Is money your masters or friends?

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

Think about how you felt the last time you had trouble with money. Perhaps you felt depressed, even flawed. You didn’t just want to, but hesitated to go to an expensive clothing or furniture store. You asked yourself: "Is all this for me? Do I correspond to the material level to which this store is oriented? Will the sellers look at me askance, will they think that I am idly staggering without money?"

You probably even thought that it would always be like this, that you are not the person to whom money sticks to, that there will not be enough money for everyone, and that it will not be enough for you. Stop! How could you even let these colorful pieces of paper take over? It turns out that with them you are smart, beautiful, interesting, and without them you are at once stupid, stupid and not of interest to those around you? Not yourself, but money becomes the masters of your life, they manipulate your character and behavior. Money appears as a living substance with which you have a difficult relationship. A man left you - you cry, money left you - and you cry too. So, you call the loss of a loved one and the loss of a wallet a grief? Isn't the blouse you couldn't buy equal to the emptiness in your soul from the feeling of loneliness? At the moment I'm not talking about a huge amount of money, the absence of which threatens poverty, but small "sums" that we gain and lose thousands of times in our lives.

I am not going, following the psychologists who conduct the trainings, to urge you to repeat a hundred times every day: "I attract money! Money, come to me! I am rich!" - although, perhaps, there is something in this. I will just try to offer you an alternative in dealing with money, replacing the type of relationship "money - my masters" with "money - my friends."

Perhaps you have long been living according to the principles that will be outlined below in the article. Then I am sincerely happy for you! Share your knowledge with your friends!

1) do not be afraid to spend money on "trifles", on small pleasures, and there is no need to feel guilty when instead of the "necessary" thing you buy something not very important, but very pleasant! For example, you went to the store to buy a set of kitchen knives, but instead of the household department, for some reason, you wrapped it in a perfumery department. And she herself did not notice how quickly I bought a soft lilac nail polish, mascara with a curling brush and a roll-on deodorant. There was not enough money for a set of knives, and you tortured yourself with remorse. Take it easy, because this is not the last money in your life! Buy one knife today and get the set another time. Moreover, the new nail polish really looks cool! However, if you have come to the store for the fifth time and instead of a set of knives you have bought lilac varnish - this advice is not for you.

2) do not hesitate to defend your money when you are weighed, cheated, given less than you need, etc. Do not be ashamed to show how important your hard-earned money is to you. The other day, after putting the change in my wallet and already leaving the video salon, I realized that the sales girl hadn't given me 15 rubles. I could have kept silent, but nevertheless I came back and asked her if the change was counted correctly - and the girl immediately rushed to give me the missing money, because, it turns out, she thought that I had taken not two, but three cassettes. A trifle, but nice.

3) it is not necessary to prepare for the worst all the time, to postpone it "for a rainy day." Why do we need these bags of potatoes, sugar, flour, when you can go to the store at any time and buy everything? This has been going on since Soviet times, but now everything is different: there is no shortage, huge queues, and the next day the counters will not be empty, and prices do not jump as soon as you leave the store.

4) don't keep trash at home: old clothes, clothes, glasses, watches, hoping that someday you will need a screw from glasses or an old-fashioned jacket. You need to tune yourself not to the fact that in 10-20 years some old clothes will come in handy for you, but that you WILL ALWAYS BE ABLE TO BUY YOURSELF A NEW THING. There is no need to prepare in advance for poverty. It is better to take the clothes out of your closet that you will never wear, but it is a pity to throw them away - "after all, it's almost new, I just put it on twice." Find out the phone number of an organization that accepts items for orphanages (for example, by calling the family committee), and take everything there. Your too narrow, too wide and too short skirts, trousers, blouses and shoes will be gladly worn by teenage girls who do not have not only parents, but also good clothes and shoes. Plus your closet will be half empty - a good reason to fill it up with new things!

5) look like a DEAR woman. Cheap clothes, especially those bought from the market, are a constant stress. Firstly, you will often meet women wearing the same skirt or jacket as yours, secondly, cheap clothes deteriorate faster, and, thirdly and most importantly, in cheap clothes you will feel yourself not a gorgeous, self-confident woman, but a girl from a poor family who only dreams of getting a rich husband. Let you have not five or six, but two blouses, not three or four, but two skirts, not many, but only one pair of shoes for the summer. Nobody will know about this. But the quality, style, and, ultimately, the price of your clothes bought in a fashion store will be visible a mile away. After all, you don't mind being treated like a dear woman in all respects, do you?

6) participate in lotteries and contests! You probably have friends or acquaintances of acquaintances who once won something somewhere. But you do not believe in the possibility of winning for yourself and almost never participate in quizzes and contests. In vain! Who does not take risks, he does not drink champagne! I know a schoolgirl who competed for the best name for a convenience store chain. By the way, these stores already had an emblem - two cherries connected by stalks. And so the girl took it and wrote simply: "Cherries". It turns out that no one except her thought of this! She received a prize - a computer of the latest model. Well, what is not a reason not to throw away from today, but to start sending wrappers from bouillon cubes to the address indicated in the advertisement? But what if?!

7) when money is really needed, it appears. Suddenly, a loved one fell ill, and now you are borrowing money from friends, finding a part-time job, urgently selling an old refrigerator, which has been idle for a whole year (a new one was bought instead), and it was just too lazy to advertise the sale in the newspaper. You develop a vigorous activity - and you get money! And when everything in life is quiet, there is little money, but it seems to be enough for existence, you only complain about the difficult fate. Or maybe, in fact, you do not need a lot of money, since you are content with little and do not take a single step towards money?..

So, treat money lightly, but at the same time, do not hesitate to stand up for it, do not get ready for "dark days", otherwise they will really come, do not keep unnecessary things, share with others, always look like a million, participate in contests and lotteries, be active about money, make friends with money, and such friends will not want to leave you!