should be violated if we want to keep a strong family.

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Sometimes a quarrel breaks out from scratch, and after half an hour we no longer remember what all the fuss is about, but we continue to shout, beat dishes, slam doors and call our beloved man offensive words.

It is very difficult to control ourselves in such a state, it seems that the main goal of any dispute is to defend our point of view, and we are trying to do this in all available ways, while looking, to put it mildly, not attractive.

The next day, when the passions subside, we will begin to remember how we behaved horribly, how we insulted our loved one, but, unfortunately, we will not be able to correct the mistakes made. Some words spoken in the heat of a quarrel are remembered for a long time, and some actions literally leave traces - in the form of broken dishes, broken furniture and torn photographs. Of course, we justify ourselves that “he deserves it all, he is to blame”, but the reasons that led to the quarrel do not at all explain HOW we quarrel. Psychologists say that families do not fall apart because of the clashes themselves, but because of the way people behave during these clashes. Therefore, let's figure out what should not be done during quarrels with a loved one and what your man will not appreciate, but rather the opposite - he will start even stronger.

Get into a fight

Firstly, this is initially incorrect: your beloved is much stronger than you physically, and if, God forbid, he responds to your blow (even if by chance, for example, deciding to just push you away), then you will suffer.

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Secondly, those men who do not imagine it possible to raise a hand against a woman, as a rule, cannot stand such behavior on her part as well: they are not able to calm down a fighter with "forceful methods", but they also do not want to be a punching bag.

Walk away slamming the door

Another of our female favorite "trick", which can not be tolerated by most of the stronger sex. We defiantly leave the room or apartment, go outside to take a breath, breathe and calm down, and they sit within four walls, replay the scandal that just happened in their heads and, on top of that, worry about us. Do I need to explain why men don't like it when we literally run away from conflict?

Humiliate

During a scandal, we are tempted to say something offensive: to express doubt about his mental abilities, to hurt his family and, worst of all, to laugh at the sexual capabilities of our beloved.

If you practice such humiliation, then you can decide in advance what property you want to keep for yourself after a divorce. Men hate to be humiliated, and they will never stay next to such a woman.

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Reprimand

An instructive teacher's tone is good with children, but certainly not with an adult independent representative of the stronger sex. This is a more sophisticated and veiled form of humiliation: “I'm not telling you anything offensive. But what I say, I will present it with an intonation that will make you doubt yourself and your abilities."

Be hysterical

Men hate it when women turn into shrill shrieks. Being always gentle and airy, in the heat of a quarrel we suddenly change not for the better: our face turns red, our eyes go crazy, and our voice resembles the hysterical laughter of a witch from the worst horror movie. Do you really want your man to see you in such an unattractive light?

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To break dishes

Of course, our betrothed themselves sometimes sin by breaking doors, stools, tables and other interior items, but they do not welcome the beating of plates so beloved by women. And here everything is simple: in the opinion of men, this is extremely unreasonable - then you will have to buy new dishes, which means spending money. Of course, this is not the only reason, and the point is, most likely, that by throwing cups and bouillon dishes at our spouse, we again behave like hysterics, but a version of a reasonable approach to the family budget also has a place to be.