New Year: Change, He Will Appreciate

2024 Author: James Gerald | [email protected]. Last modified: 2023-12-17 14:00

What does everyone generally expect from the New Year? Of course, change! Your man is probably no exception. If this year has passed with you under the sign of endless quarrels and clarification of relations, it's time to get down to business and take a step towards a calm and peaceful coexistence in love and harmony. Where to begin? With yourself! To eradicate the worst female habits and stop stepping on the same rake is not an easy task, but the finale is amazing - he will definitely appreciate it!

By and large, men in their chosen ones are annoyed by the same traits. Problems begin from the very moment when a woman, recklessly losing her emotional lightness, the ability to enjoy life and love herself, turns into a sister, mother, friend - someone with whom representatives of the opposite sex, in principle, cannot have a love relationship.

Don't demand

You made a terrible mistake, once deciding that if you are now a couple, he a priori owes you something: give compliments, drive to restaurants, give expensive gifts and be an irrepressible sex giant. The list goes on and on - everyone has different wishes. Has he listened to them before? Be honest. And did you require it? Or were these actions his personal will? Explaining how he behaves now can only be as follows: he either never did what you want from him now (and it was with such a person that you wanted to build a relationship), or you became different, and he plays by your rules more does not burn with desire. Stop demanding, work on yourself and your inner world - it is possible that soon your preferences will become as important for him as his own.

Relax

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It won't be easy, of course, but the first thing you should do when you embark on the path of correction is to stop controlling your man. Bury your habit of keeping track of whether he exceeds the speed limit, whether he paid the rent, and whether he congratulated mom on her birthday. Not only is control annoying and humiliating, turning him into a little helpless boy, it is also a safe bet to become a “mommy” for him and start your joint journey to “nowhere”. You will be surprised, but a man can even be entrusted with children and at the same time not call him with an enviable frequency in order to make sure that they are still alive and well. Give the reins of power to strong male hands - it is convenient and very pleasant. One has only to try, get used to the new order in your couple, and you will never want to return to the old way of life.

Enjoy life!

Unfortunately, it often happens that after several years of relationship, a woman discovers that she has completely dissolved in a man. He became the meaning of her life, girlfriends and girlfriends disappeared from her environment, her favorite hobby was abandoned, and she had forgotten to think about self-development a long time ago. The picture is, to put it mildly, sad. The most offensive to such women becomes when the one for whom they abandoned everything at one time turns around and leaves for another. How so? It's simple - a man will never appreciate your sacrifice. This is the worst you can offer him. So what does he want? The correct answer is to see next to a versatile, whole, independent (at least emotionally), constantly evolving personality who knows how to enjoy life and be happy even when he is not there. The paradox is that the more sincere pleasure you experience from solitary pastime and self-discovery, the more men will be drawn to you. Be positive and love yourself - your man will not be in debt.

Get rid of responsibility

It just so happened in Russia that the Russian "woman", she is - and will stop a horse at a gallop, and enter a burning hut, and earn money, and even make repairs herself. Of course, there are women who like emancipation, and feminism is the key ideology of their life, nevertheless, their overwhelming majority from year to year sadly complain that a real man is a rare "beast" in our area. However, they do not think that they themselves do not leave him space to demonstrate his truly masculine qualities. It is time for women to stop “pulling the blanket over themselves” until men, as a species, are completely extinct. The plan to save them can be put into action already on the eve of the New Year. Allow yourself not to worry about the material support of the family, stop alone to solve the problems of generations and raise children - trust his partner, let me take on him a responsibility, lighten your female shoulders and very soon you will see a man with a strengthened spirit and self-confidence next to you.

Stop criticizing

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It's funny, but sometimes women really think that they are better versed in issues that from time immemorial have been in a purely male area of responsibility. It's funny to watch a woman criticizing her husband for overtaking or “wrongly” parking the car when she herself hasn't been driving for a minute in her life."Forward-looking" wives also love to be clever when it finally comes to renovating, rearranging furniture in the apartment or fixing something. Few of them think about the fact that, by “sawing” a man to the point of losing his pulse, constantly criticizing and condemning his actions, they thereby not only endanger the entire “operation”, but also risk discouraging the “owner” from any desire to solve family problems. problems in the next five or even ten years. Are you embarrassed that a man can really do something wrong and this will entail time and financial costs? Do not deprive of him of the right to make mistakes - having done everything exactly as he wants, and having stumbled, he will also only ask himself. Believe me, a couple of such lessons, and you will not recognize your chosen one - he will become much more circumspect in his actions, and there will be no trace of his irresponsibility.

Don't be a "mom"!

“Are you going to wear a hat? It's cold there! "," Did you have some medicine? " How unkempt you are! "," Take your time! I'll go to the store myself! You are probably tired!" - how often we hear similar phrases from women addressed to men, and the former have no doubt that in this way they show concern for the head of the family. It seems to them that they are trying for the good of the family, protecting and relieving the extra burden from its breadwinner and breadwinner. But this is far from the main female function, and the man is old enough to be able to take care of himself. The phase of his life in which he unconditionally accepted care - childhood - was far in the past, and his mother, in the time allotted to her, fulfilled the duty of ensuring his safety and comfort. First, the "return" to childhood greatly inhibits any development of a man: mental, emotional, career, and finally. Do you want him to remain a child, and his ambitions have never been realized? Secondly, the role of “mother” is dangerous also by the fact that over time, intimacy can forever leave the walls of your bedroom, no matter how cozy it may be, because feeling physical attraction to your mother is already a serious pathology.

Become a muse

The muse is mainly concerned with what inspires the creator, whose role, as you might have guessed, in this "performance" is played by the beloved man.

And now we come to the most important thing - to what will be emphasized in the new year. What should you become for your beloved? Muse! The work is painstaking, not easy! The muse is mainly concerned with what inspires the creator, whose role, as you might have guessed, in this "performance" is played by the beloved man. What is this mysterious muse? And what should I do to move the “master” to great achievements? First of all, love yourself - your body and soul. She does not expect compliments, but makes them to herself. He does not skimp on gifts to his beloved and does not feel painful remorse when returning home with a dozen packages after another shopping. She likes to surround herself with beautiful things, and returning home with a bouquet of flowers is a common thing for her. The muse is rarely lonely, she knows how to live interestingly and knows where to draw inspiration, which she generously shares with loved ones. Reading, music, theaters, museums, exhibitions, meeting friends - these are just a small part of what gives her joy, and she has a very wide range of interests. The muse is in a state of constant growth and self-development, so she is not bored, and she can overcome love melancholy, even when her beloved is far away. Such a woman does not "cling" to a man, because her spiritual world is self-sufficient, due to which she knows how to be happy and single.

In the new year

You are lucky to be born a woman, you are flexible and malleable, in a sense weak, but you have an incredible ability to influence everything and everyone around. Wisdom and cunning are your best friends, and your name is Inspirer. But do not stop there, because the female potential is limitless. Eliminate shortcomings and get rid of bad habits, in the coming year, give your loved one a new self, and you will be surprised at how your chosen one will be transformed. In the new year, he will appreciate your reincarnation, and then he will appreciate you for the rest of his life, which is what we wish you!