Answers from Sveta. How to choose a vibrator?

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

This question arose in a woman's head for the first time, according to scientists, about 10,000 years ago. The first dildos were found in the excavations of Ancient Egypt. Those who have been to Italy on a tour of the ruins of Pompeii have seen the ruins of a brothel from the era of Ancient Rome. Colored frescoes are well preserved on the walls of this institution. Among other images reflecting the joys of warriors with priestesses of love (it's funny that on the frescoes men wear helmets and swords on their belts even during intercourse), there are scenes where women play with dildos.

Once upon a time, such images shocked people trapped in the grip of Soviet morality. For most of the inhabitants of the USSR, it was a revelation that there are people in the world who classify sex as an art that brings joy, and do not consider this joy shameful.

Today we are witnessing the "reverse swing of the pendulum". Intimate relationships are put on public display and discussion. But in this stream of frank information, there is little reliable information that helps women maintain and develop their sensuality. Hypocrisy and notoriousness are leaving society. But a respectful attitude towards such a delicate and fragile sphere as female sexuality is poorly formed. Therefore, they have not yet found a worthy place in the intimate life of Russians "toys for love" - as the famous Russian sexologist and psychotherapist, candidate of medical sciences, professor of the Institute of Psychoanalysis Alexander Poleev calls devices for sexual pleasures.

- “How many“Intim”stores have become - I hear from both my clients and friends. I am of the opposite opinion: there are too few of them.

There are about 20 sex shops in Moscow, in total there are about 1,000 in Russia. But in Berlin, which is three times smaller than our capital, there are more than 100 of them, in Germany - more than 3,000! Even in Great Britain, which cannot be counted among the sexually active countries, there are 2,500 of them - with a population three times less than in Russia.

In the West, for a long time - with the help of sexologists - they realized that "toys" that can be purchased only in these stores are needed by many people. Of course, not everyone! You should not impose these items on those who function remarkably well in sex and without them.

According to statistics, in our country only 4% of women have dildos and vibrators. In Germany - 66%, in the USA - 60%, in the UK - 43%. Such a high demand for this "product" is not an accident and not a tribute to fashion. The thing is that many of the fair sex, experiencing sexual attraction, do not experience the pleasure of the most intimate intimacy and do not reach its peak - orgasm. The first disorder in our science is called "dull genital syndrome", the second - vaginal anorgasmia. By the age of 30, between 33% and 35% of women suffer from a lack of vaginal discharge, and the likelihood of having an orgasm after reaching this age without special treatment is extremely low.

People who are not well versed in sexology believe that women who do not experience orgasm are frigid or do not enjoy their intimate life. In fact, this is not the case. Few of them experience intense sexual attraction and do not enjoy intimacy. Most non-orgasmic women experience sexual attraction, and the sexual intercourse itself gives them pleasure, but they do not achieve relaxation. As a rule, in such cases, both the family and some significant relationships fall apart, because we, men, do not like non-orgasmic women, or, at least, do not trust them.

So, most women suffering from anorgasmia or lack of pleasure in intimacy, resort to using vibrators and dildos to improve sensitivity or to achieve orgasmic release.

These "tools", with all their today's imperfections, at least improve the sensitivity of the vaginal tube, and sometimes help to achieve orgasm - first with a vibrator, and then with a partner. The essence of the process is that under the action of a vibrator, there is an increase in metabolism in receptors - nerve endings, which are "responsible" for enjoying sex. A woman can work with a vibrator for as long as she wants, much longer than a man is capable of doing, can do it at the most convenient time for herself, can control a vibrator to a greater extent than a partner.

For those women who decide to use a vibrator, sexologist Poleev advises not to save. Because it is possible to choose a suitable “instrument for preserving and developing sensuality” only by the selection method.

The degree of softness, size, exposure parameters (there are some that excite the clitoris before the introduction) are different for all products.

After trying one vibrator and feeling that something does not suit you, buy another. And so on until you find what suits you.

Do you use "sex toys"?

	Yes.
	No, but I would like to.
	No, and never will!

An important question: is it necessary to inform your man (if you have one) that you are using a vibrator? Dr. Poleev believes that it is not worth doing this. While there are men who enjoy watching their woman amuse themselves, most still feel uncomfortable at the thought of being "replaced by a mechanism." But if your secret somehow floated out, try to explain to your man that he is dear to you and completely satisfies, and the "toy" only helps to "pick up the frequency" and plays the role of a massager, nothing more.

Well, do not forget yourself that no "toys for sex" will give you the most valuable thing that a man and a woman can give each other - love, tenderness and joy of human communication.

I wish you happiness! Now you know how to choose a vibrator.

Svetlana Kleo-Kulikova