One time love

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

"I am looking for a girl without complexes for spending time together and amorous pleasures, financially secure and without serious intentions. The desire to make all my immodest desires come true is a must. Do not offer marriage."

To be or not to be …

As the people say: "Both laughter and sin." Now you can run into such an immodest offer, anywhere: by opening a newspaper or magazine, on the Internet on a dating site, and even hear in person. You can boil: "How can you! I'm not like that!" But is it?

In fact, we women very often fall for the trap of a romantic hero, under whose cover a cunning deceiver is hiding, ready to drag us into his nets and use in the most prosaic sense of the word. Agree, being a victim of such a subject is a dubious pleasure, therefore, as we already wrote on Cleo, it is often women who initiate relationships without obligations. Maybe you are not satisfied with a constant partner, or you do not have one at all, you wanted to experience thrills, take revenge on your husband, or simply because you need to try everything in life. Either way, it's your choice.

You owe nothing to anyone, and nothing is demanded of you. You just want sex, and you know what you're going for. Well, if you are only a pawn in this game, what to do then?

Who is he, my insidious tempter?

With regard to this situation, men can be divided into several types.

Seducer.

A bunch of letters, postcards, SMS and high words, stunning comparisons with various muses and goddesses. Stories about how Cupid pierced his heart with a burning arrow, a mountain of compliments (even if far-fetched - a trifle, but nice), promises of those very romantic evenings and unforgettable nights. And how many times do we not tell ourselves that this is all a snag, zilch, fiction, but this is apparently how a woman's heart is arranged …

Male friend.

A comforter and protector who lends his courageous shoulder when you need it. Such a man is a pleasant companion and listener who can endlessly listen to your spiritual outpourings.

He always wants to be a superman, therefore, without hesitation, he creates minor difficulties for you in life, so that, having solved them, he will receive you as a gift.

Intellectual.

A man - an intellectual (or depicting one) will talk about the most interesting books, people, travels and so on until the morning. You have already melted and you think: "Lord, I finally found an interesting, kind and sweet person who is interested in my work, hobby, my mind and talent, and not just sex, sex, sex." But it was not there. After discussing the Martians and the terrorism situation, he will get down to business anyway.

Fanatic.

This man is very purposeful towards his goal, believing that all means are good. It can combine all the previous types, but it never hides its true goal - the desire for one-time sex. Its principles are: "I came, I saw, I conquered." There is one huge plus in relations with such men: you do not expect anything from him except sex and you perfectly understand that your relationship is a one-night stand. And consequently, the next morning you will not experience a wild resentment when you see that you woke up alone, and there is not even a note with a phone number on the table.

However, with almost all of the listed men, you can extend your sexual acquaintance. Of course, with mutual consent.

Curiosity is not a vice?

The strong half of humanity is much easier to understand. In 80% of cases, they want sex for sex. In addition, men have it in their blood: the instinct of the conqueror does its job. And for many, such sex is generally a kind of entertainment, a hobby. It is believed that such "collectors" are very inventive in bed.

Well, what makes us women go for it?

Even many men who practice one-night-stand constantly admit that they cannot understand the motives of women.

They sincerely believe: a woman, in order to get a thrill from sex, needs to relax, but it is very difficult to do this with a half-familiar person. But let's face the facts: since the so-called one-day love occurs in most cases in men after all, with women, then we need it for some reason.

You know, most of the women I asked the question "One night stand is good or bad?" answered: "It depends with whom" - and this already says a lot.

Imagine a case: a corporate party, no one is at home, my husband went on a business trip, and you feel so good! After drinking Shapmannsky with colleagues, Igor from the finance department seems to be the god of sexuality. And the forbidden fruit is so sweet … Many will disgust this, but it is not in vain that they say: "Do not renounce."

So one of the reasons why women go for "it" is just alcohol. But what about the rest? The answer is trivial: curiosity. Men are so different! And even the most faithful wife is ever tempted to try with another …

Pleasure = Disappointment?

Before deciding on something like that, think carefully and weigh all the pros and cons. Is this what you want? Remember: in order to wake up in the morning with this person in the same bed (or, even more so, without him), you need a certain moral preparation.

You need to convince yourself that there will be no continuation and cannot be. Even if you were sure in the evening that you didn’t care if he called later or not, everything could change. And if you even have the slightest doubt whether this will be just sex for you, think again.

Of course, you should also consider whether you have anything to lose. Such a casual relationship can be the collapse of a longer relationship; may affect work if it happened to a colleague; break a friendship …

I do not urge you to rush into the pool with your head. But if you are still a supporter of one-time love, then you must understand what consequences to expect. The most important advice is not to build castles in the air, so that in the morning your dreams do not burst like a soap bubble. One-day sex is created just for pleasure, nothing more.